Right life. Simple correct life

If a person is thinking about how to start leading correct image life, this means that something does not suit him in the current state of affairs. To understand whether changes are needed, just ask yourself a question: does my lifestyle make me happy, help me develop? If the answer is “no”, but the time has come for change, and simple recommendations will help with this

What is a lifestyle?

Lifestyle is a set of habits, actions implemented in in a certain order or according to schedule. Expressed in characteristics of behavior, thinking, and decision-making. It determines daily routine, cultural and social preferences. This is a plan that repeats itself cyclically over time.

What is the right way of life?

Having understood what a lifestyle is, you can understand whether it is correct or not. Why to certain people can you hear that they live wrong? Most often, this means that they violate generally accepted norms - social, moral, legislative.

If we think more broadly, then the right lifestyle is aimed at personal, spiritual, social growth. But the wrong one leads to degradation. Much depends on national and cultural characteristics. For example, in Asian countries the cult of family is more developed, while in European countries, up to a certain age, career comes first. Traditions and upbringing greatly influence behavior and placement.

But “correct” does not mean standardized and not necessarily generally accepted. Often this definition includes what makes a person happy, helps him achieve his goals, and gives him motivation.

A person’s way of life, what is it like?

Healthy

Peculiarities:

Absence bad habits, such as smoking or drinking alcohol.
Regular exercise.
Proper nutrition.

There are a lot of advantages here. By adhering to this behavior, you can improve your health, always look young, and achieve longevity. Motivation and the ability to not give in to temptation are important. It is also necessary to maintain a balance between work and rest.

Secular

Peculiarities:

Actively attend social events, their topics depend solely on interests.
Putting your life on display, for example, on social networks.
Commitment to branded clothing, scrupulousness in matters of style, choosing friends, tracking trends.

Leading a secular lifestyle does not always mean belonging to the elite strata of society. In a more simplified version, it means to be fashionable, to “hang out”, to change along with trends in society. For people with such vital activity, they make numerous new acquaintances; it is easier for them to make connections, including business ones.

Among the shortcomings is the desire to find a price for everything or attach labels. But this style also helps to make friends, be open, and live a fun life.

Stag

Peculiarities:

Reluctance to get married or start a long-term relationship.
Mobility.
High value of personal space boundaries.

Some people elevate freedom to a cult, others simply run away from relationships due to complexes or fears. But if we attribute the word “bachelor” specifically to a lifestyle, then it is not limited solely to freedom from relationships. It's about about the freedom to make decisions in general, when a person operates only with his own opinion and life experience.

Family

Peculiarities:

Caring for family members, regardless of who they are - brothers, sisters, parents, children, spouses.
The desire to be in a group of people, to seek their support, to feel unity.
Ability to make compromises and take into account the opinions of different people.

Family lifestyle presupposes that marriage, the creation of a social unit, is main goal. This determines leisure time, which is often spent in places where all family members will enjoy it. Even in earning money, the motivation is to build a foundation for the future well-being of the family.

How to change your lifestyle?

The main thing and happiness - live the way you want. The way of life should be built on the basis of this postulate.

Set environmentally friendly goals. You need to set goals that do not intentionally harm you or other people. For example, a company has opened a new position for which 10 employees are applying. It is clear that there will be only one winner, he will receive new office, an increase in salary, but it is better to achieve a position in an honest way, showing professionalism, and not by denigrating or substituting colleagues, making deals with your own conscience.
Change your image without changing your life. If a person decides to become a vegetarian, this does not mean that now he needs to stop communicating with meat-eating friends or give up family dinners with baked chicken. You just need to notify your loved ones that your diet has changed, and a compromise will be found.
Be flexible. Any lifestyle can be adjusted along the way. If at some point a bachelor wants to start a family, he can do so. Just like a family man may want a little personal freedom; for this it is not necessary to get a divorce.
Act now. Some decisions require immediate execution. If a person is going to lose weight, he should immediately put away the cake and cutlets, and not convince himself that it is better to start the diet on Monday. If some changes have been brewing for a long time, their time has come. And it has come right now!
Find "window". A person’s lifestyle covers all its spheres. Neither of them should suffer because of the change. For example, if a person decides to go to Gym, he cannot do this instead of dates with his loved one or instead of a morning meeting at work. You need to think about where there is a “window” in the schedule or how to make it painless for other areas.

