What to do when you don't know what to do? Everything will be fine.

People often find themselves in hopeless situations. The truth is that it is very easy to get into them, but to get out is real work on your understanding of life and the problem that has occurred. But all the same, we can find a way out, but it will be so painful for us, it depends only on us and no one else. What to do when you don't know what to do? The very first thing is to stop feeling sorry for yourself, assess the situation sensibly, and fight pessimism and fear. You need to fight your fear, which does not allow you to breathe deeply. We must train ourselves to look positively at the current situation and the whole world that surrounds us.

We accept the choice

It is very difficult to make a choice, and it doesn’t matter what area of life it concerns. And when between two roads, we think about where to go, we are held back by the fear of making the wrong choice, and we remain in place, suffering. Therefore, you always need to move forward, being responsible for every step you take, as an adult, independent person does. You need to control yourself, learn to weigh the positive and negative consequences, accept that you can make mistakes too.

First step

There is no need to be afraid that you will make a mistake. Try not to ask yourself the question: I just don’t know what to do in this situation, what to do? There is no such person who does not make mistakes, even the smartest and most wise man is wrong. You need to be grateful that you have your own “chest of experience” that you acquire, since this is the most important thing in your life and it is this experience that will allow you to become stronger and more able to endure other hardships of life.

So, take control of your life and under no circumstances allow fear to command your actions! Also, you should not be afraid of changes in life, only in the swamp everything proceeds quietly and calmly, and in mountain river The water is always bubbling. So, don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone! You should always repeat to yourself, both out loud and silently, that change is only good and any change will lead you to a new and better result. By doing this mini-training on yourself, you will begin to understand that your hopeless situation is just a situation from which there is more than one way out.

Change your attitude towards the problem

You are not the only person on Earth who has been in difficult situations. There are a lot of famous and famous people experienced the hardships of life and more seriously. How many unknown people survived? We think a lot! You can easily find several similar stories on the Internet and read how people were able to overcome them. We repeat again, perhaps you simply do not want to leave the usual state of your life, but this is exactly what you need. This very often happens when people maintain outdated relationships, or work at a job that brings only a negative impression, because they don’t respect or value you there. Why is this happening? The fact is that the reason for our hopelessness is low self-esteem. This is why it is important to understand our problem and get out of it, no matter how difficult it may be for us.

Working on self-esteem

When you tell yourself: I don’t even know what to do, this means that your self-esteem is greatly underestimated. So start working on it. If you don’t do this, then no matter what you do, you will have a high probability that you will return to your previous deplorable place. You need to love yourself and not be a “saint”, that is, allow everyone to mock you or offer the other cheek for a slap. And you don’t need to be lazy, because often it is laziness that creates a dead-end problem. By telling your “fables” and excuses all around, you begin to believe in them yourself! So, think carefully about what you say, perhaps you yourself have “talked” the problem to yourself, and are simply too lazy to solve it.

Laziness is your enemy

Fight laziness as if it were yours worst enemy! Increase your motivation, and don't just throw words into the wind. You can write down possible solutions to your situation on paper. Write down even the most fantastic ones, for example: “fly to the moon” or “Teleport someone to Africa.” Write everything down and read it after a while, you will see that of all your entries a few are worthy of applause!

Pity away

Who hasn't felt the pleasure of feeling sorry for themselves? “Like, I’m so unhappy, pat me on the head, tell me that everything will be fine...” And how it will become good, no one asks at that moment... You, on the contrary, set goals for yourself, forget about the people who offend you and bring you only negativity into your life, even if you depend on them financially, think about how to solve this dependence. Don’t allow people to feel sorry for you, don’t allow them to admit that you have no way out, that “fate” is to blame for everything, this is all not true! Look at the elite of the country, many of them “made it” in life thanks to their strong qualities. Imagine also for a moment James Bond. Think about it, would he feel sorry for himself in such a situation, would he sit with his hands folded? The answer is obvious, of course not!

We hope that you have understood your problem a little and realized that for the most part, our problems are far-fetched and purely psychological character. Therefore, if you say to yourself: I just don’t know what to do, then you need to stop and think about everything that is happening and, in the process of thinking, do nothing, and then go forward and arrange your life!

If you don't know WHAT to do,

It's better to do NOTHING.

Great minds set goals for themselves;

other people follow their desires. (1)

Even greater minds, who are called sages, overcoming their own egoistic vital and mental desires, try to unravel the Divine plan, find out the goals of the universe and pursue their fulfillment.

