What kind of person is able to overcome difficulties? The myth of overcoming difficulties

█ One day, a daughter, a young woman, came to her father and said sadly:- Dad, I’m so tired of everything, I have constant difficulties at work and in my personal life, I just don’t have the strength anymore... How to cope with all this?
█ █ Failure doesn't mean I'm a failure;It means that success is yet to come.Failure does not mean that I have achieved nothing;It means I learned something.

Sit back, relax. Turn to your breath, trust it without trying to control it. We have some difficult issues to address, and it's important that you feel comfortable...

█ █ Pay attention to any occasion (even a very minor one) that will allow you to feel pleasure. Use affirmative sentences.

█ █ They come when you have lost your way so much that the light at the end of the tunnel has become barely visible.

█ █ Once upon a time there lived a Little Soul who once said to God:- I know who I am!

█ █ I spoke to my inner lover and asked: why such a rush? After all, we feel that there is some spiritual force that loves birds, animals and insects.

█ █ One day a small gap appeared in the cocoon, and a person passing by stood for long hours and watched as a butterfly tried to exit through this small gap. A lot of time passed, the butterfly seemed to give up its efforts, and the gap remained just as small.

█ █ How did I create this situation? - you ask from the position of the owner. “I take responsibility for the situation I created.”

█ █ When we give ourselves a second chance and get a little help, very often things work out for us!

█ █ A distinctive feature of the happiest people is the ability... to overcome the most serious obstacles.And happy people are fired from their jobs, they also go broke, get sick and become depressed!Like everyone else, they have many problems.But they have the mental strength to concentrate not on problems, but on solving them.

█ █ “WHY me?” "Why now?"“WHY did she leave me out in the cold?”This question can drive anyone crazy.

BOOKS ABOUT DIFFICULTIES:

██ ██ A book in the dystopian genre from a modern writer. Interesting)In the world where he lives main character- Celestina North exist certain rules, for violation of which a person may receive a stigma.For a wrong decision - a stigma on the temple.For lies - on the tongue.For trying to rob society - on the right palm.For treason against the Tribunal - Brand on the chest, where the heart is.For not keeping up with society - on the sole of the right foot.Therefore, if a person does not want to be branded, then he should lead a decent lifestyle, watch his appearance and speech, not contradict the Tribunal, because he is the law, in general, he should be ideal in everything...

QUOTES ABOUT DIFFICULTIES:

If you feel bad or difficult, find someone who is worse and more difficult than you and help him.

If your life is a struggle with a headwind, then stop this pointless activity and use the time to talk with yourself, think about your own life. Then you may be surprised to find that the wind has changed direction.

Luule Viilma

I don't like difficulties...
I love candy!

Under no circumstances should you lose hope. The feeling of despair is here the real reason failures. Remember: you can overcome any difficulty. Be calm even when you find yourself in a difficult and confusing situation: it will have little effect on you if your mind is calm. On the contrary, if the mind allows you to get angry, then you will lose peace even if the world will be serene and cozy.

If you fall, try to pick up something from the floor while you are lying down.

Scottish proverb

Difficulty is a good thing. When everything is comfortable, easy - well, boring, because you want it even softer, and you feel that you won’t be touched at all, you can’t do anything at all. Therefore, we must perceive difficulties as medicine, as a saving work, as a blessing. Petr Mamonov

From time to time we get into trouble. Do you know why they come? They come to make you aware of the good things you have. It makes life more alive. Accept it.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Never regret anything: sometimes troubles happen for good, and dreams don’t come true for the better.

Everything has a reason. Everything is done for a purpose, and every failure carries a lesson. I realized that losses - both personal, professional, and even spiritual - can significantly expand the horizons of a person. They lead to inner growth and provide a whole range of spiritual gains. Never regret the past. Treat him better as a good teacher. Robin Sharma

TESTS MAKE US IMPROVE

Many believe that the trials of this life are certainly retribution for past sins. But is metal heated in a forge because he has sinned and must be punished? Isn't this being done to improve the properties of the material?

