How to understand what passion is. True love between a man and a woman: manifestations and psychology

WITH Church Slavonic language word passion translated as suffering(hence, for example, the word passion-bearer, that is suffering, torment). And indeed, nothing torments people more - neither illnesses nor anything else - than their own passions, deep-rooted sins. First, they serve to satisfy sinful needs, and then people themselves begin to serve them: everyone who commits sin is a slave of sin (John 8:34).

Of course, in every passion there is a moment of sinful pleasure for a person, but nevertheless passions torment, torment and enslave the sinner.

Most shining example Passionate addiction is alcoholism, drug addiction and smoking. Alcohol and drugs not only become part of a person’s soul, but also enter into the metabolism of his substances, become part of the biochemical processes in his body, he physically feels unwell when these substances are absent from his blood. That is, it is a spiritual-physical dependence. And it needs to be treated in two ways - both soul and body. But at the core is sin, passion. An alcoholic or drug addict's family falls apart, he is kicked out of work, he loses friends, but he sacrifices all this to passion. A person addicted to alcohol and drugs is ready to commit any crime to satisfy his passion. It is not without reason that most murders are committed under the influence of alcohol and drugs. That's how strong the demon of drunkenness is!

Other passions can enslave the soul no less. But in this case it is further enhanced by bodily dependence.

Sin primarily harms the person who sinned. A in the case of passions the harm from sin increases many times over, because it becomes permanent, takes on character chronic illness.

As he says Rev. John Climacus: “Passion is the name given to the very vice that has been embedded in the soul for a long time and through habit has become, as it were, a natural property of it, so that the soul already voluntarily and by itself strives towards it.” That is passion- this is something more than a sin, it is - sinful dependence, slavery to a certain type of vice.

Most of the holy fathers talk about eight passions: 1) gluttony (gluttony); 2) fornication; 3) love of money; 4) anger; 5) sadness; 6) despondency; 7) vanity; 8) pride.

Some theologians, speaking about the passions, combine sadness and despondency.

Sometimes the eight passions are called mortal sins. Passions have this name because they can (if they completely take over a person) disrupt spiritual life, deprive them of salvation and lead to eternal death. According to the holy fathers, behind every passion there is a certain demon, dependence on which makes a person captive to a certain vice.

Saint John Cassian the Roman writes that the first six passions occur as if from one another; “the excess of the previous one gives rise to the next one.”

For example, from excessive gluttony comes prodigal passion; from fornication - love of money; from the love of money - anger; from anger - sadness; from sadness - despondency. And each of them is treated by expelling the previous one. For example, to overcome fornication, you need to bind gluttony; to overcome sadness, you need to cope with anger, etc.

Vanity and pride are especially important. But they are also interconnected. Vanity gives rise to pride, and you need to fight pride by defeating vanity. The worst thing is that passions do not disappear with the death of the body. The body, as the instrument with which a person most often commits sin, dies, disappears, and the inability to satisfy one’s passions is what will torment and burn a person after death.

The Holy Fathers say that there passions will torment a person much more than on earth, without sleep and rest, they will burn like fire. And not only bodily passions will torment people without finding satisfaction, such as fornication or drunkenness. But also spiritual ones: pride, vanity, anger - after all, there will also be no way to satisfy them. And most importantly, a person will also not be able to fight passions, this is only possible on earth, because earthly life and is given for repentance and correction. What and whom a person served in earthly life, so he will be in eternity. If he serves his passions and the devil, he will remain with them. For example, for a drug addict, hell is an endless, never-ending “withdrawal”; for an alcoholic, it is an eternal hangover, etc. But if a person served God and was with Him on earth, he can hope that he will be with Him there too.

How are passions cured? Fighting passions is much more difficult than fighting ordinary sins. A chronic, advanced disease is more difficult to overcome.