But these are all lofty matters; we will start with banal everyday life. Do you often find yourself in a situation where you find it difficult to make a decision, you are not sure of the right choice, or you don’t have the slightest idea what to do at the moment, or simply have nothing to do? With rare exceptions, quite often. And what, may I ask, are your actions?

In fact, as you probably already understood, the technique is simple to the point of genius: “When you don’t know WHAT to do, it’s better to do NOTHING.” Let's try to explain. In all cases and situations where there is no clear information, instructions, orders, knowledge of what exactly needs to be done at a given historical moment, how to act, your task, if possible, is simply not to do anything, i.e. do not make any unnecessary body or mental movements. So, literally, sit down and do nothing, or better yet, lie down and fall asleep - rest, recuperate and save vital energy. Here we can refer to centuries-old practices in Orthodoxy - mental silence, hesychasm, in Buddhism, yoga - silence of the mind; During such periods of “inaction,” you can engage in prayer, meditation, and reflection. And don’t worry, after some time, after a few minutes, hours, and maybe even a day (it happens too), you will clearly know that that’s it, enough rest, it’s time to get down to business, and, most importantly, you will be completely know exactly which one.

Notes on the way. Eight-year-old Sonya walks around me and pesters me:

- Mom, well, I have nothing to do... What should I do?.. Can I turn on the TV?

- Would you like me to tell you how you can find out what to do? – I remembered the technique. – Lie down on the sofa, calm down and ask God “What should I do?”, and listen to what they tell you. Just listen carefully, and don’t come up with ideas yourself.

Sonya went and lay down on the sofa, a minute later she got up and, shrugging her shoulders, so thoughtfully, intoned:

- Hmm, he doesn’t answer. Busy.

You wake up in the morning, you probably have a plan for the day: get up, wash your face, have breakfast, complete work assignments, go to the store, cook dinner, etc. As you live your day, you follow the plan you developed, which includes all the tasks necessary for today, what is important to do today. And you do all this consistently. You know and go. As a rule, working family people have their days scheduled literally minute by minute, and no questions or doubts arise: “What to do next?” You pray for only one thing: “If only there is enough strength and time for everything.” Well, if you live according to the Strategy of your life and in accordance with your own Conscience, we can only be happy for you, you have no time to be bored and suffer from idleness.

But if suddenly, in the middle of broad daylight, you don’t know what you need to do next, then a quiet panic gradually begins, developing into a meaningless fuss: “What should I do? After all, something needs to be done! I can’t sit idle!” And here it is important not to succumb to the temptation to “invent” this matter for yourself, i.e. force yourself to do something that absolutely no one needs: start calling your girlfriends, go shopping, mop the floor for the tenth time in the last week, sit down to study Portuguese... You never know what a person can come up with just out of boredom, and then I’m surprised that by the evening I don’t even have the strength to watch TV, my wallet is empty, and important things have somehow been forgotten in the hustle and bustle.

Idleness does not at all consist in the fact that a person sits idle, “with folded arms” in the literal sense. No, the slacker is always busy: he talks idle talk on the phone (sometimes for hours), goes to visit people, sits in front of the TV and watches everything, sleeps for a long time, comes up with different things to do. In general, a slacker is always very busy...(2)

What should I do? First of all, don't fuss or rush. Sit down (or lie down if conditions allow), relax, calm down and spend a few minutes alone with yourself. You can work with the mantra (Lecture No. 1.1.5.1.) If you fall asleep, it’s good, but this happens rarely, with good owners and workers it practically never happens that they have absolutely nothing to do. Therefore, we guarantee that literally in a couple of minutes a completely clear and clear thought will come to your mind, WHAT exactly would be good to do in at the moment. And you just get up and start doing the task at hand. And here, if you are sure of its necessity and correctness, give your all, bring the matter to the end, no matter what it costs you.

