How I stopped my internal dialogue. How to stop internal dialogue? Taoist Method of Connecting Three Minds
Thus, internal dialogue is a mechanism for maintaining projections. A continuous process of reminding ourselves of which nail, which projection we have hung on. And when someone tells us that our projection here is wrong, we get scared and begin to defend ourselves, with all our might - even to the point of bloodshed - proving that it is THIS projection and no other that should hang on this cloud. Maya, the world of illusions, is the creation of internal dialogue.
Let's take the mechanism of supplying the body with oxygen - breath. The system works properly without any participation of our consciousness. The child is not taught to “breathe” - he breathes instinctively. Most people never have to ask questions about how they breathe in their entire lives. The need for oxygen increases - breathing becomes more frequent. The need drops - breathing becomes even again. Everything is simple and everything works on its own.
However, sometimes breathing still fails. This usually happens in stressful situations when a person is in danger - physical or psychological. And here two opposite reactions are possible - holding your breath, leading to fainting, or, conversely, rapid breathing associated with a panic type of reaction, also leading to a disruption in the functioning of consciousness.
There is probably a logic to both types of reactions. The animal, unable to escape or resist the predator, hides and freezes. Complete silence and stillness are the last chance for survival. Accordingly, breathing at this moment is also subordinated to the task of survival - it should be as quiet and unnoticeable as possible, even to the detriment of the body’s current needs for oxygen.
On the other hand, a panic reaction dictates completely different behavior. Breathing quickens, oversaturating the body with oxygen, which, apparently, is required to escape or physically fight back the attacker. Here too, clarity of consciousness is sacrificed to the more important task of survival.
Normally, such defensive reactions in humans occur very rarely - in situations that are truly extreme for the body or psyche. Getting the average person to faint or panic is very, very difficult. But imagine a weak, nervous and extremely timid person who faints even from an unexpected loud sound or panics at the sight of a spider on the floor.
It is obvious that in this case the body’s protective reactions do not correspond to the level of real danger. And even more than that, these excessive reactions themselves become a great danger. You can faint on the stairs and break your neck, and in a panic attack you can chop off your leg while trying to kill a spider with an ax. And from this point of view, we understand that the self-regulating respiratory system, which until now has not required any conscious intervention, in some special cases still requires additional control.
A person in a fainting state needs more oxygen and is taken to fresh air. A person in a panic is allowed to breathe into a paper bag in order, on the contrary, to reduce the oxygen content in the blood. Simple logical actions aimed at aligning breathing and returning a person to consciousness.
If we are talking about the example of a sick person who gets scared very easily and loses his internal balance, then his respiratory system will work in critical mode almost constantly, and this in turn will further cloud his consciousness and make him even more vulnerable and unbalanced. Thus, he will be in a hazy, semi-fainting state almost all the time. And such a person should probably learn to control his breathing... in addition, of course, to dealing with his general vulnerability and instability.
And from here we can draw an obvious parallel with internal dialogue, which is also essentially a natural instinctive mental process, but which, like breathing, can enter a critical mode of operation, leading to clouding of the mind.
And now the most important thing. In a breathing situation, we extremely rarely see a person fainting from clapping their hands or falling into real panic at the sight of insects. Serious disturbances in breathing occur infrequently and, as a rule, are still associated with truly life-threatening situations. Therefore, there is no global problem here that deserves special attention.
But in the case of internal dialogue, the situation is completely different - here we can extremely rarely meet a person who is not in a semi-fainting state all the time! Average person spends most of his life in a state of heightened psychological threat, and in response to this, his internal dialogue always works in critical mode.
Physically dangerous situations there is very little in our modern life. With the modern development of hygiene and medicine, there are also very few physically sick people. But the psychological danger is real! — awaits us at every corner. Almost all people spend their lives in constant fear and worry about themselves. And psychologically healthy people, in the absence of any mental hygiene in our modern society, is also very, very small. This means that for almost everyone around, the internal dialogue does not work in a mode that could be called normal, natural, and completely without noticing it, most people live their lives in a permanent semi-fainting state. Constant intoxication and confusion are accepted as a universal human norm.
And it is precisely this agitated, painful, self-obsessed internal dialogue that needs to be “stopped.” It is impossible to shout over the internal TV turned on at full volume, and without this it will be impossible to approach the causes of psychological imbalance, not to mention one way or another to recover from this imbalance and vulnerability.
And yet this does not imply a complete “stopping of breathing.” At least at the stage of psychological work, a fairly simple and understandable skill is required to regulate internal dialogue and the ability to consciously resist one’s mental attacks of panic. First of all, you need to learn to stop bursts of mental activity that are senseless and unjustified from a practical point of view. In other words, you need to learn to turn off your psychological defenses in situations where in reality there is no threat to mental survival, but there is only a threat of the collapse of your illusions. Because illusions are a disease, and their destruction is a cure. Painful, bitter, disgusting, but medicine.
Recognizing the problem is the first step to solving it
Recognizing internal dialogue. As with everything in life, right asked question contains half the answer. The problem with internal dialogue is that no one identifies it as an independent mental process and does not see its stupefying influence.
On average, it seems to a person that he “thinks” in this way - he thinks about the situation, looks for a solution. But internal dialogue and thinking are completely separate processes.
A person with a bad back is forced to limit his movement in order to avoid pain. He does not carry weights, tries not to bend over, and can only sleep in one position. But since he sees many other people with healthy backs, he is well aware that his bad back is not the norm, but a problem, an illness that limits his freedom. He realizes the painfulness of his condition, and therefore it is completely natural for him to seek a solution to this problem - healing. Whether there is such a solution or not is a separate conversation, but what is important now is that awareness of the problem is the first and necessary stage in solving it.
If everyone around him walked crookedly, our patient would have much less chance of recognizing his condition as abnormal. He would not be able to identify his illness as a disease, which means he would not have the question of how to cure it. And where there is no question, there is no solution.
The problem with blinding internal dialogue is precisely this - practically no one identifies it as a neurotic symptom, as a manifestation of their mental illness. Everyone around is constantly talking to themselves and even the interlocutor is chosen so that he is a grateful and comfortable listener to their inner outpourings. Best conversationalist someone who can fit in and support the internal dialogue of another person. Carnegie wrote exactly about this: if you want to please a person, support him where he needs it most - in his internal dialogue, in his attempt to deceive himself, calm him down and forget. A great starting point for friendship and love.
So, before we talk about stopping the internal dialogue, you need to recognize it as your internal crookedness, and stop confusing its work with constructive thinking and recognize in it the process of continuous self-justification and self-intoxication.
Only after this can a question arise inside and a real interest in how to stop this mess. Alcoholics Anonymous is not stupid. The first and main step to solving a problem is recognizing the existence of this problem. And the problem of internal dialogue differs from alcoholism only in that permanent psychological intoxication is universally considered a norm that does not require any intervention. So the first task - realize your internal dialogue as a separate independent, and see what function it performs in our inner life. The big difficulty here is that internal dialogue is carefully disguised as thinking. When talking to himself, a person believes that in this way he is thinking about the situation and looking for a way out of it. But upon closer examination, it turns out that most of the time he is busy with something else - he is not looking for a solution to some practical problem, which he faced, but the opportunity to get out of the situation with the least psychological losses.
A child who breaks a vase is not looking for a way to correct the mistake and compensate for the damage - he is looking for an excuse for himself and comes up with stories in which he would not be to blame for what happened. His entire mental apparatus is focused on finding exactly this solution - how to get away with it. But even this internal search does not take place constructively, but in a panicked, fussy mode, so it turns out to be very difficult to concoct even a high-quality convincing lie.
This tendency to frantically look for an excuse for oneself and to replace this search with a real solution to the problem should be discovered and identified first of all. It must be seen with complete clarity that most of the time the mind is not concerned with how to cope with the practical tasks of life, but with how to get away with it. Ensuring the safety of ideas about oneself is what the head is constantly occupied with. And thousands of kilocalories, which would be enough to correct the mistake, are spent on proving to oneself one’s innocence and innocence, avoiding responsibility, and avoiding admitting the bitter truth about oneself.
Once this mechanism is discovered and identified, half the battle is already done - all that remains is to eradicate the habit that has been formed over years and decades.
From a technical point of view, tracking down internal dialogue is not that difficult a task. Here it is important to discover two extremes - a state of relative internal silence, when the mind is not busy solving the problem of psychological survival, and a state of cloudiness, when the same questions and answers are obsessively scrolling through the head, in search of a painless way out of the situation.
The first condition happens to everyone. Some people have it more often, some less often, but you can still usually find it in your life. A characteristic feature of this state is inner silence and peace. This is an uncolored state of balance in which there is no particular contentment or dissatisfaction with oneself or the environment. Not joy and not sadness, not apathy and not inactivity, not stupor and not blackout - a calm, active, conscious state.