First, What someone obsessed with passion needs to do is to realize that he is seriously ill, dependent. It is not he who rules over his vices and bad habits, and they are above him. A person addicted to passion must himself realize that he needs spiritual treatment. Second, what needs to be done is, as St. Theophan the Recluse says, to hate passion, to accept firm decision fight her. Third— the struggle must begin with prayer to God. Without His help, without constant participation in the Sacraments of Confession and Communion, you cannot control passion with your own strength. AND fourth What you need to remember: every passion is cured by planting in the soul the virtues opposite to it. For example, gluttony is overcome by abstinence and fasting; the passion of love of money - by cultivating in oneself mercy towards the poor, the needy, and a moderate lifestyle. Anger is treated by avoiding irritation, patience, and cultivating meekness, love, and forgiveness in the soul. And so every passion is opposed by its opposite virtues.

Why is it female passion that is most dangerous for ourselves?

Reason #1. The mechanism of female passion is much more complex than that of men.

According to American psychologists Allan and Barbara Pease, a man must do 52 things to awaken true female passion.

They are required to: caress, praise, pamper, be responsive, scent, massage, repair, be soulful, sing serenades, give compliments, be a support, a breadwinner, console, tease, joke, appease, stimulate, stroke, pat, hug, ignore , nurse, excite, reconcile, protect, call, be able to anticipate, smooth, cuddle, forgive, sympathize, entertain, charm, bring things, do a favor, cause admiration, be present, trust, defend, dress, defend, show off, treat with reverence, share frank, corrupt, embrace, die for, dream about, not notice completeness, reward, attract, get carried away, turn into an idol, pray for.

Not every man can cope with such an impressive list of responsibilities, which once again confirms that women love with their ears. Therefore, instead of real female passion, they often receive fiction and, paradoxically, demand only one thing in return from women: to appear naked in front of them!

What to do? Try to imagine yourself in the place of a man who, having learned what is actually required of him in order to awaken real female passion, he will simply be scared! Reduce this list at least twice and do not demand what you can do without, for example, idealization, serenades, favors, sympathy, and so on. Give in!

Reason #2. Women's passion is limitless, we completely dissolve in it, without thinking about the consequences

A man can have a mistress by succumbing to temptation, new sensations and the desire to possess. But having satisfied their passion, many return to their family. A man can foresee the consequences of passion and, having had enough of it, tell himself “stop” in time!

When a woman starts an affair on the side, she does not even think that her romance will end sooner or later. Passion overshadows common sense, in which there is no place for thoughts about consequences. Women's emotions take precedence over reason. And when the moment of separation comes, many women do not dare to resume family relationships. Feeling ashamed, they prefer to remain alone, putting on the strong mask of a “victim” of deception.

What to do? If you are having an affair, remember that it may not always last. Being prepared for unpredictable final consequences in the form of disappointments will not allow the insidious growth to dictate its own rules! Be careful!

Reason #3. A woman suffers without receiving real passion

Having created for myself perfect image passionate love and believing that it is unattainable, a woman involuntarily dooms herself to suffering. She goes with the flow, passionately wanting past sensations, but fearing to remain misunderstood, she does not strive to change her usual way of life. intimate life.

What to do? Take the initiative into your own hands! Do not invent obstacles for yourself if you want to drown in passion with your loved one. Men like unpredictable actions, new images and unexpected ideas in their intimate life. Even if your chosen one is accustomed to leading the leading party in love, he will be happy to give you, for several unforgettable hours, his place as the leader in search of unknown passionate sensations. Take action!

Reason #4. Women dream of ideal passion, which is most often unattainable

Many of us enjoy reading romance novels that depict painfully passionate relationships between lovers. Danger, unexpected intensity of passions - sensations that many women lack in real life. We dream of the passion that the authors of such novels invite us to experience, although most often it is unattainable.

What to do? The intensity of passions in romance novels- this is a common fantasy of a gifted person who is trying to diversify your leisure time without calling for changes in real life. After all, not every author of a love drama clones his work in his own life. Each of us can create our own passionate relationships that will be unique and far from imposed models. Imagine!