Naturally, it is naive to expect that something ingenious will come to your mind, although we also do not exclude this option, but most likely it will be an ordinary everyday thing that you have been thinking about for a long time and knew that sooner or later you will have to do it, but now you We received direct instructions that this should be done right now: water the flowers, cook borscht, wash the curtains, go to the store, write a letter, mend a sock, play with the baby, and maybe saw, paint, glue... That's all. Nothing complicated. If the thought came: “Shouldn’t I re-read Anna Karenina?” Take it and re-read it. Who knows what semantic depths will open up before you today, precisely in modern conditions. Maybe you will come across a solution to a problem that has been bothering you throughout the year. Who knows... Yes, the same banal “I haven’t called Masha for a long time” now, after it came to your mind in this way, will appear necessary and sufficient, and Masha will be surprised for a long time: “I’ve been thinking about you all week, but I just can’t get through,” and not grumble: “Aren’t you tired of calling?” If today it’s better for you to do nothing at all, then no thoughts will come to your mind, you will take a nap for an hour or two with a clear conscience, until a new problem that is already relevant at that moment wakes you up. In the end, maybe it’s time to rest, gain some strength, and the body, knowing everything better than you, chose the right moment for this, because only it knows what things will happen to you in two hours and how much effort it will cost you. And after sleeping, you will get up cheerful and fresh and continue your day, and achieve much more effective results in matters that are really important to you, than if you spent these two hours on cleaning, gymnasts, reading, studying and similar pastimes that you invented.

Example? Let’s say you are a businessman, and suddenly, in the middle of the working day, you have a “window” in your schedule, and most importantly, you don’t really know how you will end your day, i.e. your plan for today seems to have been exhausted, and without thinking or “asking for advice,” you rush to the gym in the hope of losing an extra pound. But suddenly, an hour after you started your physical exercises, you receive a message from the secretary that you are invited to an important meeting, and you, unable to refuse, sweaty and soapy, exhausted, disheveled, hungry, are rushing to another end of the city back to the office. The result? The whole conversation you think about whether you look decent and whether you smell of sweat, your stomach is aching from hunger, and therefore the content of the conversation floats away and a rash decision is made. If you had acted differently, sat and thought for an extra five minutes, you would have understood or they would have “prompted” you that today it would be possible to review all the papers under the planned agreement again and request additional information, or even just relax or go to a restaurant for lunch, and at the same time think about it once again, you see, and the contract would be signed on more favorable terms for you. But it was all worth taking the time to ask a simple question: “What should we do now?” And so it is in everything and always. Just? In our opinion, it's brilliant.

As you master these techniques and reorganize your life, your daily schedule will gradually improve in the direction of saving time and effort, i.e. there will be more and more of them, therefore, more and more often you will find yourself in the situation described above. And every time you come across a vacated temporary space, try to calm down, relax and ask yourself the question “What should I do now?”, and in a few minutes your brain (you can call it “my intuition” for now, although let’s just say right away) that it is not she) will provide you with necessary information and will indicate the field of activity. So little by little, all your pressing material and everyday problems, and then opportunities will open up for self-improvement in all three components, body, soul, mind: there will be time and circumstances for sports, proper rest, reading, learning, conversations, communication, etc.

But what, you ask, should you do in cases where an answer to a question received from the outside world is required in a matter of seconds, and you are confused and unable to make a decision with lightning speed? If possible, it is best to ask for a delay, like “the morning is wiser than the evening,” delay the time as much as possible, and try to wait for (or think of) a clear, unambiguous answer when you are firmly convinced that this is the case and the only way. We repeat: it is recommended to perform any action only if you are absolutely sure that it is necessary and correct for you at a given moment in time. If you really need an instant reaction, trust your first feeling or body. In case of real danger, psychomotor skills must manifest themselves, the body will definitely react. Unfortunately, in previously identified cases that have already become fatal, it will be extremely difficult, although not impossible, to help you. Try to start learning, maybe, if the opportunity arises, you will achieve the ability to influence events not only present and future, but also past ones.

If there is no immediate answer to a question, “doing nothing” does not at all mean pushing the problem aside, like the notorious Scarlett (“I won’t think about it today, I’ll think about it tomorrow.”), and forget about it. It is important to continue to think about it, analyze it, look for a way out and try to decide on a solution. Only if you are restless will it perhaps “illuminate” you in the end. And again: it’s best to start real actions when you are sure that the decision you have made is correct, i.e. again analyze everything from beginning to end.

“I’ll summarize the situation,” Ostap said cheerfully. — Passive: not a penny of money, three chairs are leaving down the river, nowhere to spend the night and not a single badge from the children's commission. Asset: a guide to the Volga, edition of one thousand nine hundred and twenty-six (I had to borrow it from Monsieur Simbievich in the cabin). It is very difficult to achieve a deficit-free balance. You will have to spend the night at the pier. ...The situation is much more serious than I expected. Extorting money from the Vasyukinites seems to me to be an impossible task for now. And we need at least thirty rubles of money. Firstly, we need to eat and, secondly, overtake the circulation tank and meet the Columbus men on land, in Stalingrad.