Based on the fact that internal panic arises in a situation of psychological threat, internal silence can be “heard” in a situation of psychological safety. Depending on general mental stability, the circle of psychological comfort for a person can be wider or narrower. For this, some people need to go to the deep forests for a month, while others will feel completely safe even in a noisy company. That is, you can calculate your zone of complete psychological comfort and use it to get a good taste of the state of muted internal dialogue.
Another good opportunity to find yourself in silence for a while - When the body is overloaded with physical effort or, for example, illness, there is very little energy left for ordinary mental activity - psychological problems themselves recede into the background. This is why many people like to push themselves so much - go to the mountains, go to the gym, dig beds and the like. Physical activity takes energy away from the head and acts in exactly the same way as alcohol - it makes you forget about your worries and problems. That is, the second possibility is to give yourself unusually great physical activity and then carefully observe the state of your non-working head. It is usually perceived as very pleasant relief and carefreeness - also characteristic signs of a quiet internal dialogue.
Another option is complex coordination exercises. Take a stool, stand on its edge so that your heels hang in the air, and maintain your balance in this state. If it's too easy, close your eyes. If this is easy, stand on one leg. And so on - complicate the task for yourself exactly to the point where you can still cope with it, but this requires your full concentration. After a couple of minutes, you can stop and listen to your inner state - it will be very quiet, because we cannot perform two tasks at the same time - coordinate complex movements and think complex thoughts. Either one or the other.
In general, there are a lot of purely technical techniques and tricks, both in a short time find yourself in a state of inner peace and silence. And this is quite enough to get a good feel for what it’s all about. we're talking about . As already said, usually this state seems very pleasant, comfortable and much more natural than the usual everyday tension and busyness. But it is impossible to maintain this state with all sorts of technical tricks - every time you will find that inner silence and heightened awareness flow through your fingers, dissipate and be forgotten, as if nothing had happened.
Consciousness plunges into the usual drowsy, semi-fainting state.
But at the first stage, the task is not to maintain silence and awareness at all costs, but to recognize two of your possible states - silence and the usual internal hubbub, which, among other things, turns into hysteria if any kind of hysteria arises. this is an additional psychological danger. See the second extreme - internal panic and hysteria -
on the one hand, it is simpler, because this is a more violent and more frequent phenomenon in the life of an ordinary person, on the other hand, it is more difficult - because it is in a state of heightened anxiety that it is difficult to even remember the meaning of the task. At the moment of activation of psychological defenses, memory and logic fail, and even if you remind yourself that you need to take a closer look at your internal dialogue, this task will seem abstract and meaningless - the fleeing hare has no time to carefully examine the work of its paws - it needs to save a life !
But still, if you are interested in this question, then it is not so difficult to discern the work of your internal dialogue. To do this, you don’t need to delve into yourself for years or practice meditation. It is a daily and continuous process, just like breathing. And the difficulty is only in starting to pay attention to what eludes him precisely because of its naturalness. Go for it. Get to know your inner dialogue. Observe and document when and what you talk to yourself about. Understand when your internal dialogue escalates and when it subsides. Follow the direction of your “reasoning” - what exactly you are trying to do and what answer you will arrive at. And if enthusiasm overwhelms you, start a diary and try to write down your internal dialogue - be your own stenographer.
This task is as simple and as important as the ability to assess the level of your alcohol intoxication at a social gathering. After all, many people get drunk more than they should, not because they are such alcoholics and are so eager to pass out, but precisely because they do not realize how poisoned the body is already. Without realizing the level of your intoxication, it is very easy to cross the line, after which you will feel very ashamed of yourself.
It’s the same with internal dialogue or internal tension - it’s very important to clearly understand your level of psychological intoxication, because if you don’t keep track of it, it’s very easy to mess things up and create a bunch of problems for yourself out of the blue. Half the problems in life would disappear if you learned to detect the distortion of your perception.
When a person is drunk and knows it, he will not make serious decisions, realizing that important issues require a sober approach in the literal and figurative sense. If he is drunk and does not realize it, then anything can happen. It’s the same with internal tension - it has no less of a distorting effect on decisions made and actions taken than alcohol. And psychological intoxication in this sense is even more dangerous than physiological intoxication, since it is more difficult to admit it to oneself, and the distortions it introduces are more subtle and at the same time more harmful.
Now let’s look again at where and how it manifests itself in everyday life. Because this task does not concern only seekers of spiritual truths, but is a common problem for everyone, regardless of their type of activity and lifestyle.
Firstly, all kinds of skill. It is impossible to achieve serious—masterful—results in any activity without learning to enter a state of inner silence. This is usually not taught specifically, at least until it becomes a matter of life and death or very big money, but having trained in any activity for a long enough time, a person will sooner or later naturally learns to fully concentrate on his lesson. Which, as we have already said, means repressing and muffling the internal dialogue - there is simply no energy left for it.
Good example— sport. Not light jogging in the morning, but playing sports with the goal of achieving maximum results for yourself. Running a marathon is difficult, but to push yourself to the limit, simple strength and endurance are not enough - you need the ability to concentrate all your resources on one main effort. And if you train in such concentration long enough, this will gradually lead to the development of a specific ability to temporarily disconnect from all your internal squabbles and stop all unnecessary internal negotiations.
If you ask an athlete who knows how to give his all, what was happening inside him when he was in his “ring,” it turns out that he literally didn’t “think” about anything. And, most likely, he will even add that there is no time to think THERE: if you think, you will lose. And yet, his brain was working all the time - calculating and solving the task at hand to the fullest extent of its capabilities, it’s just that this work bears little resemblance to the usual mental deliberation of one’s problems. An athlete-chess player competes precisely in the ability to think, but at the same time his normal internal dialogue must be stopped during the fight. Try to feel what we are talking about here - this is very important. Thinking is not the same as internal dialogue!
In order to concentrate all your efforts on one practical task, you need to learn how to perform a very complex mental somersault, which almost no one ever learns purposefully. Namely, you need to learn to put your personality out of brackets, to distract yourself from YOURSELF, your significance, your personal problems, your anxieties and doubts. At least temporarily and in a separate narrow area of activity, you need to learn to enter a state of internal balance and “self-confidence” - that same state when there is no need for psychological protection, and therefore no internal dialogue.
Thus, any real mastery presupposes the presence of a stable ability to stop internal dialogue and maintain a state of silence for a sufficiently long period of time. When they say that at some point a fighter in the ring “gave up”, and that although he is still fighting, he has already lost psychologically, this is a fixation of the moment when he lost concentration and his internal dialogue resumed. Of two masters of equal technique, the winner will be the one who can hold his breath longer and remain silent.
Secondly, creativity. Only again, we’re not talking about that stupid activity when a newly-minted owner of a smartphone expresses himself by photographing garbage flowers, but about a serious and complex internal work when, through refined technique (see mastery), the subtlest emotional experiences find their way out and expression.
If in the matter of general technical skill we are talking about reaching the limit of physical, mental or some other capabilities, then in the matter of creativity we are talking about the limits of sensitivity and perception. To hear a sound or smell on the verge of perception, you need to completely quiet down, become silence. Only from this silent state can the subtlest, most beautiful and most important nuances of inner melodies be discerned.
Well, if the internal TV is turned on at its usual volume, then the entire creative process will be reduced to the expression of the crudest and most superficial neurotic experiences that will not cause trepidation in anyone except the same unbalanced individuals, confused from within. All self-expression here will be nothing more than an expression of one’s own complexes, and the price of such creativity is zero point, tenths.
Thirdly, relationships with people and psychological problems. Any conflict This is an internal dialogue that has burst out. Any long-term resentment is a looping self-sustaining internal dialogue that could be stopped at any moment. And even being in love with another person is also just an internal dialogue.
Not a single psychological problem can exist without the support of internal dialogue. Moreover, it is created by him. This means that stopping these mental torments leads to the instantaneous evaporation of all psychological problems at once... however, when resuming dialogue with oneself, they just as easily condense back. Therefore, temporarily stopping the internal dialogue in itself is not enough to get rid of mental problems. We need bigger guns!
Stopping internal dialogue
Stop valve for brains
So, let's move on to, actually, technical side question. We started by training the skills of recognizing internal dialogue and its current intensity. This alone is enough to slightly reduce its intensity.
And if you approach the matter with interest and enthusiasm, then carefully studying the content of your conversations with yourself over a sufficiently long period of time is likely to lead to many valuable discoveries about yourself and a noticeable strengthening of your inner balance.