Reason #5. A woman becomes unbearable when the passion in a relationship fades

Men are surprised by the sudden changes in a woman’s mood, trying to find reasons in external factors that only serve as a reason for another quarrel. They give gifts, inquire about our needs, and call on distractions in the form of friends to help.

We want something completely different - passionate kiss, sudden caresses and unexpected declarations of love. We long to experience real passion, which breaks out in scandals, reproaches and disputes.

What to do? It is difficult to admit to a man that you have not experienced a surge of passionate sensations for a long time, so make a row with him for the first insignificant reason. There is no need to feel ashamed for passion, which is also natural in life. healthy person like joy, laughter, pain or tears. After all, she is fraught with danger only when she is painfully lacking fresh air to refill your body with the oxygen of happiness.

In the last article we discussed And today we will talk about the dream of every man, about a passionate woman! Let's determine which lady - passionate woman. And we will answer the question, does every man dream of such a life partner.

Is a passionate woman desired by every man?

There is an opinion that every man dreams of a passionate woman. Is it really? When should you turn on passionate woman mode? What are the pros and cons of this behavior? What can you gain by behaving this way? And most importantly, can any woman be passionate?

In bed, a man prefers not the one who will lie like a log, but a passionate and impulsive woman. But first of all, in sex a man wants obedience and only then everything else. For this reason, over time, a man finds himself a mistress if his wife does not satisfy his physical needs.

Therefore, passion fades into the background, and the concept of a passionate woman is completely different. As a rule, about a woman in the context of “passionate” in two cases: to brag or to show that she is accessible to everyone (this is if she is not important to him). In any other case, a man will not throw such words.

Otherwise, a man may tell another man that you are passionate just for the sake of saying, “She has a crush on me, now I can control her.” It is because of this that it is very important for women to know which man to be passionate with and which man not to be passionate with. After all, as soon as he catches himself thinking that you are passionate with him, then this will automatically be a signal that you have fallen in love with him. And here you can step on a very sharp stone - on the one hand, you are an uninhibited woman who satisfies the needs of a man, and on the other, you show your chosen one that you are much more serious about him than just sex. And while it seems to you that you are just sleeping with him, the man knows that for you this is not just sex.

Women themselves have brought this up in men, because 99% of you only have sex with someone who could be a potential husband. And men realize this.

And because of this, women who are really only interested in sex and not marriage find it difficult to show their passion. As soon as a woman becomes passionate and shows that she feels good, a certain switch goes off in the man’s head and he believes that she sees him as her future husband.

This problem prevents us from normally “agreeing” and being honest with each other - “You want me, I want you, that’s why we sleep with each other.”

And it would seem that men want banal sex so much, because they trumpet it from every corner, but when it comes to ordinary sexual dialogue in bed, they go into the bushes. And in fact, any woman will be very lucky if she finds a friend who will be her lover. The kind of real friend you can sleep with, but he won’t try to buy you or take you to himself like some kind of thing. And it is Alpha who can become such a friend, which is precisely his value.

The only problem with women is that even if you have such a friend, you try to make him your husband or fiancé. And this is the most bad option, which may be. Ideal husband- This is Pavlik, but not Alpha.

Of course, you will have the coolest sex with your beloved Beta, but on the emotional level, this is Alpha. And only “sisters” truly understand the pros and cons of each of the men and do not refuse one to the detriment of the other.

Therefore, you should not choose - Alpha or Beta, because this is simply impossible. How to choose dumplings or ice cream if you want both? These are completely different products. You should perceive a man as food and not give up on one thing. And most importantly, there is no need to ask if he is ready to become her. Only then will you get pleasure.

Passionate woman manipulates energy

There is nothing more pleasant than a man who lies under you only to take you for himself. And at this time you just enjoy the “food”.

And another difference between Alpha and Beta is that the first one understands that you are passionate not because of him, but on your own. But 99% of Beth sincerely believes that the reason is in them, and not in your character. Beta thinks that you are like this only because of him. And it’s very cool when a woman can manipulate passion, but not sex. The game of give or take never ends well. If you play with Alpha, then this is a direct signal - “Go away and sleep with whomever you want”; for Beta - anger, aggressiveness. As a result, you end up losing.

