How to answer rudely but beautifully. Is it acceptable to use obscene name-calling and swearing?

People have been rude, are rude and will continue to be rude; it’s hard to believe that this can be eradicated. They are rude for various reasons: they are not educated, they lack culture, they are afraid, they are defending themselves, and so on. Of course, you often think about the reasons that prompted a person to be rude to you, but in the first moments it is more important to decide how to respond to rudeness. Feeling unfairly treated, stand on the same level as a boor and respond in kind? In general, this is the easiest thing. But it’s much more pleasant to respond to rudeness beautifully. This will not only elevate you (in your eyes and in the eyes of... yes, yes, boor), but also, what is perhaps the most pleasant thing, it will infuriate your ill-mannered interlocutor the most. His goal is to offend you, insult you, and bring you into conflict. But you, here, don’t follow the lead. How to implement this? How to respond nicely to rudeness? More on this later.

We respond to rudeness beautifully

Your main weapon is humor and a smile. Although there is a situation when a caustic ironic phrase in response to rudeness can be accompanied by a completely restrained facial expression. However, this option for responding to rudeness must be used quite carefully when communicating with people higher in status than you (bosses, teachers, etc.). Let's talk about these options: the answer is equal and when the interlocutor has a higher status.

Boor with higher status: we answer

Yes, this also happens, for example, an unrestrained teacher or a very harmful boss, in general, anyone on whom you are somewhat dependent. Laughter and mockery in response to rudeness on their part can be fraught with undesirable consequences for you.

Avoiding conflict. If possible, leave silently. You can warn that you will return when the stars are favorable to your conversation.
Endless clarifications. The boss throws your project aside shouting that everything is bad. You, putting on a restrained expression in a very calm voice, ask: “What exactly is wrong?” Actually, he should answer. “That’s it!” he shouts again. "In the first point? Or in the second? Or maybe here...?" In short, your task is to calmly and (!) without mockery endlessly clarify.
You can also use humor, but let’s clarify again - carefully. There should be no sarcasm in your words, and your opponent should not feel irony.
Agreement, partial agreement. Again, depending on the situation. If the rudeness is of a kind that does not imply recognition of an unfair accusation (and the like), then you can simply agree. For example: “What, are you blind?” - “I haven’t been to the ophthalmologist for a long time, but in general Lately eyes bother" (also with ears).

Ham, equal to us

Well, it’s just a matter of choosing according to the situation. The main thing to remember is the goal - we do not sink to the level of a boor, but rise above it; We don’t follow the lead, but manage the conversation. Here, of course, you will need to practice, sharpen your language, as they say. Humor is the main thing here, after all. It happens that humor is harsh, use it in proportion to rudeness.

You can just smile. Silently. Beautiful.
“I will not laugh at those whom nature has already scoffed at.”
“And you continue, when you speak, I feel so (im) smart.”
"Don't be rude, rude, rude."
“Are you digging up someone else’s life because your own didn’t work out?”
“You don’t need to show me your teeth, I’m not a dentist” or “You will open your mouth at the dentist.”
"You're not so handsome as to be rude to me."
“Why are you so nervous? Did you fall off your broom?”
“Don’t you like me? I give you permission to shoot yourself.”
You listen to rudeness, smile and calmly (!) answer: “Why don’t you go... to the bathhouse.”
“Oh, no, where am I from you!.. Still falling and falling...”
Ask the question: “Are you being rude to me? And for what purpose?”
You listen, and then the key remark: “Is that all?”, or “Well, shall I go?”, or “Do you want to talk more or are your complexes exhausted at this point?”, or “...so what?”
"Learn to think and speak at the same time."
“I thought this was the end of your stock of stupidity, but you continue to amaze me!”
“To speak to you on the same level, I would have to lie down.”
“Please note, this is a plinth,” point to the nearest one, “and remember, this is exactly your level.”
“I would send you, but I can only see you from there.”
"You have from positive characteristics only the Rh factor?
In response to "What, stupid?" - “Well, bone marrow is probably saving you...”.
“Did you scare Babayka as a child?”
In response to “go to…” - “Don’t worry, I’ll go with an orgasm” (for girls).
“You’re doing the right thing when you giggle, they don’t laugh with teeth like that.”
In response to rudeness in a store (saleswoman), on a bus: just look at the person pitifully and say: “Poor thing.”