This is our second task - the general muting of internal dialogue, as a result of extensive psychological research of one’s experiences, fears, doubts and - most importantly!- ways to escape and protect from your demons. In essence, this is the usual psychological work, which can be done in any convenient way - explore your internal dialogue, monitor your feelings and experiences, analyze your behavior, go to a psychologist, in the end. All means are good if they lead to the expansion of consciousness. And the fewer illusions and secrets from oneself, the less the need for psychological protection. This should all be obvious by now.
Theoretically, having brought this work on oneself to the limit, one can expect that no additional tricks will be required - the dialogue, and with it the whole world, will sooner or later stop by itself. In this sense, you need to understand that stopping the internal dialogue is not an end in itself, but a practical procedure that allows you to speed up this very process of general psychological development. That is, there is no point in trying to shut up your chatter just to shut up your chatter and be happy about it. From this position we will consider our task further.
Two elements count here: the skill of stopping internal dialogue and, relatively speaking, accumulated internal silence - the experience of being in a state of inner peace and balance.
Accordingly, efforts should be made in these two directions. The skill itself can be developed in any of a thousand possible ways. Google the query “techniques for stopping internal dialogue” - any option that seems reasonable and convenient to you personally will do. The trick here is different. There is no achievement in turning the volume knob when the TV is turned off; the whole difficulty is in mustering the courage to turn off the volume when the TV is broadcasting about something that you think is vitally important and interesting. That's where
main difficulty
The main problem with internal dialogue is not that it is not realized and not that the techniques for stopping it are so difficult and mysterious.
The main problem is that we really want to continue talking to ourselves. Psychological defenses are not something that “happens” to us against our will, it is something that we trigger within ourselves and turn on at full volume.
We are keenly interested in our own personality and its status, and as long as this interest dominates, we will go out of our way to talk to ourselves, because this is the only way we can maintain the illusion of self-importance. While we are self-obsessed, we need internal dialogue. And no secret Tibetan techniques will help stop internal chatter. Either the person realizes that it’s time to free himself from illusions and self-deceptions, or he simply walks in circles... even when he tries to practice techniques for stopping the internal dialogue, because he will do this only when there is nothing interesting on TV. That is, when we have learned to recognize internal dialogue, we need to take the next and even more important step - learn to recognize our own wish
persuade and deceive yourself with the help of this very dialogue. We need to discover our motives for continuing to subject ourselves to self-hypnosis. And if at this stage you feel even a little sick of your game, you can move on.
From here we must conclude that it is possible to talk seriously about the problem of stopping internal dialogue only at a certain stage of the development of consciousness, when a person already understands what trap he has driven himself into, and that the only way out of it is to stop lying to himself. From this moment on, a person will truly be ready to challenge his internal dialogue as the main tool of self-deception. Otherwise, you can fight your internal chatter for as long as you like - there will be no practical sense in it. So, in the first place we must have a conscious and stable motive with a clear understanding of why and why the internal dialogue should be stopped. And then it’s a matter of technology
— we monitor bursts of our neurotic activity and stop it in any suitable way. The option of standing on one leg with your eyes closed is quite suitable. If this is too easy, put the most expensive and beloved vase on your head - you will definitely have to shut up so as not to break it.
Firstly, the stronger the internal surge, the more difficult it is to stop it and the longer it will take to maintain a state of internal silence. In the simplest cases, it is enough to simply detect these protective processes and immediately disable them. But in more complex and painful situations, much more effort and time may be required. This is the very skill that you need to develop in yourself - the ability not to listen to your TV, which is broadcasting a breaking news release that is vital for you. And if it takes an hour to stand on one leg to gain balance, then so be it. Next time, all other things being equal, it will be easier.
Secondly, successfully turning off the neurotic process is an excellent achievement, but it does not eliminate the need to work on mistakes. Having reached a calm state, you need to carefully figure out what exactly happened - what knocked you out of balance, what sore spot was touched, what illusion “ringed.” Well, and further on the list is the usual planned psychological work in the wake of a discovered internal breakdown. Without this, you will have to wait much (!) longer for the onset of “happiness” in the form of stable peace and balance.
And the more often we practice such gross conscious intervention in the work of our psychological defenses, and the longer we remain in a state of inner silence each time, the easier it is for us to do this each time, and the more natural the state of inner peace becomes for us.
Behind the scenes, we still have a stop to the internal dialogue of a deeper level, but we can seriously approach this task only by solving the problem of the first - socio-psychological - level. And for those who have solved it, it will not be difficult for them to figure out what to do next.
Technique for turning off internal dialogue
In all traditions, in all magical, and not only, directions it is said: learn to enter a state of inner silence, learn to calm your mind, learn to turn off the internal dialogue (hereinafter referred to as ID). But nowhere does it really say what this VD is or where it comes from.
I'll try to explain. We have a brain that processes various signals. As you know, the brain has many zones responsible for certain impulses. There is a zone of the brain responsible for the feeling of hunger, there is a zone responsible for pleasure, there is for vision, etc. Some area is responsible for any activity of our body. For example, you are busy with something. Right now you are reading a book. And some areas of your brain are tense as they perform their functions so that you can read calmly. Electrical impulses are sent to these zones. As a result, energy accumulates in them. Then you put the reading aside and did something else. What will happen to the energy that has accumulated in these zones? The fact is that these zones, relative to others that did not strain to read, are hotter, because they have more energy. As soon as you switch, the law of conservation of energy comes into force, and energy from hot zones begins to flow into cold ones. And this process is called the process of information processing, or, in other words, internal dialogue. And then it becomes clear that, in principle, it cannot be turned off, since the brain works even when we sleep. Although, to be precise, there are areas of the brain that are not involved in processing the incoming signal, so there are modes of operation in which there are no thoughts. This mode corresponds to deep, dreamless sleep. And you can enter such a mode without losing consciousness, but don’t even dream about it yet. In your case, you can completely disable VD only by shooting yourself in the head.
In general, since signal processing occurs constantly, all that remains for us is to enter a state where this signal will not affect us. In principle, this is similar to the state in which there seem to be no thoughts, although they are there, but we simply do not hear them. As a rule, this particular state is called a state with a disabled VD, although this is incorrect. However, having achieved it, you will be able to move on to complex meditations that are practiced in Sephirotic magic. But we will return to the importance of turning off the VD a little later.
Passive observer state
To turn off something, we first need to learn to perceive it. The first thing we will do is learn to listen and see our thoughts. When you practiced with a black dot, you probably heard your thoughts. The fact is that the state of a passive observer is painfully familiar to you, because you practice it every day when you go to bed. Remember this moment. You lie down and begin to think about something, dream, imagine, and imperceptibly fall asleep. So, you need to do the same thing, but at the same time maintain awareness.
It's simple. You sit down, close your eyes and listen to what is happening inside you. Your task is to learn to observe thoughts passively. That is, do not think on your own, do not pursue some image that you would like. Just watch the spontaneous emergence of images in your head. Also, passive observation is due to the fact that you do not interfere with the thought, do not begin to think through it, or somehow develop it. If you do this, you will energize the thought and lose awareness. Be an outside observer, as if you were eavesdropping on someone's conversation through the door and not interfering with it.
At first it will seem to you that there are no thoughts in your head and you will say to yourself: “Hmm, but there are no thoughts,” and this is a THOUGHT. And as soon as you have said it, try to look at it from the outside. That is, disidentify from your thoughts. Stay neutral and let the flow of thoughts arise on its own. Gradually, your attention from the outside world will be directed inward, and you will begin to perceive your own thinking more and more clearly. I call this process exploring the space of internal dialogue. Because after some time you will begin to perceive yourself as a space where a flow of thoughts exists.
So, your task is to learn to see this flow and observe it passively. If you practice every day and gradually increase your practice time, you will make many discoveries for yourself. For example, one of them relates to the so-called “levels of thinking.” The same thoughts different levels look different. By these levels we can mean different modes of consciousness. For example, at first you will perceive your thoughts as words, then they will turn into pictures, then there will be pictures with sounds, then pictures as sounds, and sounds as pictures. As you delve deeper, you may notice that thoughts generally no longer resemble anything intelligible, but have turned into some kind of hieroglyphs or sets of incomprehensible lights. It's like you start to see the source code of your thoughts.
You may make another surprising discovery later. For example, that your thoughts have a source not in your head, but in your throat. It’s strange, really, but nevertheless it’s true. And later you will find out that you DO NOT PRODUCE THOUGHTS YOURSELF at all. They just come from outside. That is, we do not have individual thinking. All thoughts come from outside. Once you reach this level of exploration, you may notice that you sometimes hear other people's thoughts. Precisely words or images. That is, there is already a hint of telepathy. So this practice will last you a very long time.