If you are in bad mood If you are offended or upset, use the power of a smile. Even if no one sees you, try to smile to show yourself that you are above all difficulties. Think that you are invulnerable, immortal, eternal. Give yourself a smile, as you sometimes do when passing a mirror. Even if your smile is a little forced, it will still help. As soon as you smile, you will feel in a better mood. And in good mood It will be easier for you to solve your problems.You have no idea how much good a simple smile can do for you and the people around you. When you receive another blow from life, tell yourself: “Everything could have been much worse” - and smile...

Mother Teresa

Turn troubles into strength

conducive to your spiritual development.

If you remember the benefits of problems and apply them to the practice of transforming your thinking, they become desirable for you. They turn from harmful into kind and useful.

Some situations you can handle, while others you have to endure. For example, it doesn’t matter how upset you are that your house is not made of gold, you are still powerless to turn your bricks into gold. No matter how upset you are that the earth is not heaven, you cannot turn the earth into heaven. And there is no point in worrying about such things. No matter how upset you are about your problems or how irritated you are about little things about other people, there is absolutely no reason to worry.

Lama Zopa

I asked for strength - and God sent me trials to strengthen me.
I asked for wisdom - and God sent me problems to puzzle over.
I asked for courage - and God sent me danger.
I asked for love - and God sent the unfortunate ones who need my help.
I asked for blessings - and God gave me opportunities.
I didn't get anything I wanted, but I got everything I needed!
God heard my prayers...

Mother Teresa.

Take a broader look at your troubles. If someone accuses you of something, do not respond with abuse: imagine that this accusation loosens the bonds of your narcissism, and therefore strengthens your ability to care for others.This method is very difficult to use, but if successful it will bring many benefits.

Dalai Lama

Life gives you only those experiences that best contribute to the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know what kind of experience you need? Very simple - the one you live in this moment.

Eckhart Tolle

The best indicator of the level of consciousness is the ability to calmly relate to life's difficulties.
They pull the unconscious person down, while conscious person rising more and more.

Eckhart Tolle

When you ask God about your problem, don't give Him instructions, just tell Him about it...

Shaping future events. A practical guide to overcoming the unknown Shterenberg Irina Irekovna

15. Overcoming life's difficulties

Difficulties happen in every person's life. Sometimes they are resolved by a person easily, and sometimes they unsettle him for a long time. There are real difficulties in our lives that we cannot change and that arose objectively. It can be natural disasters, diseases and more. And there are imaginary difficulties that can arise and exist only in our minds, but which can bother us just as much as real difficulties. In order to determine whether a difficulty is real or not, you need to find the cause of its occurrence.

Difficulties may be far-fetched:

– which we may experience because some of our expectations regarding the behavior of other people have not been fulfilled. Or we may have strong feelings because it seems to us that someone is deliberately causing us trouble, because of someone else's negative opinion of us. In reality, we cannot know exactly what another person thinks and why he acts in one way or another, we can only make assumptions. We will worry about these assumptions if only we allow ourselves to waste our time and energy on these unnecessary experiences;

- difficulties that have not yet arisen, have not taken place, have not occurred, the occurrence of which is only assumed, allowed by man. However, he worries and worries so much as if it had already happened. Usually a person just has a habit of worrying, and it doesn’t matter for what reason. The anticipation of failure is more traumatic than the failure itself. Wean yourself off thinking about possible misfortunes. Much of what a person fears will never happen, and what does happen can be easily eliminated, provided that the person acts calmly, confidently, getting rid of his fears and anxiety.

Until something is broken, you shouldn't fix it. Difficulties should be fought and dealt with as they arise;

– difficulties, size, scale of which are greatly exaggerated. They arise due to fears, anxiety, the habit of worrying about trifles, and increased emotionality. The person himself inflates the problem, looks for more and more possible negative consequences, constantly comes up with various details of possible unfavorable options for the development of the situation.

In such cases, they correctly say: “Don’t make a molehill out of a molehill”;

– there are cases when a person who has some kind of difficulty, a problem in one of the areas of life, transfers it and spreads it to other areas of life. In this case, a completely unfounded feeling of global bad luck and a worsening state of affairs may arise. In such cases, you need to spare yourself, not to bring yourself to a painful state, a state of breakdown. Give yourself a little break. Forgive yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Allow yourself to live and make mistakes.