If a person decides to change his lifestyle, it must be done in such a way that the changes are noticeable, but do not cause discomfort. For example, a recluse who suddenly wants to start living a secular life may quickly become disappointed in it due to the lack of experience communicating with a large flow of people.

A person who decides to lead an active lifestyle should not immediately climb Everest; it is better to start with a hike in the nearest forest or rock climbing. You also need to remember that any change begins with an internal decision.

Your Destination

“Nikolai Ivanovich, I recently re-read Paulo Coelho. I was hooked by this thought: “Each person has his own purpose, his own life path, and only by fulfilling this purpose will he be able to make his life joyful and meaningful».

“Every person has his own purpose,” Coelho said. It's beautiful, I want to believe in it. Moreover, it seems that it is simply necessary to believe in this: as biographical studies have shown, those who left a worthy mark on the history of mankind, as a rule, believed in their special destiny in childhood. However, I dare to put a certain limit on conversations about destiny.

Do you seriously suggest that there is some kind of High power who deals labor activity each of us personally? Which not only assigned you, me and everyone to a certain job, but rewards happiness for good performance, and punishes for non-fulfillment: boredom to do something you don’t like? I hear something like romantic paganism in this: “The world is kind and strict, it gives me signs, I need to guess them. If I’m inattentive, he’ll punish me, but if I guess right, there’ll be a lot of happiness...”

This is not faith, this is superstition. Most often, girls like to believe in this: to believe that they find themselves in the Center of the World, that the whole world is arranged for their sake and revolves around them, personally rewarding them or personally punishing them. This is called centropupism: the belief that you personally are the center of the world, that all the people around you, their destinies and events, are only performers in an exciting performance named after you... Children seriously believe in this. Should adults insist on this?

I don’t know whether a person has a purpose, whether everyone has one, what it is and how obligatory it is... Instead, I always try to understand what this particular faith, this particular conviction gives to a person. It seems that in childhood, believing in your Destiny is good and correct. Later is debatable.

Believing in your purpose promises you that you can be happy and pushes you to find the real deal. This is important, this is great. But this same belief, as a rule, hides other interesting premises, namely:

You only have one real thing to do,
It's easy for you to know your business. As soon as you find him, you will be immediately and automatically and forever happy.
If you are not always happy yet, then what you do is none of your business.

These premises seem quite controversial to me. And dangerous...

I think that there are more interesting things in a person’s life than the dreary search for purpose. In your life there is your love, love for people and life, there is your skill, your lively look, your freedom of choice - and this is more important and higher. Yes, are you the only one who has all this?

Appeal: “I don’t know what business I should do in life. I’m not attracted to anything…” - quite typical. Over time, I discovered a surprising pattern: as a rule, people who can do very few things well are approached with this. Those who don't know how to do anything - great. It’s true that if a person likes something, he begins to do it a lot, with soul, and over time becomes a master. On the other hand, the opposite is even more true: what we can do well, we begin to like. Maybe there is no point in this, maybe no one needs it, but if I can at least move my finger coolly - it flies in any direction, as if alive - then even this meaningless thing becomes my favorite.

“Why are you twisting your finger?” - “Well, I like it!”

An adult, accomplished person knows and believes that there are many beautiful and necessary things in the world that he can do with pleasure and meaning, especially if he becomes a master of them. Anyone who knows how to enjoy life and knows how to love (you know how?) does not sink to melancholy. He studies happily, gets acquainted with life and his own characteristics (talents) with interest, works hard and with pleasure, setting increasingly significant and more difficult goals. Become big man, work creatively - and you will never be bored in life.

Yes?
How to find your business

Paulo Coelho writes about how terrible it is to waste years of your life doing something you don't love. Doing it only for the sake of money, for the sake of stability, or in the hope that patience and work will replace sincere desire. This is how they appear

“The mother of a family who dreamed of becoming a model, a dentist who, secretly from everyone, is writing a book and would like to devote herself to literature, this is the girl. who dreams of television, but sits at the cash register in the supermarket.”

Giving up a dream is like giving up a child: it’s both painful and unacceptable, but the problem with the above types, it seems to me, is different. I am close to the view of Eric Berne, according to which these are rather personal games of losers who happily attribute their laziness, inactivity and inability to live to external circumstances: “Now, if I were a model...”, “Oh, life is completely different on television !

The worst thing that can really happen in their life is the fulfillment of their dreams, when life gives them the opportunity to be active, creative and happy, but they simply do not know how to do this...