Ippolit Matveyevich curled up like an old skinny cat after a skirmish with a young rival - the ebullient owner of roofs, attics and dormer windows.

Ostap walked along the benches, thinking and combining. By one o'clock in the morning the magnificent plan was ready. Bender lay down next to his companion and fell asleep. (3)

And as you probably guessed, one of the most dangerous phrases in our life - the question “How to kill time?” If you belong to the caste of “time killers”, to those who often ask this question, then we can confidently state that in your life there is no Theme, no Idea, no strategic meaning to which all your daily tactics are subordinated. After all, the internal desire for a goal guarantees constant employment, even if not related to the specific implementation of projects, but aimed at expanding one’s knowledge and skills on the chosen topic, i.e. for self-education and self-education. Truly purposeful people have their days scheduled minute by minute, and those who have achieved solid results in their field and made a serious career often do not have time even for a due and well-deserved vacation. Moreover, they are forced to pay increased attention to one specific component of the trinity that leads in their activities, sometimes to the detriment of the other two.

- We have very little money.

- You constantly talk about this.

- Maybe it's time to get a job?

- I'm not going to work. I already have good job, and I can't afford to waste time making money. (4)

You don't know what to do free time? But others know this very well. They will not fail to tell you where to invest your time and money, and sometimes your health. Be careful not to fall for the bait. “Filter the market”, i.e. comprehend what is offered to you by numerous media outlets fulfilling someone’s order, entertainment companies working for someone else’s (not your!) pocket, sects caring about their own ambitions, and so on similar organizations. We are in no way dissuading you from relaxation and entertainment, we simply urge you to be more careful.

Life is better for unhappy people in the city. A person can live in a city for a hundred years and not miss the fact that he died and rotted a long time ago. There is no time to deal with yourself, everything is busy. Affairs, public relations, health, arts, children's health, their upbringing. Then you need to accept this and that, go to this and that; then you need to watch this one, listen to this one or this one. After all, in the city at any given moment there is one, or even two, three celebrities that cannot be missed. Either you need to treat yourself, this or that, then teachers, tutors, governesses, but life is empty. Well, that’s how we lived and felt less pain from cohabitation. (5)

It remains to add that wasting time, effort and attention on matters that are not dictated by the true necessity of your life and not confirmed by unshakable confidence is not only an ungrateful activity, but also downright vicious. You are wasting your precious life energy, health and intellectual wealth for other purposes, which could be saved and spent on things that are more relevant not only for you, but also for your loved ones. Moreover, by being distracted in this way, you risk really missing important information and pass by the really important things on which your life as a whole will depend. So, be extremely careful in choosing when you “don’t know what to do.” Avoid unnecessary knowledge!

Fedyashev closed his eyes and sighed sadly.

— “He suffers from hypochondria,” explained the aunt.

- I see! - said the doctor and poured the glass again. “Hypochondria is a cruel lust that keeps the spirit in a constant sad state... Here medicine knows different remedies... For example, this...” He raised his filled glass.

— Doesn't accept! - Auntie sighed.

“So the disease has started,” the doctor shook his head and drank. — There is another way: hardening the soul by lowering the body into an ice hole...

- Wise! - Auntie approved. “But it’s summer now—where can we get an ice hole?”

“That’s it,” the doctor sighed. - Then there is a third way - conversation. The word heals, conversation drives away thoughts. Do you want to talk, sir? — The doctor had his fill and lit his pipe. (6)

It is necessary to warn that this technique is only one of many consequences fundamental principle The teachings of SP - the Principle of Solid Yes (Lecture No. 2.1.2.1.), but you can get acquainted with it before studying the Principle itself so that a) you approach the Principle itself more prepared, because understanding the whole is often much easier when you get used to it in private; b) during this time you will accumulate a solid base of your own experiments; c) despite its apparent simplicity and banality, the technique is so important that any delay can be costly; d) it is directly related to the topic of the lecture “On the goals and objectives of the neophyte” (No. 1.2.1.) and will help you cope with uncertainty if you have not yet made a choice, and will also allow you to avoid fuss.