“A person is never as happy as he wants, and as unhappy as he thinks” (La Rochefoucauld);

- a person may also drown in worries about difficulties that happened to him in the past, but which, however, are perceived by him as happening in the present. That is, a person remains in the past, experiencing past difficulties. Learn to separate the past from the present. In a moment of intense emotion, ask yourself: are you worried about what is happening now, or are you again overtaken by the ghosts of the past?

Ghosts are not real, they will disappear if you ask them to, if you are ready to say goodbye to them.

"Everything passes".

In order to cope with imaginary difficulties:

Method 1.

Make a list of your difficulties. Write down everything you experience in Lately difficulties. Determine which difficulties are real and which are imaginary. Make a hierarchy of imaginary difficulties. Place each difficulty in the context of your entire life. Is this the most difficult test for you? Or can you still change your attitude towards him?

Talk to your difficulty.

Ask her why she is in your life, what you need to learn, what you need to understand. Ask her to tell you what you should do.

Make a decision about what you will do next. Make at least the smallest plan for further actions. What can you start doing now? What will you do tomorrow? Only when you decide to do something to change the situation will you begin to really change it and feel calm.

Having made a list of imaginary difficulties, studied it, worked on it, then tear it up and throw it away. trash can or burn it.

Method 2.

If you can't stop the flow anxious thoughts related to any difficulty:

- imagine what awaits you in the worst case, in the case of the most unfavorable for you further development events;

- accept it as inevitable, come to terms with this outcome of the matter;

– what conclusions can be drawn, what benefits can be derived from this state of affairs? How can you change the situation?

Method 3.

Start living in the present.

To acquire the ability to live in the present, you need to learn to concentrate on what is happening in your life here and now. After all, this exists really and objectively, not in thoughts, not in stories, not in photographs, not in books, not in memory, but exists in reality. It exists only here and now, at the present moment in time, it exists at arm's length, it is painted in clear and distinct colors, it is presented in tangible forms, it has real smells, it has a real taste that exists in reality. These are moments in life that can never be returned. We need to appreciate these moments.

“Only the present is ours” (Aristippus). There is only the present, because the past has already died and the future has not yet been born.

Exercise

Examine the objects around you, paying attention to their shape, smell, color, roughness or smoothness of their surface. Think about the meaning of these objects in a person's life at a given time and place. Choose the subject that interests you more than others, study and describe it in more detail, being present in the present moment, here and now.

Method 4.

If your goal is specific and very desirable, then you simply will not pay attention to many difficulties.

How more people he forbids himself to think about something, the more persistently he thinks about it. Tell yourself that you will never think about your goal, under any circumstances, under any circumstances, and you will immediately notice that this is not so easy to do.

Method 5.

Often a person is frightened by difficulties arising from a lack of necessary information and experience. In this case, a person feels his inadequacy, his helplessness in any area. Determine what skills, knowledge, skills you lack and how you could get them. You can develop them yourself, you can enroll in courses, take individual sessions, learn from the example of other people. The main thing is to decide to learn something new.

There are situations in life when suffering due to difficulties experienced is very strong, especially if these difficulties are real. At such moments, you can remember the Equanimity Prayer:

“God, grant me the equanimity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can change, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

A person who wants to succeed faces difficulties more often than someone who does not have great demands. Any failure or difficulty is not forever, it is only a temporary deviation from the intended goal, from the chosen path. It must be passed as a test in order to become stronger and wiser. Every difficulty is a small obstacle on our way, overcoming which, “climbing” it, we become higher and see new horizons, new opportunities. As a result of overcoming difficulties, our consciousness expands and our vitality increases.

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In life you have to face big amount various problems. It's an endless chain of ups and downs. It seems that in most cases the problem can be overcome, but not everyone quickly gets back on their feet after a serious failure. Sometimes it hurts too much. But keeping going is incredibly important. Here are five useful tips, which will help you overcome traumatic experiences more easily and teach you to look into the future with confidence.