Here's how to respond to rudeness: different situations. Use humor, diminutive forms, be kind to boors, you just need to feel sorry for them.

We have all heard insults directed at us and, out of surprise, we did not know how to react to them correctly. They started to be rude or cry out of resentment. Our psychologist gives some tips on how to intelligently respond to an insult to an offender. Gives examples of phrases that will help you get out of an unpleasant situation gracefully.

How to properly respond to an insult

First, let's talk about several types of correct reactions to insult.

Calm

Do not underestimate this tactic, because, as you know, the offender always feels satisfaction if he sees that the object of his nagging loses his composure or gets involved in a conflict. Show the offender that you are not offended by his opinion and that you are only a little surprised by the rudeness directed at you. If you are sitting at a computer or studying physical work without looking up, ask: “Are you having problems?” or "Are you talking to me?" Such a reaction in many cases cools the ardor of the offender, because his words did not bring the expected result. Plus: you will earn a reputation as a reasonable, calm and confident person. Politely responding to an insult means not stooping to the level of a boor.

Aikido

We do not advocate starting a fight and engaging in physical assault. Aikido - psychological technique transferring your interlocutor’s negativity onto himself. There are times when a boor does not limit himself to one phrase or humiliates you in the presence of the entire team; in such a situation, not answering anything is wrong. You must protect your honor and dignity, right? Use the Aikido technique, namely, thank the interlocutor for the time spent pointing out your shortcomings. Tell him that you wouldn’t do something like that for him because you don’t care. Make sure that your answers are not sarcastic, but must demonstrate the same steely calm that we talked about in the previous paragraph. End the conversation by saying that you will definitely think about your shortcomings tonight and try to do everything possible to improve. As a rule, such a reaction discourages the boor, and all witnesses to the conflict will definitely take your side!

Boringness

If you are significantly higher in intelligence than your abuser (and this is often the case), you may find the boring technique useful. For example, if a boor tells you: “Your desk is such a mess, it’s as if you evolved from a pig...”, respond to this insult with the following: technically, Darwin proved that pigs have nothing to do with the evolution of Homo sapiens back in the nineteenth century. I can give you a book to read about this so that you can have the correct data in the future." Agree, such an answer neutralizes the words of the offender and even puts him in an awkward position!

Ignoring

Not everyone can ignore an attack in their direction, and this is not always appropriate. But there are times when the insult is so petty that you just want to grin, saying, how narrow-minded and evil this person really is. Don't restrain yourself! Demonstrate a good mood in response to rudeness, show that you are not at all offended by boorish words, moreover, you do not take them seriously. Just don’t answer rudely, don’t insult in return, this is exactly what the boor expects from you.

What not to do when responding to an offender:

respond to rudeness with rudeness
raise your voice to your interlocutor
show weakness, cry

If up to this point you have not thought about your behavior in stressful situations, you may need some time to practice. Ask someone close to you to model a few conflict situations and try on him the tactics for responding to rudeness that we suggested to you.

How to respond to an insult correctly, smartly and beautifully

And now a few phrases that will help you respond to an insult smartly, beautifully and with humor:

"Sorry, is that all?"
"I was better opinion about you"
"Rudeness doesn't suit you very well"
"Are you expecting a polite answer or the truth?"
"Why are you trying to look worse than you really are?"
“Like everyone else, I also have bad days. Don’t be upset, everything will be fine.”
“Yes, of course, go ahead. May luck be on your side” (in case someone jumps in line)
"This role doesn't seem to suit you. What do you really want?"
"Thank you for showing interest in me"
"Do you want to offend me? Why?"
"Rudeness is not at all necessary."