Maybe it’s a matter of calling, but most often there’s something else behind it: the inability to do one’s job well, as well as the fear of mistakes and the fear that there will be punishment for mistakes. Runs after fear defensive position: fatigue, drooping shoulders and arms, later the justification wording that popped up in my soul “It’s probably not mine!”...

As a child, this behavior protected you: how can you swear at such an unfortunate person now?

Fear also gives birth to the desire to shift responsibility for my failures and difficulties onto someone else: someone who should authoritatively and responsibly tell me what and how I really need to do. According to my purpose.

Because what would it be like without him?

More successful and responsible people do things differently.

Firstly, they master the technology of teaching themselves new things - and easily master any new business.

There is no problem in becoming a cashier, a bank clerk, a mother, a musician - or anyone, and you can do all this with talent, success and pleasure.

Secondly, they get to know their talents and characteristics.

To do this, you need to try a lot and not give up on a new business when faced with the first difficulties. From the outside it always seems that others are doing better and easier: one’s own difficulties are immediately visible, but the difficulties of others are not visible from the outside. Be patient: it usually takes at least six months to master a new business: only after that can you assess what inclinations you really have for this business. Sometimes making a list of things that you definitely can’t and don’t want to do is a good move...

Thirdly, from all these different cases that are open to them, they choose more promising ones, which open the way to a fan of even more promising cases.

It is hardly promising to sit at the checkout counter in a supermarket - this is a place for the completely lazy and it is not clear where to grow from here. Clerk is more interesting; with a creative approach, quick work is possible career, you just need to think and study a lot. Dentist - wonderful, exceptional creative work- if you are, of course, inclined towards creativity. And so on.

Fourthly, study and think through Negative consequences any choice.

Only the very naive assume that working as a model, writer or on television is a complete waste of money. I assure you, this is very much for everyone. And only if you have learned well what this work really consists of (in everyday life and gray everyday life), how will you have to pay for its visible joys, if you have looked at the real bearers of this life, talked with them and received blessings and recommendations from them - that way.

And most importantly, they estimate that everything will be in greater demand in life.

What interests you - do people need it? Are they ready to pay money for your skills and talents, for your services? If after this you understand that people will really need your work, if you feel that people will need you, your life will definitely be bright and interesting.

Now many people say and think that there is no right way, that everyone has their own completely unique path in life, to which there cannot be any single measure. It is argued that someone’s life cannot be more correct than someone else’s, just as there is no single cut of clothing that suits everyone, and the story of a correct life is only an imposition completely different people the private opinion of the one who talks about this correct life. - That's right, it happens like that. Only when you see crooked or sloppy stitching on clothes do you realize that these clothes are not from the best fashion designers. A creative approach to life is one thing, but an inept or carelessly constructed, or even broken, life is another.

"Right life- necessarily difficult and boring, in which there is a lot of work and little joy,” fortunately, this is a myth. The right life may well be easy, natural and joyful.

It seems to some that the right life is all about forcing, work and discipline. It seems wrong, but don’t lump everything into one pile. There is reasonable discipline in a right life, but the word “discipline” is pronounced here not sadly, but with pride. “Forcing” - definitely not. When you force yourself, this is a wrong life. "Job"? - In the right life there is no more work than in any other life, but work becomes joy.

After all, what is work? We usually call work what we don’t want to do, but have to. When you start living correctly, you no longer “have to” anything, and inner feeling you stop working. You will do whatever you need to do, but if you do it naturally, it will become part of your life, but not work. It is necessary to have breakfast in the morning, and for this you even need to sit down at the table and feed yourself. But is this work? You do this for yourself, you have breakfast with pleasure. And in the right life you do everything exactly the same. As a matter of course, you do all the things that you absolutely must do.

Maybe the right life means additional stress and burden? At first it’s a burden, and later, when you integrate it into your lifestyle, it’s more yours and natural.

Of course, there will always be some effort, but sometimes you just want it. Jumping at a disco is, well, also a burden, but we don’t mind, do we? It takes as much effort to build and maintain good relationships as it does to have a fight. So why then waste energy on arguing, if for the same energy you can live in an amicable way?

In a truly correct life, no one guarantees you complete and absolute happiness; you will often experience both deficiency and lack - but you will know that you are living correctly! When you feel with your whole body that you desperately need three lives in a row and at least two in parallel, when every day is terribly short for you, when you absolutely will not have enough whole life- you have the right life!