Explore your space of internal dialogue, learn to see the flow of thoughts. Because in these streams there is a hint on how to get rid of thoughts.
Disabling HP
Having learned to observe your thoughts, at some point you may notice that these images arise in a certain emptiness. Moreover, you, as an observer, look from this emptiness. Your task is to realize this emptiness and identify with it. This is exactly how the VD is turned off. It’s not that you stopped the flow of thoughts, it’s just that you seemed to be in a vacuum. The space where various images and sounds had just flashed suddenly turned into silence. But in order to remain in it, you need to concentrate on this emptiness. And here the thought no longer arises like: oh, I did it. There is nothing. Only silence and emptiness.
This state is mandatory and basic. You must first enter into it, and only then move on to other meditations. However, after entering the void, after a while you will notice that the thoughts have returned, although you remained passive. They appeared again out of nowhere and once again filled the silence with their presence. Just keep concentrating on emptiness. Thoughts will return again and again, but each time one difference will be added. Your state will become increasingly altered.
This state is one of the types of trance. The term "trans" is translated from Latin as "through". That is, your consciousness becomes a conductor through which some signal is transmitted. In this practice you are trying to become a conductor of silence. You could say this is a basic trance. You, as it were, clear the ether of interference, so that in other meditations, for example, when working with arcana, you can conduct these signals more clearly. This increases the power of your work and increases its efficiency.
So, you enter the state of a passive observer and simply follow the flow of thoughts. At some point you will begin to identify emptiness in this space. Concentrate and dissolve in it. Become empty yourself. When thoughts arise, keep your attention on emptiness.
Thoughts will appear, but they will become increasingly weaker. That is, your attention will increasingly become subordinate to you, and not to thoughts. Gradually, you will learn to remain in silence and silence, although thoughts will silently rush through in the background, as if from a neighboring apartment. They don't bother you anymore. Your consciousness is peaceful and completely subordinate to your will.
Why am I so eager to imply that this state of turning off the VD is very important and that it is a fundamental skill in magical practices? Believe me, if you do not know how to enter a state of peace of mind, then you may have big problems in the future.
You see, our attention is something like the wireless Internet. Some kind of wi-fi. And when we concentrate on some object, we seem to establish a connection with it. But the catch is that along the ray of attention, information not only comes to our consciousness, but can also be transmitted outward from consciousness.
I call this effect “Batman spotlight.” Anyone who watched the movie Batman probably remembers that there was a silhouette sculpted onto the spotlight bat, which was then shaded in a circle of light in the sky. So, our ray of attention is a spotlight. But the question is: from what state does it shine outward? And here it turns out that if we concentrate our attention not from a state of emptiness, but from a state of some thoughts, then we will see THESE THOUGHTS there.
For example, you decide to scan to see who is in the next room. A minute ago you heard the clicking of women's heels. And this seemingly random thought is firmly stuck in your head. Although no, it didn’t settle down. You just remembered her for a second. And they started watching. And what will you see if you don’t turn off the VD first? Precisely a woman. Then your imagination will complete her physique, hair color, clothes. But in fact, there may be a man in the room or no one at all. But this random thought will determine your further perception.
I sometimes conduct advanced seminars on the development of extrasensory sensitivity. With them, literally in two or three days, we shake up the ajna chakra so that even the most “wooden” guys begin to feel something. There is a task to determine from a photograph whether a person is alive or dead. People bring photographs, among them sometimes there are old black and white photographs from which quite elderly people are looking. And so the listener begins to scan the photograph, but without even noticing how something like the following thought arose in his head: “The photograph is old, shabby. The man on it is somewhere over 60. It was made back when Soviet power. 100% whoever is on it is already dead.” People just don’t live that long, our psychic thinks. And indeed, starting to scan the photo, he can feel the energy of death. But the person on it may turn out to be alive. Old, sick, but ALIVE. So Batman's spotlight is always on.
Now you understand the necessity of developing the skill of internal silence. Because if you don’t realize in time that your entire vision is a series of your own thoughts, then even bigger problems may begin.
By practicing the perception of your hallucinations, you can repeatedly hit the mark. Just guess, or there will be a coincidence. However, for such a would-be psychic, this will be a confirmation of his abilities. And then a person begins to believe in what he sees. For him, the line between reality and his own mental images begins to slowly blur. Add here a little suggestibility, the absence of an adequate teacher who would control such a student, and you will get a very disastrous result.
Turning off internal dialogue
“You think too much, Harley.”
"Harley Davidson and the Marlboro Man"
In this chapter we will look at one interesting feature our thinking, which is called “internal dialogue”. What kind of animal is this, what is it for and what is it eaten with? For those who do not understand its meaning from the term itself (you and I, reader, understand everything, but there are also editors, proofreaders and just typesetters in the printing house - they also love to read books), I will tell you a simple definition. Internal dialogue is talking to yourself.
For those who like to complicate simple things, internal dialogue can be called the terrible and evil term “divided Gestalt.” What is this - don’t ask me, these are vague echoes of psychological education.
In general, we often encounter this feature of our thinking. Why is internal dialogue useful to us? To begin with, this is a kind of mechanism for accessing memory and remembering information. A very, very useful thing. On the other hand, internal dialogue can often be a deterrent, a kind of “voice of conscience” during the process of meeting girls. That is, our internal dialogue in the context of communicating with girls often takes on a restraining, stopping moment.
Tell me, has it often happened to you that you saw a stunning girl on the street and while you were thinking, “how can I approach her, get to know her, what to do, how about this,” she has already left? As is easy to understand, in such contexts the internal dialogue simply needs to be turned off. Let me clarify right away that it is NOT NECESSARY to turn off the internal dialogue completely and permanently - we will lose a lot of interesting and useful features of our body. For example, memory access.
Your task is to learn to approach and open communication in a state of “without thinking,” that is, without internal dialogue. Not by thinking, but by doing. This will play on you in a very effective way, as you remember from the first chapter of this book. How to do this? The easiest option is to tell yourself - Stop thinking. Let's do it! " – will also be the same internal dialogue that we would like to turn off. This method doesn't work. Which ones work?
There are several natural states for humans in which internal dialogue is turned off or reduced to almost zero. There are several of them, but not all of them may suit us. For example, in trance there is no internal dialogue as part of the state, but there is also absolutely no desire to do anything. Fortunately, the list is not limited to trance.
Now we will begin to study specific states that will help us learn to turn off the internal dialogue. But before we begin, I want to ask: have you ever had any important events in your life? On whom did a lot depend? Waiting for which ones could you get very nervous, constantly thinking about them? What was harder: the anticipation or the event itself? What wasted more energy? What was scarier?
Something tells me it's waiting.
So, it's the same with girls. Very often we take a long time to decide to come up and get acquainted. The more we do this, the more nervous we become. Have you ever seen a really beautiful girl, but by the time you decided to approach her, she was already lost in the crowd? Do you want to gain access to a state in which you first say “Hello!” and only then you begin to realize that you just met a cool girl?
If you want this, read and train very carefully.
State one – uptime
– What is there to think about? You have to jump!
The uptime state is very, very interesting in itself. In particular, it is characterized by the fact that all perception filters* are immediately and completely turned off and our brain receives a bunch of previously unsorted information. Accordingly, there is absolutely no time to “think”. The uptime state is also characteristic of us and often occurs, but not everyone knows that this was exactly what it was and that’s what it’s called. For example, I enter uptime quite automatically at some malls and markets when I pass by dozens of stalls in search of one single thing. And then I find her and approach her, completely unconsciously and on my own.
The uptime state has one significant disadvantage - you cannot stay in it for a long time. The brain receives a gigantic amount of data, and sooner or later it must be processed and “throw away” everything that is not needed and will not be used in the future. For example, after such trips to the markets, my head begins to hurt quite noticeably and I want to sit and drink coffee in silence for half an hour.
Before we study the most vigorous exercise for bringing your psyche into a state of uptime, I will tell you two very old and very oriental stories.
The first story came to us from ancient China, it is about five thousand years old. Unfortunately, I don’t remember the exact source of this story (where exactly I read or heard it), otherwise I would be happy to indicate it. This story is about how one young man came to study with a great master - an archer. Learn, oddly enough, to shoot a bow. The master took him to study and immediately put him in his hands with a huge and powerful combat bow, gave him an arrow, and showed him how to put an arrow on the string. And he ordered to look steadily at the target, which was a small ceramic circle at a very considerable distance. Every morning the student went to the shooting area, put an arrow on the string, pulled the bow and looked at the target. So two whole years passed, and one day the master approached the student and asked him: “What do you see?” “I see the target, the field around, the mountain in the distance. Birds flying past and people walking not far from me,” answered the student.