Now you know how to respond to an insult politely, beautifully and intelligently. We sincerely wish not to meet you at life path boors!

This is one of the first desires that arises after an insult. But a retaliatory attack is appropriate only if it:

witty;
happens among family or friends;
defuses the situation rather than aggravates the conflict.

In all other cases, even if you consider yourself a wit worse than Oscar Wilde, responding to an insult with an insult is not the best way out. This way you stoop to the level of your boorish opponent and make it clear that his words hurt you, that is, there may be some truth in them.

2. Make a joke

The difference between a witty insult and a humorous response is that in the latter case, you are making fun of the situation itself. The advantages of this strategy are obvious: the insult loses its toxicity, tension, and the audience (if there is one) takes your side.

In this case, you can also take a pseudo-self-deprecating position. This will confuse your opponent and disguise the sarcasm.

Example 1: A colleague says you prepared an ugly presentation.

Answer: “Perhaps you are right. Next time I won’t ask my five-year-old son for help.”

Example 2: A stranger calls you names.

Answer: “Thank you, this is very valuable information. You opened my eyes to my shortcomings. There will be something to think about over lunch.”

3. Accept

In some cases, it is actually worth analyzing words that seem offensive to you. Especially if they come from people close and respected by you. In this case, take their remarks not as an insult, but as criticism that can make you better.

It would be a good idea to think about people's motives and find out what exactly made them use harsh language. Perhaps it violent reaction to your far from angelic behavior.

4. Respond to intent, not words.

Any insult always has a hidden purpose. Make the secret obvious: designate it.

For example, in response to rude words, say, “Wow! Something really serious happened between us, since you decided to hurt me.”

So, on the one hand, you can unsettle your opponent, and on the other, find out the reason for his negative attitude.

5. Stay calm

If the insult does not come from loved one, and from a colleague, acquaintance or even a stranger, never show that the words hurt you. Most likely, behind them lies uncertainty, dissatisfaction with one’s own life and a desire to simply take it out on you. Don't let the trick work, react calmly and with a smile.

If necessary, continue to pursue your line: ask what exactly caused such a reaction in the person, without paying attention to his words.

6. Ignore

Often the best answer is no answer. If we are talking about Internet trolls, you can simply not respond to their comments or send boors to. Well, “offline” you can always ignore the insult or leave. You have every right to do this.

An example from ancient Roman history... One day, in a public bath, someone hit the politician Cato. When the offender came to apologize, Cato replied: “I don’t remember the blow.”

This phrase can be interpreted as follows: “You are so insignificant that I not only do not care about your apology, but I did not even notice the insult itself.”

7. Use the law

You can hold the offender accountable, or at least threaten him with it. Punishment for insult is prescribed in the Code of administrative offenses, but libel is already within the scope of criminal law. If you are insulted by your boss, you can contact the HR department.

The main thing is to remember: no one has the right to infringe on your honor, dignity and reputation. But you must answer people in the same way. Otherwise, any recommendations are meaningless.

How to answer in an original, beautiful, funny way?

Nobody wants to be boring, and you also want to answer comments and questions in an original way, with enthusiasm, in some beautiful or funny way. The best way- it’s relaxing and just being yourself, catching the wave. To do this, you can chat and laugh with friends, watch some funny video, in general, cheer yourself up. But if you are in doubt, here you will find tips and ready-made recipes that can be answered in a given situation. What's the best way to respond to a comment? What to say?

Starting a conversation: answers

How to respond to “Hello”?

This is the most common way to start a conversation - a person writes “Hello” and waits for an answer. If you understand who this is, you can answer Hello, Misha(or whatever his name is). This will save you from the possible question “Why aren’t you answering”, and you can continue the conversation normally.