There is one slippery topic that has already been indirectly touched upon in various articles, avoiding voicing it directly. Today I decided to approach her carefully. I’ll start, as always, a little from afar. Yes, if anyone does not understand, I remind you that in this blog I do not write sacred scriptures about the truth, but express my personal opinion.

Once in childhood, gaining relative consciousness, we find ourselves in this space without coordinates in the chaos of what is happening. And we notice the towering figures of adults nearby. From them we get information about how to live. We take this information on faith without understanding it, because to understand it early age We don’t know how yet. The world seems incomprehensibly mysterious, almost magical, so you just have to believe in its laws. All its rules are perceived by default, like sacred rituals of initiation into the truth, from which one “cannot” deviate. We never fully know why “you can’t”, but we get used to violating it. global ban(to undesirable behavior) feel ashamed, guilty – bad and undeserving of the love of god-like, “omnipotent” adults. We learn to believe what is right, good, and what is false and bad. This is how the deep motives of emotions are formed - from blind, convinced knowledge of what life should be like.

The psyche is multi-layered. The superficial layers are the same ones where we now, with our “adult” minds, begin to “understand everything,” but sometimes we cannot do anything. Because in the depths of the soul, childhood beliefs have already been sown, growing to today’s abode of the mind in the form of vague feelings. They can go against reality for a long time, and at the same time, due to their rootedness, they influence the mind and demand their own, much sharper and more persistent than current, adult views.

As a result, reason and logic, with all their productivity, sometimes helplessly capitulate when children's emotions are absorbed. No matter how rationally a person approaches planning his “correct” life, if these plans run counter to his emotions and feelings, counting on their fulfillment will be arrogant naivety.

This is exactly how internal conflicts happen, where the deep within us competes with the superficial. .

These spontaneous automatic stimuli from the past give rise in the present to that same neurotic behavior, which takes into account not the real situation, but subjective, sometimes frankly childish requirements for life.

This is where all the “musts” and “shoulds” come from. The mind is left to get out of it, attributing abstract morality to its own irrational claims - they say, “it’s not me who is whining, but, in general, it’s “necessary” and “correct.”

Absorption

Absorption by emotions makes a person unstable and chaotic. A person himself does not know what he wants, makes impulsive decisions that he is unable to follow. His feelings live their own lives, and seem to walk in parallel corridors, meeting, perhaps, for internal conflict.

That is, even when encountering an outright inconsistency own views, the emotional person is unable to combine his conflicting feelings in order to exhaust the internal conflict. As a result, a person can love and please today, hate tomorrow - and so on in endless cycles.

Relatively speaking, when there are a lot of sagging neuroses in the psyche, they absorb the territory of consciousness. At the same time, the channel of perception narrows, and any intense emotions completely cover it, loading all thoughts with their energy. As a result, everything that a person worries about becomes the final objective reality for him - even the most outright chimeras are taken at face value. Whatever movie the mind shows, such life is perceived without any doubt.

The stronger the emotions are, the weaker the contact with reality. At the same time, the mind rushes about like a weather vane in the wind, jumps from one personal plot to another - happy in the morning, terrified by the evening, calmed down again at night. Experiences paint contradictory roles in personal history: hero and loser, victorious and defeated, loved and despised. Identification with such roles can be all-encompassing, like an indestructible holy truth - that same strong faith coming from childhood.

Expanded Consciousness

When consciousness remains relatively expanded and emotions do not absorb, then the person is able to notice that current experiences are not about life, but about themselves - and do not express reality, but their own energy. This factor gives rise to the opportunity to combine and reconcile incompatible desires. They seem to form a whole picture, where there is no ground left for conflicting motives.

As such reconciliation with oneself comes, mental centering comes - with it the person understands what he really wants and is able to consistently follow his decisions without any friction.

That is, when there are no internal mental conflicts, then there are no internal contradictions, and no special willpower in order to live productively, healthy life not required if this is what you really want.

Conscious, informed decisions come from a meaningful, real “I want.” Here, responsibility is taken upon oneself, rather than shifted to ideals about how things “should” be.

The ability to live and act exactly as you want is a characteristic of a healthy, integrated personality that is no longer torn apart by internal conflicts. At the same time, a person clearly realizes from the depths of his soul that being good, correct, successful, comfortable is not obliged, in general, to anything. His feelings are not a fake grimace for the sake of society, but a real sincere expression of his nature.