Therefore, manipulation of passion - the best option. You can either just have sex, or show that you really want it and express yourself. And any woman can do this.

What do men want?

Do you know what men really want in bed? A woman who will enjoy herself with minimal energy consumption. Roughly speaking, he stuck it in once, and she already had an orgasm three times. Few people may admit this, but it is a fact. Regardless of whether it is Pavlik or Alpha, they want the same thing.

Only by seeing your reaction can a man understand that everything is normal. And the phrase “I feel good with you” is simply inaccessible to them. Your attitude towards a man is measured not by words, “I like everything, don’t pay attention,” but by the number of orgasms.

Therefore, always remember - a man calls a woman passionate or if she constantly experiences orgasm during sex with him, or when a man begins to be more important than just a sex partner

And many women don’t even realize what a powerful manipulator they can be if they want to have a man next to them, but don’t want to have children. Why? Because you a priori do not show the man that you have such plans for him. He will not need to become the breadwinner of the whole family and the only thing he can manipulate is your loneliness. But as soon as you show him that this will not happen, and if not him, then there is also Petya, Vasya or Seryozha - the power is in your hands.

Remember that if you are passionate with a man, but not because you are hooked on him, this is your weapon. But if you are hooked on him and show your passion only with him, then he will use it one way or another, and your weapon will become yours weak point.

Your questions

Readers ask a lot of questions, I will give the most interesting of them.

1. “When is the best time to maximize sexuality and passion?”

In fact, it all depends on the character who is on this moment close to you. But there is general rule– if you can show a man with your sexuality that you are a passionate woman by nature, and not because of or for him, then go ahead. Yes, at the first stage you can show him that he’s great, but as soon as the relationship goes a little deeper, you should become an “amazing woman,” but this is not his merit. That is, in fact, you should reward him with your passion for the fact that he showed himself well.

2. “How can I show a man that he didn’t sleep with me, but I slept with him?”

Men love and often brag to their friends that today he had sex with this or that woman. And if you have the opportunity, get ahead of him. Tell his friends that you hooked up. It's simply unrealistic to blow a man's mind. Of course, this will not work with everyone, but very often.

Sometimes the date goes great: she buries her nose in the roses, flirts recklessly and laughs non-stop, listening to your jokes, but as soon as you start more contact communication, she immediately demands to take her home in an icy voice.

And sometimes she shows no more interest in your stories all evening than the Queen of England does in obscene sailor couplets, all the time looking somewhere through you and talking only about her own things. ex-boyfriend. But in the end you end up in bed together, and you're ready to swear that you didn't really insist on it.

It seems that they are doing this on purpose - demonstrating their mystery. More than anything else, women do not like to give guarantees - although they themselves persistently demand them, no matter in the registry office or in a refrigerator repair shop. You don’t expect any guarantees, but you’d still like to know what world you’re in.

Is it worth calling to cancel tomorrow’s meeting at 8.30, or will you still have time to get some sleep? Should I ask Vasya, my roommate, to disappear somewhere for the night? And in general, will anything happen or not?! It turns out that women’s actions are also folk signs. Women give us secret signs indicating their intentions. And the one who knows how to decipher these signs never comes to a meeting with traces of lipstick on his face and does not bother his neighbor Vasya in vain. Because he always knows how the date will end.

15 signs that it will be hot and humid at night.

1. She plays with her hair
Most women have it on their cheekbones, neck and back of the head. a large number of erogenous zones. By playing with their hair, women stimulate these areas - this is what they do when they desire sex (often this happens subconsciously).

2 She invites you to look at her mole, located in a rather piquant place (in the absence of such a mole - at her tan, muscles or scar on her right thigh)
The mole, needless to say, is very curious. But even an exceptional belief in female naivety should not prevent you from understanding that the problem, by and large, is not in the mole.