The master ordered the student to continue practicing. And again, every morning, the student went to the shooting site, put the arrow on the string, pulled the bow and looked at the target. And so two more passed many years. After this time, the master approached the student and asked him: “What do you see?” “I see the target, the table on which it stands, and nothing else,” answered the student.
The master ordered the student to continue practicing. And again, every morning the student went out to the shooting area, put the arrow on the string, pulled the bow and looked at the target. And so another two long years passed. After this time, the master approached the student and asked him: “What do you see?” “I see only the goal, and nothing but the goal. The target filled my entire field of vision, it became gigantic and I see nothing but it. It feels like I myself have become this target,” the student replied. The master asked to shoot at the target, and the student hit it in the very middle.
The second story comes to us from ancient japan, and she is more than a thousand years old. Unfortunately, I also don’t remember the source of information, so you can Once again you'll have to take my word for it. In ancient Japan there were warriors specially trained in stealth technology, who were called “ninjas”. They were famous for being able to penetrate the most impregnable fortresses, regardless of the number and quality of the guards. What they were doing inside is not the topic of this story. Our story is about how they penetrated these castles. One version of their extraordinary skill is that these invisible warriors imagined themselves as the objects they walked past. And this skill was so developed among them that even experienced warriors saw in front of them not a person, but, for example, a wall or a stool.
What were these stories for? It’s just that now we will learn to turn off the internal dialogue, using methods that came to us from ancient China and ancient Japan.
Exercise "Rolling renaming"
– ...And mentally flicked his tail.
Thirteenth little devil
Purpose of the exercise. Learn to disable the internal log, learn to enter an uptime state; working through basic social restrictions.
Basic execution. You will need to go to any public (in the sense of crowded) place. Find any starting point for the exercise - for example, the beginning of an avenue. It is highly desirable that this place is quite familiar to you.
Next you need to determine where you want to go from your current location. An important condition is that this place should not be visible from the starting point of the movement. For example, this could be the end of a street that begins a hundred meters later at a traffic light; you just need to turn left.
Then you need to determine several intermediate points along the route from beginning to end. For example, there will be two kiosks with magazines, a traffic light, an oak tree on the corner and house number 65 bis, where the street ends.
Well, the next steps are taken according to the same structure, differing only in the place of action. So, at each intermediate point of your movement you need to stop near this very point (for example, an oak tree). Take your body into the most similar shape possible (for example, spread your arms like branches, put your feet together like a tree trunk). And imagine - what does this very oak tree feel? How does he feel? What does he see if he could see? How does he perceive surrounding sounds? And you need to do this as completely and carefully as possible at every step, until you enter the uptime state. Continue this way until the end point of the movement.
Criteria for performing the exercise. At every step, when you are in a state of uptime, people around you immediately stop paying attention to you.
Advanced Execution. The exercise is done in the same way as the previous option. You need to find the starting point of the movement, the end point of the movement, and intermediate points of the movement. The difference: you need to enter a state of uptime without changing your usual body position and continuing to move, that is, without stopping.
Performance criterion. Exactly the same as in the previous version, but when moving without stopping. The uptime state must be caused by mental effort.
Time estimation. Each version of the exercise must be practiced at least ten times. The total time to complete the exercise is about six hours of pure time.
Additions. If you find it difficult to start the advanced version of the exercise, continue with additional practice on the basic version.
State two – HPS
- Do you want me to get up and leave?
-Where are you going?
- Well, somewhere on the balcony...
From conversations with women
HPS is short for High Performance State. This is what NLP calls the state when our brains work in the “Eureka” state, that is, the thought process proceeds in the fastest and most comfortable way possible. HPS has several characteristics:
* optimal muscle tension;
* body symmetry;
* easy attitude to problems (laughter while making mistakes).
And what’s most interesting is that in this state there is no internal dialogue. On the one hand, HPS is interesting to us precisely from the point of view of turning off the high pressure, on the other hand, it will be useful to us in other situations. The HPS condition can work wonders, and you can easily see this for yourself. For example, why it might suit us:
* learn to quickly generate the necessary words and conduct a conversation;
* learn to act quickly and confidently; learn to confidently achieve your goals; learn to learn from your mistakes; learn to act in the most effective way possible;
* …and something else.
How to enter this state? There are several techniques that can help us, and the simplest is the “Alphabet” technique. Its origins lie among many psychotechniques and schools, and even the exact author can only be determined after long and painstaking research. I can say for sure that the author is not me.
So, "Alphabet". To perform the technique, you will need a piece of paper with letters, which is in the same book. You will need to either tear out a leaf from the book (What blasphemy! Were you not taught to handle literature with care as a child?), or make the same leaf yourself, it’s very simple.
The sheet is a regular table of size 5 by 6 cells, in which the alphabet is written (ABVGDEZHZIYKLM-NOPRSTUFKHTSCHSHSHSHYEYYA), and the second row is the letters (PLO) in random order. The only condition: under the letter “L” (of the alphabet) there is a letter “P”, under the letter “P” (ALPHABET) there is an “L”, Under the “O” (of the alphabet) there is an “O”. The remaining placement options for the second row are arbitrary and random.
Exercise "Alphabet"
Now what to do with all this miracle (procedure for performing the exercise).
1. Stand on free place and hang a piece of paper with the alphabet at eye level.
2. Say the letter of the alphabet out loud while raising either your right (letter “P”) or left (letter “L”), or both hands together (letter “O”).
If you get lost, start over.
4, Continue until a new state appears, which is like a kind of lightness, flexibility and clear thinking at the same time.
5. Remember this state and learn to enter it simply by remembering it (without the alphabet).
In addition, I recommend doing this exercise every morning: it is done quickly, and the result is amazing. If this exercise is too easy for you, change the order of reading the letters of the alphabet - you can read in reverse order, from top to bottom, diagonally, only vowels, after three letters.
Now a little about how to use this state. For example, you see a girl and notice the first signs of an internal dialogue. You need to enter the HPS state (for example, by remembering the morning exercise at home) and begin action from this state.
The HPS state is also good for solving communication problems. How it's done? So simple that it can seem like magic and magic. In a few steps.
1. Remember your problem situation. Remember well what you saw in the situation, what you heard, how and what you felt in your body.
2. Start performing the Alphabet technique until you enter the HPS state.
3. Revisit your old problem situation. Notice what has changed, what new options for action are open to you, what new things come to mind.
Criteria for successful completion. You easily and “laugh” at old mistakes and know exactly how and what to do in similar situations in the future.
This is where we finish studying this truly magical state, and if you want to find more techniques that can immerse you in this state, the most powerful of them is called “NASA”. This state is also the main one at seminars on new NLP code, which you can visit for your own development.
State three – moment of mastery
A moment of mastery is a very, very interesting state that each of us experiences from time to time. The moment of mastery can also be called the moment of perfection and the state of creativity. On the other hand, it doesn’t matter at all what to call it; it is much more important to understand what it is characterized by. The moment of mastery has five characteristics.
1. Action from a state of naturalness.
2. Don't try, but do.
3. Lack of internal dialogue.
4. Complete perception of the world.
5. Optimal muscle tone.
These characteristics are present in any, absolutely any moment of mastery, and it doesn’t matter where this skill is manifested: in brewing tea or chopping cabbage. These signs exist, moreover, they are known to any of us and they are already hidden in us. Now we will learn to transfer our skills from one context to another, achieving maximum impact from our internal resources. But first, I will briefly talk about each aspect of the skill in order to clarify the process.
Naturalness is naturalness. Do exactly what you want, and not what you should and are obliged to do, and you will behave naturally. Not trying, but doing is a very important factor that allows us to learn instead of inaction. “I tried” means to me “I didn’t do anything.” “I did it, but didn’t get the expected result” for me means “I gained very valuable experience.” I am ready to pay a lot for the mistakes that I once made in my life. Because the washing I received is priceless.
Lack of internal dialogue - the whole chapter in the book that you are reading now is devoted to this.
The complete perception of the world is familiar to us from various practices, both spiritual and martial. By perceiving the world as a whole, that is, by defocusing our vision, we will see much more than if we simply look intently at one point.
Muscle tone is just a great thing. To begin with, our muscles have three basic states - relaxed, tense and ready. In order to act from a state of relaxation, you must first prepare. To act from a state of tension, first relax. Acting from a state of readiness, we will spend exactly as much of our energy as necessary.
If you need more details and more Full description– then a separate chapter is devoted to skill factors in my book “The Russian Model of Effective Seduction.” In the meantime, let's start creating our masterful state in the context of street dating.
Exercise “Creating Mastery”
Purpose of the exercise. Creating a state of mastery in a new context, teaching the technique of transferring states.