Notes:

V. Irving.
D. Likhachev. Notes and observations. - L.: Sov. writer, 1989, p. 316.
I. Ilf, E. Petrov. Twelve chairs. //I.Ilf, E.Petrov. Collected works. - M.: Khud.lit., 1961, T.1, p. 312.
Dialogue from the film “Total Eclipse”, dir. A. Holland, 1997.
L. Tolstoy. Kreutzer Sonata. //L. Tolstoy. Collection Op. — M.: Khud. lit., 1964., T. 12, p. 176.
G. Gorin. Formula of love. //Anthology of Satire and Humor of Russia of the 20th century: G. Gorin. - M.: Eksmo-Press, 2000, p. 345.

Abstracts:

¨ “Great minds set goals for themselves; other people follow their desires.”

¨ The technique “If you don’t know WHAT to do, it’s better to do NOTHING” is one of the consequences of the Solid Yes Principle.

¨ In all cases and situations when there is no clear information, instructions, orders, knowledge of WHAT exactly needs to be done at a given historical moment, how to act, the task is to, if possible, simply do nothing, i.e. . do not make any unnecessary body or mental movements.

¨ If a person is confident in the necessity and correctness of the task, he is obliged to give his all, to bring the matter to the end, no matter what it costs him.

¨ If a person lives according to the Strategy of his life and in accordance with his own Conscience, he has no time to be bored and suffer from idleness.

¨ Resist the temptation to invent unnecessary things.

¨ Every time you have free time, try to calm down, relax and ask yourself the question “What should I do now?”, and in a few minutes your brain will provide the necessary information and indicate the field of activity.

¨ If you need an instant reaction, and you don’t know what to do, trust your first feeling or body.

¨ You can’t push the problem to the far corner; it’s important to continue to think about it.

¨ One of the most dangerous phrases in life is the question “How to kill time?”

¨ The pursuit of a goal guarantees constant employment, even if not related to the specific implementation of projects, but aimed at expanding one’s knowledge and skills on the chosen topic, i.e. for self-education and self-education.

¨ When choosing ways to relax, you must also be very careful.

¨ Wasting time, energy and attention on matters that are not dictated by the true necessity of life and not confirmed by unshakable confidence is not only an ungrateful activity, but also downright vicious.

¨ Avoid unnecessary knowledge!

If you are wondering: “What to do if you don’t know what to do?”, it means that you either don’t know what to do, that is, you haven’t decided what kind of business you want to do in life, or you know what kind of business you want to do, but don’t know where to start.

If you belong to the first category, then welcome to sections: and. Having completed all the tasks in these sections, you will know exactly what you need to do in life. And you will find the job of your dreams. If the information in these sections is not enough for you, then you can familiarize yourself with the course.

If you belong to the second category, that is, you know what you want to do, but don’t know where to start, then this article was written especially for you. I wrote some techniques in the article -. But I think nothing bad will happen if I repeat myself a little in this article.

To be honest, I often ask myself: “What to do when you don’t know what to do?”. Sometimes it happens that you seem to know what you want, but there is NO way or plan to achieve the goal, and if there is a way or plan to achieve the goal, then there is NO OPPORTUNITY right away. For example, to achieve a goal there is not enough money, or you need to go to another city or country, or there is not enough knowledge, or..., or.... I think you understand perfectly well what I'm talking about, because we all face such a ridiculous situation.

So what do you do when you don’t know what to do? Break your head - no effective way, surfing the Internet is already closer, asking questions regularly is exactly what you need. Yes, that's right.

The second answer to the question of what to do if you don’t know what to do is to look for information in various sources: the Internet, seminars. Sometimes the answer is in an article or article. Just again, look for answers without fanaticism. The simplest and at the same time difficult way to find the answer to a question that interests you is to ask a person who knows what needs to be done to arrive at such a result. In other words, you need to use someone else's experience.

If you want to open a cafe, but don’t know where to start, then you can ask your friend who is involved in this business. Sounds simple. And if there are no acquaintances who are involved in this business, then what? Find? YES!!! Now you understand why this method is complex and simple at the same time.

In my life, I have noticed that people are happy to share information and their experiences about something specific. People love to tell their success story. But it also happens that people do not want to share information even for money. Nobody needs competitors. So try to find someone who has already achieved what you want to achieve. Let him become your mentor.

What to do if you don’t know what to do?