3. She slow dances with you in a tight hug.
Of course, she just loves to dance and in the same way she would be closely intertwined with anyone else who knows how to do the first four steps of a waltz. Don't be too naive: for most women, slow dancing is a vertical rehearsal for a horizontal premiere. Of course, she may decide that the rehearsal was unsuccessful, but in any case, know that she is now considering you for the role of her possible partner.

4. She wears short and tight clothes to a date.
Women can count no worse than men. Therefore, one should not think that she accidentally purchased a dress two sizes smaller than needed. Straps that barely cover your nipples and a skirt that ends before it's supposed to begin are a sign that the girl wants to impress you and awaken your instincts. Now try to guess - why does she need this?

5. She rests her chin on your shoulder.
Democratic standards of behavior allow modern women a lot - plopping down on the laps of friends, kissing when meeting unfamiliar men and friendly hugs with married work colleagues. But some gestures and body movements still create high intimacy, such as touching the chin to the neck from the back. In many animals, this movement (neck contact) is part of the mating dance ritual. If a woman agrees to such intimacy, she is probably ready to go further.

6. She blushes
Women blush more often than men because their blood vessels are usually located much closer to the skin. Blushing is caused not only by embarrassment, but also by excitement and excitement. If she blushed after you told her one interesting story from your army experience - this is one thing. But if she blushes just by looking at you, then she is clearly not indifferent to you (or some part of your toilet is not in order. Turn away and quietly check).

7. Her purse doesn't close well.
Because she is full of all sorts of necessary things: a cosmetic bag, a phone book, a pack of sanitary napkins, a hair brush, a bag of mints and thirty-eight other things that she will definitely need if she doesn’t get home today. Understood? And if there’s also a toothbrush hidden under a pile of junk...

8. She feeds you by hand
Women don't just put their fingers in anyone's mouth. From their hands they will agree to feed only what they really like: a bird, a squirrel or some young man they really like.

9. She wiggles her leg all the time.
Psychologists say that when a person wants to perform an action that he is forced to abstain from for one reason or another, he resorts to hidden bodily release. Simply put: if she has been dangling a half-taken off shoe on her toe for half an hour, this is a sign that in fact she really wants to throw herself on your neck and kiss you half to death.

10. She runs to the toilet all the time
Women are not men. They are designed completely differently - and, in fact, much less often than we need to visit the bathroom. But there is a large mirror hanging on the wall, in front of which you can, without witnesses, take your time, arrange a meticulous examination of your makeup and, if necessary, update it. So, if she disappears from the table every now and then, it’s very good sign. If she were deeply indifferent to you, she would not be tormented by questions like “What if your nose is shiny?”, “What if your lipstick is smudged?”, “What if your hair is too disheveled?”

11. She betrays her best friend
She has a meeting with Lisa at nine in the evening, but then it turns out that Lisa can wait and this is not a rush at all. This doesn't mean she's a bad friend. This means that she really likes you. From her friend Lisa she can expect attention, care and participation - anything but sex. If a girl chose your company, it was certainly not in order to continue talking with you about the vicissitudes of fate and daisies. Guy, wake up, it’s high time to take active action.

12. She drinks “just a drop” too much.
For us, this is alcohol and sex - two things that do not go well together: even two glasses of wine can significantly reduce a man’s desire and potency. For women mild degree intoxication, on the contrary, can increase desire. Moreover, the girl will not need to look for self-justification later. She is not at all so immoral and easily accessible. I just slightly, very slightly lost control of myself...

13. She speaks poorly of her ex.
Women always talk about sex willingly, but never honestly. Most likely, her ex was not such an insensitive bastard at all, otherwise she would have broken up with him on the second day of meeting him. And you shouldn’t hang your ears and believe that the poor thing was really sexually repressed (she slept with him separately, never felt anything, doesn’t want to remember anything about it, and in general it was so terrible). In fact, in this way she is trying to let you know that with you everything will be different - delightful and unforgettable. Such is the simple logic of women.