Remember the difficult moments in life

It may seem that this bad idea, but everything is not so simple - thoughts of failure bring sadness, but at the same time they help you understand that you can cope with any difficulty. You were able to continue living. Usually it seems that the problem has ruined life forever, so remembering similar disasters is very important. You become stronger with every new experience. Allow yourself to draw strength from your past, it is your invaluable luggage.

Write or tell me how you feel

Abstract yourself from the situation

It can be difficult to make rational decisions when you find yourself in the middle of a problem. Of course, you shouldn’t run away from difficulties either, but you shouldn’t plunge into difficult situation you don’t need to go headlong - this way you lose the ability to normally weigh all the arguments and sensibly assess your situation. This happens much more often than I would like to admit. Try to abstract yourself in every difficult situation and think about everything that is happening calmly. Take a break. If you have tense relatives or colleagues around you, spend some time alone with yourself. Sometimes all that is needed to solve a problem is just a little respite and a break to think.

Remind yourself that you are not alone

It’s so easy to withdraw into yourself and feel completely alone, but remembering that someone who absolutely loves you is nearby is much more difficult. Sometimes such a person is not around real life, but you can find support online. No matter who you are, there are people who care, who are ready to listen and support. Sometimes strangers can understand you better than you can understand yourself. They have also had similar problems, they understand your emotions. Perhaps someone is in the same situation as you right now. Just find this person.

Accept the situation and become stronger

No matter how difficult it may be, you should accept the situation and come to terms with what happened - it’s still impossible to change the past. It doesn't matter who is to blame for what happened. Just accept what happened and move on. Now you have new experience that will help you deal with the same problem next time. You will be stronger and will not repeat your mistake. Life goes on, time never stands still, the main decision you can make is the decision to move on. Don't look back to the past, everything has already happened. Just consider that your character is now stronger and be proud of yourself. You went through a difficult moment, but it does not define you or your entire life. Learn a life lesson from it and don't dwell on that memory again. Absolutely awaits you ahead new life, not related to this problem.

Life is not simple and not fair - it’s not for us to tell you about that.

“She was caught in a storm and when the wind was blowing in the other direction, she adjusted her sails to it.”

Elizabeth Edwards

Elizabeth Edwards is no stranger to life's struggles: she has battled breast cancer, suffered the infidelity of her husband (John Edwards, the 2004 vice presidential candidate), and faced repeated harassment from the press. Despite all this, she held on and saved face.

Elizabeth Edwards demonstrated an undeniable truth: we all experience internal struggles, and in some cases they can be terribly difficult.

We are all human and we learn from our mistakes, but only to a certain extent.

Any difficulty along the way can teach us something, and Elizabeth Edwards understood this even in her final days.

Harvard University Study

The Harvard University study on the formation and development of personality is considered one of the longest studies in history: it lasted as much as 75 years. Researchers tried to find an answer to the question: What is the secret of a happy and successful life? (Hint: it's not power or money).

George Vaillant, a psychiatrist who has led the study for the past 30 years, was able to reach a final conclusion based on a huge amount of evidence: the happiest people are those who can see the good even in the worst situations.

The ability to accept the negative things life throws at us has a significant effect on social support and overall well-being.

Keep a “test notebook”

Based on the research, Vaillant advises everyone to keep a notebook in which to write down all the trials and difficulties that you have encountered. Moreover, Mr. Vaillant claims that the most happy people always ask themselves certain questions when life presents them with difficulties.

Here are 4 questions you can ask yourself in any difficult situation:

What can this teach me?

It's easiest to see any difficulty as, at best, an annoyance, and at worst, as something that can break you. After we overcome another difficulty or solve a problem, it is important to ask ourselves: What can this situation teach me?

And no, the answer “nothing” is not accepted. No matter what the situation is, it can always teach you something new.

Let's imagine that you were fired from your job. Ask yourself: “Is this what I dreamed of?”, “Was this my calling?”, “What can I do better next time?”

Just answer honestly. You might surprise yourself.