Execution procedure. This exercise is best done in an atmosphere that is comfortable for you, where you are comfortable being and where you cannot be disturbed while doing the exercise. For example, at home.
You will need to find something you love to do and do very well. It doesn’t matter at all what it will be - programming in PHP or cross-stitching life-size portraits of Teletubbies. It is important that this is your favorite something you do really well. Pay attention - when you go about your business, are the points of mastery that were indicated in this chapter fulfilled?
Remember when you did your job most perfectly, and pay attention to how you imagine it. Then imagine the context in which you would like to achieve such a state. This could include meeting girls on the street.
Next, you will need to mentally imagine two pictures at once, in one of which you are doing your perfect job, and in the other you are meeting girls. It is very important that the picture of the acquaintance is on the right, and the picture of the “mastery state” is on the left.
Then you will need to pay attention to the difference in the perception of these pictures. For example, your “mastery” picture may be more vivid, and your picture with acquaintance may be less vibrant. In addition to brightness, these can be absolutely any other parameters: volume, color, contrast, distance - anything.
The next step is that you need to make the new picture (the dating picture) the same level of perception as the “workshop”. Mentally imagine how, using an imaginary pen, you change the level of color or, for example, contrast in the picture you are dating. Keep changing the dating picture until the perception of both pictures is exactly the same.
When you finish, imagine how you will meet a girl on the street. Rate: How comfortable are you? If everything is about, k, go to the point “Performance Criteria”.
Performance criterion. You walk up and meet a girl on the street in a state very similar to your mastery state.
Time estimation. The exercise takes less than half an hour to complete. The thing is that this exercise does not always work out the first time. That is, you approached the girl, but somehow it wasn’t right. Then you will need to completely repeat the exercise again until your states during the moment of mastery and during the meeting with the girl are very similar. This usually happens after two or three repetitions. Thus, you will need about three hours of pure time.
Additional Information. This exercise involves transferring states using submodalities. what kind of animals they are and what they are eaten with is written in my book “Russian Model of Effective Seduction” in the chapter of the same name.
Other exercises to turn off internal dialogue
In addition to the tasks that are included in large and serious sections, I just have a couple of exercises for you that will turn off your internal dialogue. If they are located separately and on their own, this does not mean that they can be ignored. ramble. I guarantee you a complete study of the state “Internal dialogue is turned off or is outside the network coverage area” only after a comprehensive study of this very state in all the indicated ways. At least a couple of times with each exercise.
Exercise “Gollum Goes Hunting”
My darling…
I hope you watched the excellent film adaptation of the Professor called “The Lord of the Rings”. If not, I'll just say that one of the characters in the movie was called Gollum and he was cool. The main trick of old Gollum was that he had paranoid schizophrenia, complicated by a guilt complex. I mean, he had two “halves” of personality - dark and light. The dark one wanted to receive the Ring of Omnipotence, the light one wanted to pass the probationary period with honors and leave for rebirth with significantly improved karma.
In general, the most important feature of Gollum was how these halves communicated with each other - they communicated out loud. And now I will invite you to be such an interesting and cool character for a while in order to learn to turn off your internal dialogue immediately and for a long time. Ready? Let's start.
Purpose of the exercise. Learn to turn off internal dialogue; creating interest in a girl, developing the communication base, studying the significance of social conventions.
Doing the exercise. You will need to start communicating with girls by fully and out loud voicing your internal dialogue. The main condition: you need to say everything - both internal dialogue and ordinary words. Even if it’s a sentence like “I wonder if she has a boyfriend? You have a boyfriend?".
Criteria for completing the exercise. Complete shutdown of internal dialogue in forty-five out of fifty cases (ninety percent convergence).
Time estimation. To complete the exercise completely, you may need a week of time, an hour a day (seven hours of pure time).
Addition. This exercise is real banter. I highly recommend doing this, at least to understand the fact that no one has ever met this girl like this before... Do you think this is good or just wonderful?
Exercise “Yakal translation”
- God is dead!
- Nietzsche is dead!
This exercise is the first step to changing your consciousness. In which direction and in what direction - you will determine for yourself. I can say that such states are incredibly useful. Including from the point of view of internal dialogue.
Purpose of the exercise. Creating motivation for action, creating personal responsibility, basic transformation of internal dialogue.
Doing the exercise. Completed within three days. At this time, the exercise is done every minute, that is, you cannot interrupt it or take smoke breaks. So you will need to allocate either free time in this amount, or combine business with pleasure. What will be what is up to you.
So what are we going to do? Yes, everything is more than simple. You will need to “transfer” responsibility for actions onto yourself in all your thoughts and words. This happens as follows: all words denoting other people (for example, “she”, “he”, “they”, “it”) are replaced with the only acceptable word “I”. For example, instead of the phrase “She looked at me strangely,” you should think the phrase “I looked at myself strangely.”
It is extremely advisable for you to carefully ensure that all words denoting other people are replaced.
Performance criterion. Creating a state in which everything happens “as it should.”
Advanced exercise. The execution conditions are similar to the basic option, that is, the execution time is three days, careful control and allocated free time. In addition, there remains the condition of “transferring” all other characters to yourself.
Now comes the complication: you will need to translate not only animate beings, but also inanimate objects. That is, instead of the phrase “They show crap on TV,” you need to say “They show crap on me.”
Performance criterion. Creating a state in which everything happens “as I want.”
Time estimation. Three days for each difficulty option.
Exercise. "Inner Advisor"
This exercise is a pure reflection basic principle my developments are HZKNR* in its purest form. In this regard, I remember one very hypnotic story that happened with one of my hypnosis teachers, an excellent specialist. A woman came to him who complained of chronic pain and wanted to relieve it with the help of hypnosis**. This is not done very quickly, but the techniques are there, tested and developed. Okay, we induced a trance, identified the pain, and asked to slightly reduce the intensity. No way. It doesn't work, that's all. Brought out of the trance. "What's the matter?" “I can’t,” the woman answered. Fine. A trance was induced again, the pain was identified and localized, and they were asked to increase the intensity of the pain, that is, to make it “even more painful.” This was done without any problems. Then the woman was brought out of her trance. And she was asked a question:
- Who did it? - You.
Horseradish Knows How, But It Works.
In Ericksonian hypnosis, this is done by techniques from the category of anesthesia and analgesia.
What am I talking about? To the fact that we can mentally not only ignore our painful sensations (which, undoubtedly, is a good skill, but not the topic of this book), but also control ourselves. If not us, then who? In order to do this exercise, you just need to realize who is the boss in your house. Only then get started.
Purpose of the exercise. Transformation of internal dialogue from limiting to supporting.
Preparation. You will need a comfortable place where no one will disturb you.
Doing the exercise. The exercise is carried out in steps that are quite simple, and you will succeed even if you doubt the result.
1. Remember a situation in which you had an internal dialogue that was interfering with you. For example, you wanted to meet a girl and you had thoughts like “what if she sends me?”
2. Determine the characteristics of your internal dialogue - just pay attention to the timbre of your voice, volume, speed of speech and other qualities.
3. Now start changing these characteristics simply by mental effort. For example, change the speed of speech of your internal dialogue. Timbre of pronunciation. Sound volume. Make your internal dialogue a voice that you would enjoy listening to. Continue until you truly enjoy listening to your inner voice.
4. Now you will need to make one more transformation. Change the words you say to yourself. Instead of those words that stop you, that can hinder you, use words that support you. Who will help you. Imagine if your inner dialogue was the biggest cheerleader for your success during dating and constantly told you: “Go for it! You can! Forward!" Continue until you create this transformation.
5. Imagine that in the future you will again have a situation similar to the one you started working with. How then will you think for yourself? If you think in a new way, then you just need to test your ability to support yourself. Check it out, of course. If your new self-talk has changed, but you know (or feel) that it could be even more supportive, you can do this technique again. As many times as necessary until you like it.
Performance criterion. Transformation of internal dialogue and passing behavioral testing. That is, the internal dialogue not only changed in “greenhouse conditions”, but also began to be a supporting factor in real cases of acquaintance.
Time estimation. No more than two hours of pure time for each execution.
Addition. If your internal dialogue is already supportive for you, then nothing needs to be changed. It works - don't touch it.
Exercise “Walking in someone else’s moccasins”
- I am a Taoist and have no head!
- It can be seen…
Talks of Sri Yaputra
The origins of this exercise lie in ancient times, covered with a dull layer of dusty antiquity. I can say for sure that I learned about this exercise from Galina Yakovenko, who was told about it by John Grinder, who learned it from Carlos Castaneda, and the latter, in turn, modeled it from the American Indians.