14. She says... and says... and says...
Sex is close. Speech for women is the most preliminary of foreplay. The more she talks, the greater the chance that she will start moaning later. But don’t flatter yourself especially if she tells you some really interesting things with feeling, sense and emphasis: the more excited she is, the more hasty and incoherent her words will be.

15. She's not wearing underwear
Well, since you managed to find out, then most likely you will not spend this night alone.

10 signs that it will be cold and quiet at night

1. She talks on the phone a lot
If she constantly calls and hangs up after a few phrases, this is not a sign of your failure: maybe she wants to impress you big amount friends, acquaintances and fans. But if she has long, confidential conversations with the receiver, then it would be better for you to continue communicating with her over the telephone network. Still, nothing more shines here.

2. She says you are a wonderful friend.
Read: “You are so wonderful - it’s a terrible pity that I don’t want you at all. Or maybe you’ll agree to play the role of my caring uncle? I’ll tell you about my relationships with men, cry into your vest...” Do you want to be an uncle? - be it.

3. She sits slouched
Even the most idealistic ladies know that men like women not only to have a kind and gentle heart, but also to the bastions under which this heart is located. If you seemed desirable to her sexual partner, she would sit straight up, even if she had congenital severe scoliosis of the spine.

4. She eats a lot and with appetite
Unlike men, women's sexual desire often paralyzes their appetite.

5. Including dishes with garlic and onions
Perhaps no comments are required.

6. She talks distastefully about sexually promiscuous people.

If she wanted to go to bed with you tonight, she would avoid this topic - and on the contrary, she would show some breadth of her views in order to hint at encouraging you to be more active in courtship.

7. When she comes to visit you, she doesn’t take off her shoes.
Firstly, this is her way of signaling to you that she came in for a while. Secondly, a woman feels more independent and protected in shoes.

8. She doesn't ask you about your ex-girlfriends.
Lack of curiosity about your personal life is a very bad indicator. This means you don't intrigue her at all.

9. She crosses her arms over her chest.
Psychologists consider crossing your arms over your chest as a desire to distance yourself from your interlocutor. When a woman does this, she seeks to lower her sex appeal, “disguising” the signs of their gender.

10. She told you no
Contrary to the popular belief that women say “no” and mean “yes”, in practice, alas, “no” much more often means really “no”. However, there are worse answers. For example: “Never” or “What?!”

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- this is ardent devotion or ardent affection for a person of the opposite sex, love feeling, a strong focus of the mind, emotions, feelings on a desired object or life goal; an energetic, intense, or excited impulse tending towards physical attraction. This word has many meanings and shades. Sexual passion is so connected with love that it is often called love. Erotic passion- these are burning coals under the heel of love.

Passion can exist without love, love can exist without passion. In the first case, there is no tenderness and feeling, there is only an egoistic desire for pleasure and satisfaction. In the second case, there is no warmth and ardor, which usually accompany full-blooded love between the sexes. Elementary biological urges in men, which we combine with the term “passion,” have technical term“estrus” (estrus period in animals, spawning in fish). Man calls it sexual excitement, frenzy, even passion. Zoologists define estrus as “a special period of sexual desire in the female.” The same applies to males. For most animal species, estrus, which occurs during ovulation, is the only time the female responds to the male. The emotional storm that culminates in orgasm is a phenomenon whose roots go deep into the mechanism of the body; The endocrine glands and the entire autonomic nervous system are actively involved here.

In animals, estrus is a periodic condition and occurs due to hormones secreted by the ovaries and the corresponding endocrine glands. Artificial estrus can be induced by injection of glandular extract, but this does not lead to ovulation.

Our knowledge about the phenomenon of estrus is very limited. One could say that the period of estrus (irresistible desire) in females depends on the release of the hormone “estrus” by the ovaries. But the functioning of this hormone is still inexplicable. Why does it stand out in some periods and not others? What sometimes disrupts the normal estrus rhythm? What is suppressing it? From which external factors does it depend?