If a person writes “Hello, let’s meet?”, try to understand who it is. Go to his/her page. Do you want to meet this person? Reply Hello! Yes, sure. You can add: Tell about yourself in short. To appear friendly, you can “smile.” Add an emoticon to your answer, like this - :) If you don't want to meet, write Hi, I'm not looking for new acquaintances, sorry. By the way, perhaps the guy writes “let’s get to know each other” just to boost his self-esteem. He wants to please himself so that they will be interested in him. In fact, maybe he doesn’t need to get acquainted and he’s even afraid of girls in reality. Try to find out.

It all depends on your desire to be “friends”. If a person just wants to add you as a friend, such friendship is of little use (maybe he is competing with his friends to see who has more friends). Let him just subscribe to the page. But if you are interested in this person (look at his or her page), why not - make friends, communicate, you have nothing to lose. You can answer for fun: Come on if you're not afraid.

How to answer the question “How are you?”

They say that a bore is a person who, when asked “How are you?” begins to actually tell how he is doing. Therefore, it is not surprising that you want to answer in a way that is interesting, intricate and not boring. And most likely, the interlocutor does not need a detailed report on how you are doing, he just wants to communicate with you. Can you just answer Okay, what about you?

"What are you doing?" - what to say?

Likewise, this question is asked to start a conversation. Answer briefly, for example: I'm lying on the couch, bored and then ask your question: And you?- of course, if you don’t mind chatting now.

"Why are not you sleeping?" - what to say?

Reply Got enough sleep or, if you want to be more playful, So this isn't a dream? I thought I was dreaming. And to make a certain hint, you can write No one. Or you can answer honestly: I’m just surfing the Internet, I don’t want to sleep yet.

"What's new?" - how to answer?

A man wants to demonstrate that he is interested in you (even though in reality he may not be). If you want, tell him what's new with you- let's say, over the last week. Maybe something affected you special impression(film, TV show, words or actions of a friend, acquaintance). Mentally put yourself in the shoes of your interlocutor and think whether he will be interested in what you are about to tell. If yes, then tell me.

"What are you doing? What are you doing?" - how to answer?

Likewise, a man wants to show his interest in you. Don’t be boring and don’t describe everyday details, but look at the hint above, in the answer to the question “What’s new?”

Let's start the conversation first

What to write to a guy? What to write to a girl?

Go to his or her page. Look at the photos, study what the person is interested in. Perhaps you have some common interests. Here you can easily find a reason for a question that he will be interested in answering, and you will be interested in listening to the answer.

A good way to start a conversation is to simply write Hello. A person will look at your page and respond if he likes you.

You can leave a comment on a photo, this can also start a conversation. But if you're dating a girl, keep in mind that they're usually fed up with compliments.

If you already know each other and have been communicating for some time, you can directly write what you want meet, go somewhere(on a date). Being honest in expressing your feelings is the best way. But you also shouldn’t be boring, as if your whole life is now fixated on this person. It's good if you're passionate about something that you can talk about.

Replies to compliments

How to respond to “Beautiful”?

“Beautiful” or “very beautiful” - this is what guys most often write in the comments to the photo. It’s unlikely that a girl will post photos where she looks ugly, so it’s clear that you’re beautiful in all your photos! And writing “beautiful” as a compliment is the first thing that comes to a guy’s mind if he wants to attract attention, somehow stand out from others, and maybe win you over. It may sound stupid, but if you feel good, you can respond with something to hint that you are not against further communication. For example, I'm glad you liked it, thanks to mom and dad. You can just put a heart(click “Like” on the guy’s comments). If compliments from this guy If you're not interested, don't answer anything.

Talk about relationships

"Have a boyfriend?" What to say?

If you have a boyfriend, say yes, you do. But if you don't want to admit it because you want to hook up with this guy too, say no. Or, for example, Do you want to become one? Just for fun, you can still answer And you?

What to answer to your ex?