What did our red-skinned brothers do? They mainly hunted and did their main job almost the entire time they existed North America. On the other hand, the Indians had one small problem in training young warriors: if an old warrior took him hunting and began to explain and show him everything as it should be and answer an endless number of questions, then both warriors returned home tired and hungry. Which did not at all meet the high quality standards set by the tribal leaders.
Wise shamans came up with one interesting way of training young warriors - learning through their own experience, and not through the knowledge of others. How did this happen? There are many versions from different researchers, with different details. There is also a general part that reflects the most important essence of this difficult and at the same time easy science - learning without words. So, the young warriors simply went hunting with the old warriors, but they no longer asked questions, no. They had a completely different task - the task of completely repeating absolutely everything that the old warriors did. Walk the same way they walk, look in the same direction, freeze in the same place and for the same time, as if they had temporarily become the shadow of these experienced comrades. And what’s most amazing is that after a month of such training they could walk through the forest just as well and hunt just as well. They simply knew how to do it, but did not know how to do it correctly.
Now you and I will learn to study according to the American Indian way. On the one hand, you will be doing a very similar exercise. On the other hand, it won't take you several months to learn how to do it. A week is enough. Ready?
Purpose of the exercise. Integrating the skills of sliding renaming and shutting down internal dialogue.
Doing the exercise. You'll need someone you can follow for a while. It’s best if you have a friend who is ready to sacrifice an hour of his personal time for you. It’s even better if you do this exercise together, taking turns - first you will be the leader, then your friend.
Next, you decide who will be the leader and who will be the follower (then you will switch roles). The presenter's task is very simple - walk around the area, looking around. How to walk? In the most natural way, the way you would do it when you have a lot of free time and want to go for a walk. You should not run after buses, climb trees and do other small pranks. You should only talk to other people if absolutely necessary - for example, with a policeman when checking documents.
The task of the follower is very simple - to imagine as if he were the leader, to see the world through his eyes, to feel the world with his body, to hear sounds with his ears. To do this, you need to walk a little behind and repeat absolutely everything that the leader does - all gestures, movements, gait, head tilts. In a word, everything needs to be repeated. It takes exactly one hour to walk this way.
The criterion for fulfillment for the slave is that any thought processes are completely and tightly switched off.
Additional criterion for completing the exercise. You begin to move completely simultaneously, and not sequentially (sequentially - that means the leader made the movement, and the follower repeated it with a slight delay). You two don't have to talk at all.
Advanced Execution. You need to do the advanced part of the exercise when you have done the main part at least three times or you are already very good at turning off your brain while moving towards the goal. What do you need for this exercise? Just you, alone, without an ensemble.
You will need to find a girl who really likes you and walks down the street in splendid isolation. Then you start doing the same exercise with her that was in the basic part - that is, you follow her, repeat the movements, and so on. Your task is to follow the girl like this for at least five minutes, and so that she doesn’t “smell” you - that is, doesn’t turn around and look for you with her eyes. I'll give you a hint: you shouldn't do this exercise late at night on a deserted street.
Well, then your task is to get to know this girl. By the way, pay attention to how the girl will get to know “her shadow” (that is, you) and what is the difference between this approach, the shadow one, and the usual “just like that” approach.
Performance criterion. The girl doesn’t notice you while doing the exercise, that is, walking behind her, and reacts very positively to your appearance in her life.
Conclusion
Now, I hope, you will not have a question, “how can I turn off my internal dialogue and why do I need it?” All the exercises presented in this chapter work, and work well. It can take a lot of practice to become a master at starting communications, and believe me, it's worth a lot. And it doesn’t matter at all how, with what person, where and when to start communication - this is a great gift that develops. And when you develop even the basic possibility of a moment of mastery, you will learn a lot, a lot about your capabilities. And this can make you very happy. This is what I sincerely wish for you.
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Inner dialogue is mental noise that is very disruptive when concentrating on breathing during meditation. These are thoughts like electric trains, because of which our attention is carried away after them. Calming the mind is a difficult task.
Let's start with the fact that HP is a very energy-intensive process. It’s one thing when we think about or look for a solution to a situation, it’s another thing when we chew over yesterday, old grievances, anxieties, think up conversations, scold ourselves, prove something to others, etc. We spend energy on moving, breathing, digesting food, communicating, sex, etc., that is, on obvious natural processes, unconsciously. We also spend energy on unconscious processes, let’s call them of a more subtle order. Constantly chatting inside ourselves, we build a picture of the world and rigidly fix it. We explain to ourselves why the world is such and such, we add new impressions, sensations, and build schemes. VD is a consequence of a clearly formed human perception system. What has grown has grown. But it is also important to know that VD is a constant drain of our energy.
Stopping the internal dialogue serves not only for the successful implementation of any magical practice. The consequence of the ability to stop it will be improvement interpersonal relationships and strengthening of creative abilities, due to the weakening of the existing Treaty and the increased energy of the upper chakras.
What does internal dialogue look like? A spontaneous movement of thoughts, the so-called “mental noise,” constantly occurs in your mind. Even with a quick glance at any object, associative chains are activated and the process of thinking about nothing begins. A person thinks, goes through some options for something, reasons, drives situations away. But the output is completely zero. Even the reason for the activity is lost in a second and the thought goes nowhere. All this resembles aimless chatter in a large unfamiliar company.
Try not to think about anything for at least twenty seconds. Without preparation and without stressing about the thought “you don’t have to think.” After twenty seconds you will discover that the thought process has not gone away and lasted the entire time you were “not thinking.” On top of that, in most cases the work of internal dialogue is duplicated by articulation. You can pay attention to the involuntary pronunciation of your thoughts, accompanied by corresponding micromovements of the tongue and lips.
Conditions for stopping internal dialogue
To begin with, you need to step back a little from your consciousness and, from the position of an outside observer, try to catch the moments when new thoughts arise. It is also advisable to catch the points of transition from one thought to another. Almost all techniques for stopping it are based on a good understanding of the functioning of internal dialogue and the ability to monitor the occurrence of unwanted thoughts.
Also important for practice external factors. It is desirable to have a separate room with a minimum of extraneous stimuli, such as light, noise, voices, etc. In addition to the fact that you will not be distracted, the spontaneous work of internal dialogue is more noticeable in the absence of obvious reasons for thoughts to arise.
It is advisable to take a horizontal position. Next, you need to relax, using the relaxation techniques available to you and give yourself the mindset to complete the practice. It is easiest to practice stopping internal dialogue in the morning, immediately after waking up, but the most effective practice is before bed.
First method (for the smart ones)
We move into the state of “observer” and perceive our consciousness detachedly, monitoring the occurrence of spontaneous thoughts. When they appear, you need to extinguish these thoughts with a gentle push of consciousness, under no circumstances turning the process of detection or extinguishing into an independent mental one. Thoughts such as “some thought has appeared - now I’ll stop it” are also internal dialogue. Intention and pre-set must work. It is advisable to learn to remain in this state of inner silence for at least three to four minutes. Next, a transition to a state of altered consciousness (SIS) is possible, and internal silence will be maintained independently.
After repeatedly successfully achieving SIS with complete internal silence, it makes sense to tune into this state, like a beacon, and develop a code phrase or mudra that will be associated with this state. When using it, achieving a state of inner silence will occur noticeably faster.
Second method (for the cunning)
It is necessary to concentrate your consciousness on performing monotonous mental work that occupies the entire sphere of attention. We create the thought form of a blue cube. The cube rotates slowly. The main thing is not to let it out of your sphere of attention for a moment and not to lose your attunement to all aspects of the thought form - color, size, shape, smoothness of rotation. In this way you can also achieve the desired state.
Third method (for the strong)
The simplest and most complex at the same time. Stopping internal dialogue occurs through willpower. We simply silence our inner voice. With developed willpower it can work out.
The fourth method (for the patient)
In time with our breathing, we begin to count to ourselves from 1 to 100. If during the counting process at least one extraneous thought comes, we begin the countdown again. And so on until the result is achieved. Then you can increase the score to 200 and so on. The result should be the achievement of a state of silence that does not require effort to maintain it.
Fifth method (for the wise)
You can use the Zen practice of illogical and paradoxical images - koan. A large number of them can be found on the Internet. By focusing our mind on the koan, we drive it into a state of stupor. With sufficient concentration, there should be no extraneous thoughts.
Stopping internal dialogue without special conditions
All previous techniques required specific conditions for their implementation: silence, solitude, etc. How to stop the internal dialogue during an eventful day?
The fact is that a person performs almost all his actions automatically, without using the area of conscious thinking. Repeated day after day, these actions form everyday rituals, the implementation of which is the responsibility of the subconscious. The released energy of consciousness requires an outlet. It is the internal dialogue, in addition to fixing us in the existing Treaty, that is engaged in its “recycling”. Otherwise, unrealized energy can provoke nervous disorders and contribute to the destruction of the usual picture of the world.