Generally speaking, oestrus behavior does not occur among human beings. Passion can be aroused in a person almost at any time and by various influences. Or it is almost impossible to call. And while in the lower female mammals sexual desire is limited to periods of estrus, in women it can be induced in many ways at almost any time. With the help of many techniques and mental associations, you can activate the release of the hormone “estrus”.

Sexual desire is a natural trait of normal adult men and women. It is as beautiful and innocent as breathing or the beating of a heart. In some cases, sexual activity does not awaken until the person actually begins sexual activity. Those who think sex is obscene are only deceiving themselves.

Observations show that passion can eliminate sexual perversions that existed before its appearance. Strong emotions often stop corrupting intemperance in promiscuous sexual contacts. For one who loves, there is only one beloved. For many, the cleansing power of a new feeling resolves all emotional problems. Those who seek to get rid of passion or reduce its manifestations are wrong. Weak sexual passion will lead to the cessation of any kind of living beings. Females prefer a passionate male to a passive and indifferent one. This can be attributed to most women, who rarely prefer a partner who is not passionate enough. Passion, of course, has to do with biological usefulness, health and integrity of the body.

In bees, butterflies, and among other forms of life, when sexual desire arises only once in life, especially in young animals, the highest manifestation of the sexual instinct, completely unpracticed before the act of copulation, can be realized, it must be assumed, only when intercourse is practically forced.

If there were no sexual instinct, humanity could not reproduce, there would be neither procreation nor raising children. The existence of instinct serves a wise purpose. Although sexual attraction seems to become less and less urgent as we climb the evolutionary ladder of life, except in pathological cases; Passion is never forced in a person, but it is always controlled. However, such an important biological need cannot be rejected, because this threatens retribution. It is one thing to subject passion to reasonable control, and quite another to deny it all manifestations.

Physiological differences between men and women suggest certain psychological differences between them. A man, in most cases, is more easily aroused sexually and strives for immediate satisfaction of his desire; a woman, as a rule, is not so easily aroused and is less ready to immediately rush to satisfy her sexual desire. Every day a man is excited for various reasons thousands of times, although this activity is not felt in his mind and manifests itself as sexual desire only at the end of the working day, after returning home. Travel often causes sexual arousal in those unaccustomed to travel; however, travel can also have the opposite effect. Mental, emotional, physical and nutritional influences influence the sexual impulse, suppressing or exciting it.

The nature, level and extent of daily life experiences increase or decrease sexual desire. Frequency of sexual desire, its intensity is the result of certain factors, such as: state of health, illness, separation, stress and so on. Typically, sexual desire is directly dependent on general condition body. There is a noticeable temporary increase in sexual desire when husband and wife are separated for several days or weeks. Although in society, at least civilized ones, men are, as a rule, more passionate than women, and much more easily excitable; it happens that a woman is as passionate as she is average man, and sometimes even surpasses it. But women are usually more capable of suppressing passion than men.

A woman's body can be aroused against her wishes. A selfish man, possessed of a strong sexual desire, skilled in his physical approaches, may, due to his inability to appreciate the emotional and mental needs of his wife, make married life extremely unhappy. Coitus should be a sensual encounter, not just a physical act.

A person has sexuality and must be its master if he does not want it to be the master. It is known that sexual tension can be increased by appropriate fantasy or tactile stimulation to such an extent that the irresistibility of sexual desire is felt as an uncompromising reality. With sufficient excitement-compulsion, it can indeed become irresistible, because, being involved in the storms of passion, it is difficult to overcome and control it. One who thus excites his sexual self and brings himself to a state of high tension demanding an outcome often becomes a prisoner of his sexual passion, which seems to be out of control, and does not take into account that his own previous actions gave it all move.