After all, there is nothing sacred about a virtue that is practiced solely out of fear of punishment or selfish hope of reward. In this vein, the “righteous man” himself is a mercantile liar.

Only a consciously balanced, responsible attitude to what is happening, without the onslaught of artificial mental debts, leads one out of neurosis. Otherwise, all love and kindness become just as artificial and hysterical, squeezed in the grip of responsibilities.

Very simply, the neurotic “knows” how things “should” be. A healthy personality admits that there are no reliable coordinates the right way she doesn’t know, but she understands what she wants in this kaleidoscope of life.

"Sacrilege"

No matter how good and holy the ideals encourage one to be, no matter how beautiful and “correct” the path is drawn, mental well-being follows the route of utmost consciousness and honesty with oneself. All the ideals and beliefs taken on blind faith are explored and worked through step by step here. In a sense, this is the overthrow of all imposed shrines.

I understand how ambiguous such a statement sounds, as if they are suggesting some kind of sacrilege. As a disclaimer, I want to say that both religious and social morality are not at all some kind of evil. In order for order to be maintained in society, the instilled laws of life remain an urgent necessity to restrain primitive habits until the individual reaches the stage where he feels the need for a conscious life. And not everyone needs this.

But a person unprepared for the truth can and should practice unconditional faith into the “correct” life. And even this text in this case will naturally cause internal emotional protest.

Then, “betraying” one’s own ideals ahead of schedule makes no sense. Hasty mental looseness leads to emotional coldness and devastation. It is advisable to analyze not everything in a row, but those actual personal “shrines” that are tearing the insides apart today.

Still, ideals and morality in society are frankly overestimated. Almost everyone is moralized, but the institutions where they treat the consequences of this plastic surgery souls, it is unlikely to be found in a medical reference book.

This does not mean, however, that all religious and social paths are wrong. Life doesn't fit into these categories. There is simply a path - everything that happened, is happening and will happen. And “right” and “wrong” are pure, relative conventions.

For example, to prepare dinner, it would be correct to use food that is suitable for consumption. But in everything that concerns life in general and even the specific choice of the next turn on the path, all the rules are purely convention.

"Correct" life

The only criterion for a conditionally “correct” life that I personally developed for myself is decisions whose consequences you do not regret. And there is no need to regret anything - it is pointless.

No one can really force anything on us. Even when we rely on other people’s knowledge and ready-made paths, we submit to someone’s will - this is still ours. personal choice in the face of the unknown. And responsibility for it should be placed solely on yourself.

To get out of the captivity of neuroses, there is no other way out than to discover that you are shackling yourself with all the boundaries of “must” and “must”. And this must be discovered not just by logical understanding, but by an in-depth study of one’s experiences.

Behind every emotionally charged belief about who you are and what you are worthy of is a blind belief. To reveal an emotion with all its hidden motives, you need to dig into it - explore it thoroughly until exhaustion. Otherwise, these subcutaneous automatisms will become your future fate - the boundaries along which the path will continue.

We never truly know what life is or how to live “correctly.” There are no real coordinates of the correct path. There is only this, already happening, uncouth, sometimes orderly, sometimes wild reality. Whatever dreams position hopes, all of them, one way or another, are devastatingly losing to what already exists - this silent inevitability called “life”.

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“The life of most people is like Groundhog Day. Early rise, stuck in traffic jams, eight hours of office slavery with a lunch break, more traffic jams, evenings with beer and TV or the Internet, drunken Friday, on weekends a trip with the family and children to the shopping and entertainment center... A series of holidays from year to year, winter holidays, February 14 and 23, March 8, May holiday, Victory Day, summer, vacation, birthdays, New Year and everything is new.

Social zombies live by the principle “Consume, Multiply, Live for the Weekend.” Or “Consume, work, die,” to put it more crudely. Workdays, then leisure time at the monitor or in a drunken company or in pursuit of new purchase, a portion of sex or a dose of entertainment, and the next morning it’s work again, and so on in a circle.

They live in anticipation of finishing school, then university or technical school, then marriage, and - before spending the rest of their years waiting for a pension and settlement of mortgage payments - when children are born and grow up, who will also wait for school to end , then the university/technical school, when there is a wedding, they will pay the mortgage payments, their children will grow up, who will also live according to the above scenario... Unless they want to interrupt such an existence by moving towards a high goal.