Did it make me stronger?

Try to perceive the difficulties along your path as new opportunities. Whether you realize it or not, but life trials make you stronger. If we are able to recognize this, we can not only cope with difficulties, but also discover hidden strengths and abilities within ourselves that we never knew existed.

How can this situation be beneficial for me?

Life's challenges can provide you with invaluable opportunities for personal development.

Let's imagine another situation: your children leave their parents' nest, go to study or somewhere far from home for the first time in their lives. Will you be sad? Definitely yes. You love your children and they will always be a part of you.

But if you look at the situation from the other side, you can understand how beautiful it is. For the first time in their lives, your children have a wonderful opportunity to see the world around them and find new adventures. You will have more free time, which you can devote to what you really like.

How can I use my experience to help others?

Here's another example: military wives who are experiencing long separations from their husbands.

Women whose husbands serve in the army, navy or navy, use their experience to help others, tell how you can survive a long separation from your loved one and what to expect.

Again, a situation that at first glance seemed difficult and heartbreaking can become favorable.

If you haven't been through a particular challenge, you won't be able to help others cope with similar situations.

Being persistent does not mean being indifferent. You go through this test, you experience certain feelings, you fail and you experience pain. You fall, but nevertheless, you find the strength to get up and move on.

1) Negation.
This is the very moment when we do not want to live with our misfortune, we are afraid of tomorrow and accepting the obvious. Usually at this moment we have to enter into a completely different reality, not similar to the one that existed before. We do not recognize the existence of an insoluble (or very difficult to resolve) contradiction. This period lasts from a couple of minutes to several years. Realizing that trouble has happened and will one day make itself felt (or has already made itself felt), we live, oppressed constant fear and depression. What's important here? First of all, don’t bury your head in the sand. In addition, we should not confuse real trouble with a bunch of troubles or fears that our rich imagination throws at us. If trouble happens, it is not minor and sits in our soul as a huge thorn. If the trouble happened suddenly, but it is fixable, it is important to start solving the problem not immediately, when you are still in a state of shock, but at least a day later, when you spent the night with trouble.

2) Compensation and acknowledgment of what happened.
During this period, we ask for help and don’t understand how to continue living, we don’t want to think about the future and try to somehow distract ourselves. Having admitted grief, we experience very strong stress. At this time, everything is seething in us, but we are not capable of any action, since both the processes of excitation and inhibition are working in the body at the same time. Not every organism can withstand this, and the subconscious gets to work, looking for a way out, for example, drawing our attention to another area where there are no difficulties. The way out for negativity is in some conversations, chores, or just a walk. The subconscious thus displaces all the thoughts and questions that torment us. Here it is important to allow the subconscious to work, that is, to distract from the past: know that neurosis does not arise because of a difficult period in life, but because we overwhelm ourselves. But do not be distracted by artificial and strong irritants, that is, alcohol or drugs. In this case you will again get a vicious circle

3) Aggression.
What happens during this period? Trouble still sits like a thorn in our souls and controls us. And then we notice that everything is bad with us, but everyone around us is as before. This is where aggression is born. A person can direct it at himself, perceiving trouble as his own fault and becoming convinced of his own inferiority. This is how self-confidence is undermined. If self-esteem is high, a person lashes out at those around him, trying to lower their level of existence and make it worse for those who are doing well. The main thing is not to get stuck here. Analyze what happened, change yourself, whatever, just don’t get stuck in your aggression.

4) Reliving.
We begin to relive our misfortune, talk about it and share it with loved ones (or not so much. This is already recovery, and by reliving and telling, we make the grief less significant. If we talk about our misfortune several times, it no longer seems terrible. We also these moments we relieve ourselves of imaginary (or real) guilt for what happened. But don’t get stuck and press on pity, otherwise you will turn into an energy vampire.

5) New birth.
We learn to live with our misfortune on our own. Our task is to turn our thorn into new part themselves. Here you can say a lot of cliches about the fact that what does not kill us, and about the fact that we have become stronger after a difficult period. No, this is now for life and you build it without trouble. It’s just that the entire difficult period in life can be perceived as rebirth.