Men are most often guilty of allowing passion to develop without courtship; and even where an unprejudiced observer would consider a woman main reason unrest, sooner or later the blame nevertheless falls on the man. Perhaps the woman was innocently the dynamite that destroyed his self-control. Loved ones and wives are often guilty of creating urgent desires in their lovers and husbands, refusing to satisfy them. They do this using subtle, sophisticated erotic techniques that allow women to achieve maximum foreplay pleasure without losing control of the situation. There are women who practice pleasant erotic stimulation - caresses and tenderness, but refuse to bring them to a natural climax. They are perverted, although they don't like to admit it.

Although, as many argue, sexual passion is the most insurmountable, it is often restrained and obstructed. Of all the passions, it is the most difficult for it to be given free, normal expression. And we know that at moments of highest sexual arousal, the power of personal independence of a person is almost completely lost. This moment of supreme satisfaction is comparable to intoxication. However, many men and women exaggerate the role of sexual pleasure in life and practice a veritable religion of pleasure. The thirst for pleasure is the cornerstone of their sense of self-esteem, and they seize the opportunity for any pleasure, regardless of the cost to their own and others’ health. Such people tend to regard the deprivation of pleasure as a personal insult and demand the highest pleasures as if it were their sacred right.

To justify unbridled sexual behavior that offends the common sense and social feelings of others, such pleasure seekers profess a belief in the superiority of instincts over other manifestations of human nature.

The belief in the irresistibility of sexual desire, requiring immediate gratification, is only a conscious camouflage for irresponsible and, therefore, immoral sexual actions.

A cowardly person, aware of his inability to solve some life problems, is often inclined to consider himself a victim of passion. His (or her) sex life seems to consist of different random connections, or masturbation, or both. Purely sexual union often lacks the feeling of love; it is an act of rapid (as in rape) possession, which is often followed by disgust towards the partner. It's even possible sexual union with a partner who, in other types of communication - spiritual, psychological, intellectual - causes complete rejection. However, this does not prove the irresistibility of the feeling of passion, although it can be perceived as evidence of its non-specificity.

Perverted passions often uncontrollable. Perversion can arise for a number of reasons that are difficult to get to the bottom of. In such cases, lectures on moral topics are depressingly ineffective, since, as G. Lessing noted, “vicious passions pervert the constitution of the mind as much as they undermine the constitution of the body... Evil forces lead victims blindfolded to their altars.” In such cases, hygienic methods are necessary.

The idea that sexual desire creates a fatal drama out of every love affair, the participants of which are supposedly helpless puppets balancing on the wire of an irresistible passion, contradicts the real state of affairs. However, this idea can have a noticeable impact on inexperienced youth if they accept it without critical evaluation. This fundamentally false idea is dangerously cultivated by men and women who seek excuses for their irresponsible sexual behavior.

We are responsible for the expression of our passions, and we should think carefully about the consequences before giving way to passions. A person’s responsibility does not end with the emergence of passion; on the contrary, it is at this moment that the need for responsibility is greatest. It is not the one who has not been subjected to temptation who is righteous, but the one who knows how to overcome this temptation.

The undesirable possibility for a woman to become pregnant is a test of a man’s responsibility in sexual relations. Only a selfish, pleasure-hungry partner will allow himself to ignore the consequences of sexual intercourse at the moment of sexual embrace. In these relationships, men's responsibility is necessary, otherwise chaos is inevitable.

The man who controls his passions (but is not the one who renounces them), restrains every impulse, curbs his energy and masters fleeting desire, prepares himself for that terrible explosion of his emotions and passions, thanks to which he hopes one day to break through beyond oneself, beyond that which is accidental and disintegrating, to the full manifestation of one's powers in true union with the other.

No special effort needs to be made to suppress natural passion; it just needs to be controlled in the best interests of the individual and society. The theological and dogmatic idea that sexual instincts and desires are evil and should be removed from human life, causes great harm. An attempt to eliminate the flowering of passion will lead to a decrease in the standard of living, which will result in organized prostitution. Complete satisfaction of the feeling of passion is achieved only in a full and genuine union of the two. Efforts to banish natural desires will only lead to their return in the form of excessive obsessions, actions and even perverse tendencies.