Another category of people who wonder what to do if you don't know what to do- they simply found themselves in a dead-end or, in their opinion, hopeless situation. For example, you were fired from a high-paying job when you have small children and outstanding loan. Of course, the answer suggests itself. In such a situation, the first thing to do is to calm down. I know that this is very difficult, but under the influence of emotions the problem only gets worse. If I found myself in such a situation, I would look for new job and ask for help from relatives and friends.

Never be afraid to ask for help if you find yourself in a hopeless situation. I understand perfectly well that you don’t want to look pathetic in the eyes of other people, and your pride does not allow you to call your friend and, for example, ask them to lend you a certain amount. But if you don’t ask for help, then you will continue to wonder - what to do when you don't know what to do?

Sometimes you just have to get through such situations. For example, a guy with whom you lived for quite a long time left you. Most likely, you consider it the only person, and can’t imagine your life without him. It doesn’t even occur to you that you might meet another guy with whom you will be much happier. Instead you think, . It is precisely at such moments that the girl does not know what to do and how to behave so that the guy will return. Time passes, attempts to return the guy were unsuccessful, and the girl slowly begins to forget him. As they say - out of sight, out of mind. And after a while she meets the guy of her dreams.

That is, it turns out that at the moment of separation she had no idea what to do. She thought that she was in a dead end situation, and after a while she was already making plans for the future with her new boyfriend. That is, sometimes it is better to let go of the situation, and then it will resolve itself.

The same example can be given in relation to business. When a business collapses, entrepreneurs, no matter how hard they try, cannot save it. They don't know what they need to do to save their business. And so, sleepless nights they think about how to correct the current situation, but cannot find an answer. As a result, the business collapses completely, and entrepreneurs, in their opinion, find themselves in a dead end situation. After letting go of the situation, after some time, bankrupt entrepreneurs find new and better ideas.

In short, if you don’t know what to do, just forget it and do something useful. For example, read a book. The authors of this book answer in more detail the question of what to do if you don’t know what to do.

Everyone has had such moments in life when we had to make decisions, we didn’t know what to do. First of all, information is usually collected. It is necessary to look at the facts, what is for and what is against. But even in this case, we cannot always come to a final decision.

When you cannot make a decision with your mind, it is because the same mind is interfering with you.

Otherwise, I call it the voice in my head. Many people don't even notice it. But it is he who creates an endless internal monologue, sometimes turning into dialogue. Inner voice bifurcates, you start talking to yourself. You get used to it and after a while you stop noticing it. When there are tough choices to be made, this voice is not very helpful. He constantly criticizes you, comments on everything you did wrong.

Others get the same. It's like living with someone who can't stand you. You would not live with such a person; you would try to break off the relationship. But because you cannot get rid of your mind, you are stuck. As a result, there is a lack of determination to act. You don't feel the positive aspects of your decision.

The voice in your head creates many problems that turn out to be unrealistic. They haven't happened yet and may only happen tomorrow or next week. Listening to problems that haven't arisen is another name for worrying. And all this because of the voice in my head. He is worried about various “what if”, “what if”... He is dissatisfied with what is happening, he is in agony. As a result, you stop experiencing the joy of life.

Sometimes, the voice in your head turns into complaints. When you are confused in your mind and don’t know where to go next, a voice in your head starts complaining about something else that is not at all suitable. About the weather, about the bad economy... About the fact that you didn’t think that your life would go this way and that everyone but you is to blame for the fact that things turned out this way and not otherwise. Complaining adds nothing but heaviness. A big bag of rocks on your back while you try to figure out what to do. In many cases, it prevents you from taking at least some action.

Now imagine that the voice in your head suddenly stops. You become aware of an amazing silence. This is exactly what it takes to take effective solution. You need to be in the present. You need to free yourself from everything that is not happening now.

Of course, you can't snap your fingers and the voice will disappear. Some people spontaneously experience this state while doing extreme species sports. Climbing a steep cliff, looking for somewhere to put a foot, or something to grab onto with a hand, they notice that they stop thinking. They are totally present, because if you slip into thinking, they will fall down the mountain. Others go into nature, look at the beauty around them, listen to the birds singing, the rustling of leaves, and suddenly realize what it means to be present in the present. But you don't have time to wait until you get involved in dangerous activities or find yourself on the wildlife. However, you can always remain in the present, the focus of attention has shifted from thinking to the perception of the vitality of your body.