— How to learn to take difficulties lightly.

The essence of a simple attitude to any problem is as follows:

1)Rest assured, this is temporary. Nothing lasts forever, including difficulties. It won't always be like this!

2) Everything that happens in a person’s life, he is able to overcome. Cultivate self-confidence in your abilities. Over time, it will become your unshakable quality;

3) If you feel bad, help someone whose situation is even worse. Then you will understand how happy you are;

4) You can’t involve all sorts of emotions when you’re trying to solve a problem. It takes away energy and deprives you of strength. Learn to see only the essence of the problem, as well as ways to solve it. Determine your capabilities and gradually eliminate the consequences of the difficulties that arise.

5) There is no need to worry about future possible troubles. Anticipating possible difficulties, just be prepared to solve them. Do everything possible to prevent an unfavorable scenario from developing. Once you have done your job, be satisfied with your actions: it is impossible to predict everything. However, in to a greater extent you will be ready for any troubles and will easily cope with them;

6) Concentrate on the positive aspects of your life. Even when restoring a destroyed house, you can think not about your loss, but about a new, yet best home. Learn to enjoy life despite any adversity, be grateful for what you have. The feeling of well-being will not leave you if you learn to appreciate everything you have;

7) Be prepared for losses. This is an integral part of our life. While we lose something, we still gain something. You need to be able to see the positive, beneficial sides in any situation;

8) There is no use in being angry because difficulties have arisen. Just try to quickly cope with the situation, without wasting your strength, without complaining about fate. By mentally or out loud repeating your complaints, you attract more and more troubles;

9)Be active, work physically. Even a simple jog can remove heavy thoughts, making it easier to cope with a difficult situation;

10) Stop complaining and make an effort to overcome a difficult situation. Think, look for a way out, direct all the energy of your thoughts to find a solution and simply do the necessary work;

11) Having dealt with the problem, rejoice from the bottom of your heart! Capture a useful experience in your memory. Everything that does not kill us strengthens us. You have become stronger, more confident, wiser.

They really do happen in life. difficult situations, deep grief when we lose loved ones, ability to work, our health, property. Then use these tips:

1) Repeat to yourself: “I will overcome this!” Ask God for help. If you don't believe in God, ask the Universe for strength. These forces will come, rest assured! We attract what we think about. When you ask the world for strength, you will certainly receive it.

2) Ask your loved ones for help if you feel like you can’t cope with the situation. Often human participation fills the soul with new strength, relieves tension, and negative emotions go away;

3) Choose the right thoughts: those that create, not destroy. After the storm there will always be sunshine.

— 5 tips on how to cope with life’s difficulties and pain.

1) Remember the difficult moments in life.
It may seem like a bad idea, but it's not that simple - thoughts of failure bring sadness, but at the same time they help you understand that you can cope with any difficulty. You were able to continue living.

3)Abstract yourself from the situation.
It can be difficult to make rational decisions when you find yourself in the middle of a problem. Of course, you shouldn’t run away from difficulties either, but you also don’t need to plunge headlong into a difficult situation - this way you lose the ability to normally weigh all the arguments and sensibly assess your situation. Try to abstract yourself in every difficult situation and think about everything that is happening calmly. Take a break.

4)Remind yourself that you are not alone.
It’s so easy to withdraw into yourself and feel completely alone, but remembering that someone who absolutely loves you is nearby is much more difficult. Sometimes that person isn't around in real life, but you can find support online. No matter who you are, there are people who care, who are ready to listen and support. Sometimes strangers can understand you better than you can understand yourself. Just find this person.

5) Accept the situation and become stronger.
No matter how difficult it may be, you should accept the situation and come to terms with what happened - it’s still impossible to change the past. It doesn't matter who is to blame for what happened. Just accept what happened and move on. Now you have new experience that will help you deal with the same problem next time. You will be stronger and will not repeat your mistake. Life goes on, time never stands still, the main decision you can make is the decision to move on. Don't look back to the past, everything has already happened. There is a completely new life ahead of you, not connected with this problem.