Ex-boyfriend texts you. What should I answer him? You're not sure. On the one hand, you want to send him away, on the other hand, you want to bring back the pleasant moments (even if you don’t admit it to yourself). What to do? If he wants to get you back, and you, in principle, admit this possibility, offer to meet and talk. Don't reveal your feelings. If you don’t want to see him, write that you are not ready to talk yet. And if you are already dating someone else and definitely don’t want your ex, tell him you’re happy and let him live his own life. Be the queen!

"I love you". What should I write in response?

If a guy confesses his feelings suspiciously easily, then keep in mind that his words may not be true. But if you love him and are confident in him, then answer Me too(love you). Otherwise, just say what you want Nice.

Miscellaneous

How to respond to “Can I ask a question?”

This means that the person wants to ask you a question, but not some nonsense, but a more serious one. Maybe related to your personal life. Or maybe this person wants to find out how you feel about him. In any case, you can answer: Yes, sure!- this will show that trust has already appeared between you, and you are not averse to seeing the question.

If the question turns out to be something that you don’t want to answer, write: Can I not answer this question? Please don't be offended.

How to answer the question “Why?”

Let's say a guy asks to meet, but you don't want to. He asks: "Why?" - that is, he wants to understand the reason and at the same time still hopes that you will change your mind. Most likely, he is offended. "Why?" - how to answer this question? The best thing tell the truth. For example, you don't want to date him because you don't like him. Then just write: “I don’t like you.” It would be enough.

What is the answer to “Because?”

When you ask “Why,” you may get the answer “Because.” Apparently, the person wants to say something along the lines of “Is it really not clear?!” If it is not clear, ask politely: Explain please. Don't answer rudely.

"What are you?" What to answer, what am I?

What can you answer about yourself? What am I? Imagine that your people are talking about you good friends. How would they describe you? What are you like - serious, funny, beautiful, cool, cool? So answer that. Write literally in two or three words, to interest the guy, but at the same time not to scare him, if you have an interest in him. After all, girls love to intrigue men.

“I thought you wouldn’t answer”

With these words, the man seems to express: he was thinking about you and was worried that you would no longer want to communicate with him. But since you finally answered, he is very happy and hopes for further communication and development of the relationship.

Why doesn’t a person write or answer?

Perhaps he didn't read your message. Or he read it, but didn’t respond because he forgot or was distracted. Don't beat yourself up, it doesn't mean anything. Later, try to write again, give a signal. If you communicated on VK, but the communication was interrupted, you can still send an SMS.

How to respond to rudeness?

It is best to ignore the boor, that is, not pay attention to him and not answer anything. And for complete peace of mind - block this person, if possible. More about this here:

How to respond to an offensive, negative comment?

You can answer like this: Listen, something is happening in your life, and I know that it has nothing to do with me. This is not written in good mood. Something makes you project your problems onto me. I'm sorry for whatever is going on with you. But I know for sure that this has nothing to do with me. Have a good day!

Parting

How to respond to “Come on”?

"Come on" is a vulgar way of saying "bye" or "goodbye"; it means something like “give me a paw,” that is, a hand to shake goodbye. Can you just answer Bye or, if you want to hurt a person, tell him that “come on” is vulgar, that only a bastard says that.

How to say goodbye?

Sometimes you want to say goodbye in a beautiful or original way, but this can give a strange impression. Better just write Bye, we'll talk again later or Listen, I'll be a little busy right now, let me write to you later. Or you can write See you later.

Add a comment. Here? Yes, easily!

You can add, send, leave a comment here below to practice. Or show others how beautiful and original you can write! Spam and insults are deleted, don't worry.

Stay in touch with those you care about

Do It home page, connect your favorite sites and stay connected! You will always know if you have new messages, friend requests, new guests on your page and much more:

We also have statuses for VKontakte and Odnoklassniki - a random status generator. Choose what topic you need a status on, click on the button and get it!