When you are in the present, your perception, hearing, and vision instantly become sharper. You feel a silence that cannot be created with your own hands. She was always here under the cover of thoughts. You begin to distinguish, your situation is this, but this is what my mind says about it. This does not mean that you completely ignore the future and that you will not plan things for tomorrow. This means that your focus is in the present. You will plan, but always come back into direct, living contact with what is happening.

How to achieve this?
One way is to notice the voice in your head. Once you hear what you are thinking, you can stop thinking. Another way is to ask yourself, what problems am I having right now? It often awakens. Yes, right now I have no problems. For example, you haven't lost your job right now. You may lose it later, but you don't have it now. Yes, after a while a challenge from life may arise and you will have to take some action... But the problems disappear, they turn into events of life. The moment the challenge arises, you will answer it.

When you understand what the situation really is, and not how your mind describes it to you, you will stop wasting energy.

The situation exists, but you don't waste your energy worrying. You don’t pour alcohol on it, don’t give in to despondency, don’t get into debates, don’t rush from one person to another looking for advice. Resistance goes away. It was your thinking about the situation that made you weak, but not the situation itself. You continue to do your daily activities, but there is room for intuition. Because when you are connected to silence, you are also connected to the creative mind, which is much higher than the analytical powers of the mind.

Very often decisions come unexpectedly. However, this does not mean that it should come right away.

You may need to continue living your normal life, but this time will create a space of silence within you in which intuition can manifest itself. In the end, whether you choose one or the other doesn't really matter.

If you stay in the present when making decisions, you will remain in the present in the next situation and make your choice when the need arises.

There will always be many ways to do things one way or the other. It's not what you do, but how you do it that matters. What is important is your consciousness that you bring to what is happening. Then you will feel vitality in everything you do.

“Today you want one thing - to die, and tomorrow you wake up and realize that you just had to go down a few steps, feel for the switch on the wall and see life in a completely different light...” Anna Gavalda

Sometimes it happens that things get bad. Is it an age crisis, depression or an understanding of the hopelessness of life? All together. What are you doing wrong? How to find your way and get out of the absorbing abyss?

What to do if you get stuck at one point?

1. You surrounded yourself with the wrong people. Time to change friends!

Your surroundings are completely “strangers”, even if you have known them for a long time. You have no common interests, goals, desires. These people serve not as a support, but as an anchor on the leg. Because of them, you are stuck at one point and are slowly going to the bottom. They pull back, criticize, waste time and energy. They make you a failure, just like themselves. What to do in this case?

Find those who will inspire, think alike and motivate. Someone you can grow with. Who is better? Someone to look up to. Find new acquaintances, friends and buddies. Surround yourself strong people. Who do you want to be like?

2. You're stuck and have lost your grip. It's time to wake up and stop being shit!

Crisis, fatigue and depression? What to do if you don't know what to do? Often the reason for unhappiness lies in the fact that you are stuck and have lost your grip. Run home from work. There are TV series, the Internet, social media, TV and sofa. On weekends, sleep until lunch, get-togethers with friends, alcohol, entertainment and laziness. You understand that you are not doing anything right and proper. For this reason, you are unhappy and go into the swamp of depression.

It's time for you to start moving minimally. Bring dynamics into your life. To do at least something, and not to go with the flow, like a weak-willed piece of shit. Start learning foreign language, take courses, enroll in gym, engage in self-education. Shake yourself up.

3. You're not doing what you want. Time to find your goals!

Many people work for a long time on goals that are far from their real desires. They work in jobs they hate. They do things that don't inspire them. They are mired in routine and the meaninglessness of life.

You're not doing what you want. You wasted your time and your potential on the wrong things. What to do if you made a mistake in choosing the path? Set a new goal. A new real goal. Which you really want to achieve.

Goals should not be whims or nonsense. Now write down on a piece of paper what you most want to achieve. Compose detailed plan and tie it to time.

4. You are a fatalist. It's time to try your hand!

It's easy to complain about circumstances, the government, the crisis, parents, ill-wishers and other factors. Stop abdicating responsibility and pointing to fate. It's time to take full responsibility into your own hands.

We are unhappy when we allow ourselves to waste our resources: time, effort, energy and potential. Make a plan to achieve your goal. Get out of the circle and try new things. Test yourself for strength. Rush into battle. Take risks. You are unhappy for the reason that your “engine” does not growl and does not work at full strength.

What to do if you don't know what to do? Find like-minded people, start doing at least something, find goals and rush into battle.