If the essence of the life of a Consumer Man is work, entertainment, reproduction and consumption, then a Creator Man is characterized, as the name suggests, by the creation of something new and useful, which improves, develops and harmonizes the world. The consumer is a person of the masses, of whom the vast majority. There are many fewer creators, but they are the ones who set the world in motion. Consumers don't decide for themselves; they follow trends. Creators are trendsetters.

The Consumer Man only takes and uses values. He looks for a thrill in consumption (entertainment, sex, shopping and showing off). The Creator Man creates values himself and experiences a thrill in creating something useful.

A consumer person sees happiness through achieving external goals - accumulating wealth, acquiring property, etc. The Creator Man finds happiness in creation.

The Consumer Man listens to society with its programming, lives in the reality created by TV and the media, thinks as they are told from the screen/monitor. The Creator Man listens first of all to himself, has his own strong reality based on what he has learned and seen himself.

The confidence, attitude and value system of the Consumer Man is based on the reactions of others and the value of his property. That is, I am confident in myself as long as those around me treat me well, do they give me women (and what kind), do I have an apartment (and what kind), do I have a car (and what kind), how prestigious is my work, what brands of clothes I wear, what device I use to talk... etc.

The confidence, attitude and value system of the Creator Man rests on who he is, what he can do, what he does, what useful things he creates.

That is, inner rod The Creator Man is based on the level of the mission, and the confidence of the Consumer Man is based on the level of property and the reaction of others, i.e. on transitory values. If what these values are based on collapses, then confidence will collapse.

A consumer person needs work to obtain a livelihood and entertainment. Moreover, he will realize himself and identify his personality with how he spends his leisure time. For a Creator Man, work [almost always] is the realization of his personal mission.

The meaning of life for a Consumer Man: work for money, money for entertainment and acquiring show-offs, showing off for the sake of getting sex and raising a sense of one’s own greatness. Well, reproduce your own kind into the world. What is the meaning of the life of a Creator Man?

A consumer person measures his dignity by the size of his home, the brand of his car, smartphone, suit. The dignity of the Creator Man is measured by the usefulness of his deeds - what he produced, what he built, what he created, how much real benefit he provided with his work.

“True courage does not consist in heroic efforts aimed at achieving external goals, but in the determination to go through terrible experience collisions with oneself. Until the individual finds his true essence within himself, any attempts to give meaning to life through manipulation in the external world and the achievement of external goals will remain fruitless and ultimately doomed to failure by quixoticism,” as psychologist and philosopher Stanislav Grof put it. .

Here I don't want to be misunderstood. I do not claim that “money is evil”, “acquisitiveness is a sin”, one must give up earning money, go to the mountains for enlightenment, and be poor, but righteous. Undoubtedly, money is very important, as it gives relative material freedom. But making money is not a goal in a global sense. This is to ensure your livelihood. This especially applies to cases when the money earned is worth nothing; it is mined to simply be spent on entertainment and unnecessary things. Buying and accumulating “status” property is also not the goal, this is consumerism.

A person who sets the goal of his life to earn as much as possible and buy expensive property will sooner or later find himself in a situation where he realizes that he has things, but there is no meaning in life. That all the gloss, luxury and glamor cannot replace the feeling of happiness, joy, the feeling that he is truly living.

External well-being does not mean internal happiness; such a person will not feel satisfied, no matter how much wealth he surrounds himself with. That is why many top businessmen, politicians and show business stars try to drown out their inner vacuum in alcohol, drugs, social parties and sexual perversions, which the media like to talk about, passing off this “status” pastime as signs of a “beautiful life”.

To put it simply and briefly, you should strive not to achieve success, but to ensure that your life has meaning.

It’s wonderful when a person manages to combine material wealth with inner satisfaction. But this is exactly what you need to do - ignore the pressure of society and look for yourself. How to come to creation? Universal recipes No. The main thing is to listen to yourself, look for your niche, even through trial and error, and do in life what you love, what you do best, and what benefits people.

It doesn’t matter what you create - design or construct buildings, write paintings, music or books, create another creative product, build a useful business, teach or give consultations - it doesn’t matter. The main thing is to lovingly create what you love and what you do best. Even if you don’t earn money from this, life with meaning, with a positive goal is much richer than the race of consumers for a new dose of pleasure, sex and show-off, more meaningful than the dull existence of ordinary people. This life, in comparison with the previous one, takes on completely different, bright colors.

This is what “living correctly” means.

Dmitry Tikhonov (journalist)