A natural solution to this problem would be to exclude, if possible, everyday rituals from your life. It is necessary to change the existing routine and way of doing things. Try changing the most automatic ones first. Tie your shoelaces in a different knot, brush your teeth with a different hand and in a different way, arrange things on your desk differently, find a new way to get to work. In principle, if the hands or feet strive to perform some action on their own, this is a household ritual that can be changed. A consciousness busy with work will leave the internal dialogue without replenishment. The habit of having a constant mental background in your head will gradually go away. The main thing in this practice: when getting rid of some household rituals, do not create others.
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It is an internal dialogue, a conversation with oneself, an uncontrolled running of thoughts that occurs exclusively in the head. Almost all thinking people have an internal dialogue. Who has it more, stronger, more intense, and who has it less, weaker. The absence of thoughts in the head is extremely rare. The dialogue can be about anything. The topics are quite varied, it could be a continuation of yesterday’s scandal with your spouse, an internal dispute with your boss, discussion and commentary on news, and so on. There may also be a webinar going on in our head or the “radio” playing, repeating the same verse from a forgotten song. In special cases, attempts to solve a second-order differential equation are observed.
Why is internal dialogue useful to us? To begin with, this is a kind of mechanism for perceiving and analyzing the world around us, drawing up and discussing plans for further actions, accessing memory and remembering information, and so on. A very useful thing.
On the other hand, internal dialogue can be a limiting factor in acceptance important decisions, a kind of thought-discussion at a time when you have to act very quickly. When we need to focus on something important, the dialogue that arises distracts us from truly important and necessary thoughts, preventing us from focusing on the main thing, and creates a number of doubts. Imagine a housewife who spent the whole evening thinking about what kind of potatoes to cook: boiled or fried. As a result, the whole family was left hungry.
According to scientists, our brain consumes 80% of the energy available to the entire body. Most of this energy is wasted on useless word mixer, robbing the body of strength, causing a state of fatigue. In addition, activating the internal dance of thoughts before bedtime leads to insomnia. A person goes to bed, tries to sleep, and in his head a discussion of the past day begins, making plans for the next day, options for a scenario for an argument with his spouse or boss, and so on. There's no time for sleep here. And this leads to chronic fatigue. At the highest stage of the riot of thoughts, a person begins to talk to himself, and this looks ugly from the outside. 
Doctor, in my head little man swears all the time! - It’s so easy to fix! $10,000 - no problem! - Doctor, do you know what the little man said just now?
When else do uncontrollable racing thoughts bother us? Everyone has probably heard about the Subconscious. You can read about it in article 99
The subconscious is a subpersonality, a kind of internal “being” that actively participates in our lives. His task is to help us live a successful, positive, joyful life, achieve our goals, and spend less energy on worries and worries. In addition, the subconscious controls our intuition, tells us how to act in a given situation, how to accept correct solution when we don't have necessary information or knowledge. But we don’t hear him, we try to talk over him, to wash away the hint with a stream of all sorts of random thoughts. The right thought appears and dozens of discussing, criticizing, doubting thoughts immediately rush at it, like a flock of cats at a bowl of fish. All valuable thought “perished” under the yoke of an uncontrollable word mixer. Those people who know how to listen to their subconscious, that is, hear their intuition, are more successful and happy in life than those who think about everything for a long time, comprehend, compare, doubt. If you want to become Life's favorite, you must learn to listen to your subconscious.
Let me give you an example. Let's say you're waiting for e-mail important letter. A very important letter! Much depends on it in your destiny. If you don’t receive it on time, then that’s it: a complete scribe multiplied by akhtung-kaput. You sit down at your computer, connect to the Internet, launch your email program and wait. And suddenly you feel the urge to play with a toy. And not in a simple way, but in a sophisticated way Full Screen, with special effects and sound. You play for an hour, two, five... And then, already at three o’clock in the morning, you remember that you should receive a very important letter. But you still haven’t received it, the necessary, vital information has not reached you. EVERYTHING IS LOST! But when you look into your mail program, you discover that the life-saving letter has arrived, it arrived on time, but you didn’t notice it. But they didn’t notice because they were busy with other unnecessary pastimes. As a result, we were late and lost! The same is the case with intuition: there are valuable thoughts and hints, they appear on time, but we do not notice them and do not use them. Note: there are many more losers than lucky ones.
Stopping internal dialogue.
Internal dialogue- one of numerous processes happening in our consciousness. Complete absence thought process is a sign of mental inferiority. Sometimes it is vitally necessary, but sometimes it only gets in the way, fills your head with all sorts of nonsense, creates doubts and all sorts of incomprehensible conclusions. On the one hand, internal dialogue is necessary, but on the other, it is not. What to do? We must learn to manage this process, that is, consciously, in right moment turn it off, stop the uncontrolled racing of thoughts, turn off the word mixer. Fortunately, there are many ways to do this. You just need to practice. It may not work out the first time. Let's try to organize silence in our heads.
1. Displacement or replacement. We replace the flow of chaotic, uncontrollable thoughts with repetitive, regular thoughts. These can be mantras, repeated phrases like: “I am delighted with myself” or “I will succeed,” prayers, counting from 10 to 0, or even better, from 100 to 0. The counting is done several times. As soon as we need to stop the word mixer, we forcibly begin to repeat the same phrases to ourselves, as if displacing, replacing with them what is unnecessary. After some time, the word mixer turns off. Now we “remove” the replacing thoughts and silence in the head is ensured for 1 – 2 minutes.
2. Mental images. Here you don’t need to think anything, you just need to imagine, create a mental picture, a visual image of how a crazy thought appears in your head, and you remove it. There are many options. For example: "aquarium". Imagine that you are sitting at the bottom of an aquarium, watching the fish, as soon as a thought appears, you place it in an air bubble and send it to the surface. Another thought appeared - the same thing: into the bottle and onto the surface. The main thing is not to say to yourself: “here I have another thought, I’m sending it,” the main thing is to imagine this whole process in the form of a picture, preferably a color one. You can imagine that your head is filled with oil (concrete) and all thoughts get stuck in it. Or imagine that you take a towel and wipe all unnecessary thoughts from your head. A thought appeared - it was immediately erased. Imagine a thought in the form of a dog, as soon as it got out and barked, it was immediately pushed into the kennel. I repeat once again: all this must be presented in the form of a visual image, a mental picture. Do not comment under any circumstances!
3. Focus. We concentrate our attention on some process or external object. For example, concentrate on the pulsation of the blood. We take, for example, a palm, concentrate our gaze on it and try to feel how the blood pulsates through it. You can concentrate on the tip of your nose and feel how air enters and leaves it, and feel all the subtleties of the process. In everyday life we don’t pay any attention to this, but here we need to concentrate. The racing of thoughts stops. It is good to concentrate your attention on the flame of a candle, the flame of a fire or on the waves of the sea, the main thing is that at this moment there is nothing to think about and not to indulge in philosophical reasoning.
4. Energy breathing. A very powerful practice that allows you not only to stop your thoughts from racing, but also to recharge your energy. Imagine that we are surrounded not only by air, but also by some energetic substance that feeds us with energy. When we inhale air, we inhale this substance. We exhale as usual, but imagine that we are not exhaling outward, as usual, but inward, through our body. We imagine the body in the form of an empty container, like a hollow chocolate hare or Santa Claus, which is blown out as you exhale. Energy comes in with the air, but it does not come out, but remains in the body. We imagine how energy gradually enters our body, slowly and pleasantly filling all its parts and organs. We imagine how pleasantly the body is filled, stored, charged with energy. We get a boost of energy. If something hurts, then we imagine and feel how air and energy pass through the sore spot, thereby cleansing it. We imagine how pain is displaced by energy from the body and blown out by a stream of air. Feeling all this, our internal dialogue turns off. Even with this practice, a trance state can occur. And trance is a separate issue...
5. Trance states. In trance there is no internal dialogue, there is no racing of thoughts. The paradox of this practice is that in order to enter a trance, you need to turn off the internal chatterbox. But a trance state can occur naturally - the subconscious itself will drive our body into it. You've probably noticed this situation in yourself: after a hearty lunch, you sit down at the computer, start doing something, but suddenly you feel that your eyes are dully fixed on the monitor, there are no thoughts, and your body is immersed in a state of half-asleep... This is not a dream yet, but it’s no longer wakefulness, it’s a trance...
There are many other practices for stopping the racing of thoughts in your head. If you know, describe them in the comments. I will be grateful!!!
This is where I say goodbye for now, see you soon on the blog!
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