In the life of every person, it has happened at least once to listen to insults. Whether intentionally or through negligence, dignity and honor have been desecrated! Insult carries a splash negative emotions caused by various factors. Knowing these reasons, you can competently respond to an insult or react correctly to it. People have different manifestations certain emotions, but it is not always possible to restrain such manifestations. And then, in a rough form, a negative assessment of the personality is given. But if you know how to correctly respond to insults, then the offender himself will be the victim.

Why do people resort to insults?
Before reacting to insults and starting to respond to them, you need to determine what caused the aggression.

Self-affirmation. By insulting an opponent, a person thereby wants to elevate himself. Aggression is a sign of internal fears, worries, complexes and self-doubt. Therefore, wanting to increase self-esteem, a person resorts to various kinds insults. You should show pity to such a person and make it clear that he will not establish himself at your expense.
An outburst of emotions. Sometimes too much negativity accumulates in a person. And falling under the hot hand is an opportunity to hear a lot of new things about yourself. In this case, the person will later apologize himself; he just needs help to calm down.
Playing for the public. Such people receive a huge energy charge from scandals in public. The main thing here is to let the person understand that you are not the hero of his action-packed comedy. To remain indifferent in this case means to remain a winner.
Upbringing. More precisely, its absence. Causes aggressive behavior go to early childhood, characterized by permissiveness and indulgence. An ill-mannered person only has a disgusted attitude.
Bad day or Monday syndrome. There are Mondays in every person's life, and not necessarily on the first day of the week. A difficult day is accompanied by emotional disorders, which provokes the release of the negativity accumulated during the day. The best option- this is to say that you understand what caused the aggression, and ask the person not to take negativity out on you.
Rivalry. It gives rise to the most powerful insults that discredit honor and dignity. Such insults cannot be ignored; it is necessary to give the person a worthy rebuff.

Status and position of the offender
The reaction to an insult also depends on who the offender is.

Husband/wife, relative. If these are people from your inner circle, then you need to try as much as possible to keep things between you warm relations. Family quarrels are temporary and are accompanied by accumulated claims and are resolved at a round table.
Friend. If a friend did this, then you should definitely find out the reason that prompted him to insult. As soon as the details emerge, you will have to decide: to forgive or is it better to refuse such a friend?!
Boss. Most people hear insults from their bosses office workers. This is either a form of communication or personal hostility. In any case, the first one will be recognized on its own, but the second one needs to be found out. But you should never react violently to your boss’s aggression. You can imagine him in funny and absurd situations or just use a smile, this will give him confidence. The boss will see your resilience and recognize your psychological advantage.
Strangers. Here a great opportunity show calmness, education and intelligence.

In any case, you should not be like the offender and accept the rules of his game. Best weapon- this is calmness and adequacy, ignoring or humor.

How to competently respond to an insult in various situations?

Have you encountered a “troll”? The best weapon against him is ignoring. For trolls, aggressive attack is a way of life. Therefore, in order to prevent them from causing discord in society, it is enough to simply ignore them or direct all the power of the intellect at them. For example, you can answer that you would say a lot, but you are worried that it is unlikely that his limited mind will realize and accept this information.
Unfounded criticism of your work. Thank the person for their opinion and tell them that it means others will definitely like it.
Criticism of appearance. Remarks about appearance can seriously damage self-esteem if you take them to heart. To the attack: “What bruises under your eyes! Just terrible!”, You can answer that this is a consequence of a stormy night, adding a satisfied smile.
Notes on clothing. Such jabs often concern the financial situation of your family or you personally and can be very offensive. To the statement: “You only dress in cheap stores!”, you can answer that any thing looks beautiful and advantageous on your figure.

When the situation comes to insults, you should not take the side of the offender and turn into his copy, shouting offensive words and curses at him. After all, the winner will not be the one who knows a lot offensive words, but the one who finds a constructive way to resolve this conflict.