Why is everything going the way you want? Here's what you need to remember when things go wrong in life...

That's why it happens that some achieve something, while others fail? Why do some people do what they like, while others constantly complain about life and want to change it? Why do some manage to change their lives, while others only dream about it? Why, why, why?

It's very simple. People from the first category simply allow themselves to do it! No matter how incredible it may sound, you just need to allow yourself to live the way you want, do what you like, communicate with those with whom you are interested, live where you dream and much more.

For what reason can people not afford to live like this?

Probably because of the surrounding society, which formed a certain opinion about life in their brain and created a fictional framework. And then people begin to believe in everything, they believe in what different media say, they believe strangers who don’t even know the essence of the matter, but at the same time they claim that this is bad, don’t do it, but I heard it, etc. Such people do not want to think for themselves, they do not try to raise their butts to check for themselves. This is where the excuses come from why people don’t change themselves and their lives.

Remember how as a child you played various games, came up with your own rules for them and at the same time changed them during the game, this is your game. Taking something round, you said: “This is the steering wheel from my car, sit down, let’s go for a ride.” As children, everyone dreamed and came up with something, but then society gradually began to influence. From childhood we were taught what we could do and what we couldn’t do, but they rarely explained it; even our parents couldn’t always explain why we couldn’t do this, otherwise we could.

Then you go to school. There, again, teachers do not like those who stand out and to whom other children are drawn, because it becomes more difficult to manage the class. And children are drawn out because this child allows himself to do what you are afraid of. He thinks differently, he was also forbidden to do something, but at the same time he does it anyway, because the answer “it can’t be said, it means it can’t” is not enough for him.

At school they start telling you about education, university, profession and your future life. They say that in order to enter a university you need to study. Why go to university? So that you can find a good job later. Why a good job? So that you have something to live on. But this cannot always be called life, rather, existence.

Hooray! School is behind us, university is ahead and a new adult life begins. Everything seems to be simpler here, they give you the right to choose - whichever specialty you want, go for that one. But then it turns out that the person is not prepared for this specialty, and he enrolls where he can, and not where he wants. And now you are already studying at the university for a prestigious specialty, you have already come to terms with this and are thinking about where you will go to work and where you can develop and climb the career ladder.

Some people, already in their 3rd or 4th year, start to have thoughts about whether I need what I’m doing, whether I’ve chosen the right faculty, or if I was drawn to something else. And again, society, reassuring, says, “What are you talking about, you have a good profession, you’ll finish your studies, and everything will be great for you.” Some people believe these fairy tales, while others immediately begin to do something to change. They drop out of university and open their own business, then a new one, etc. search and try themselves. And society responds with “oh, he dropped out of university and won’t be able to achieve anything, he’s a black sheep, what does he think?” and everyone sadly nods their head, agreeing and saying “yes, yes.” But in their hearts they understand that they are ready to go after this person, try something new and find themselves.

Hooray! You have graduated from university, what to do next? It is not always possible to work in a profession because people face employment problems. Of course, the more cunning, intelligent and assertive ones find work and get settled. And the rest do not work according to their profession, because adult and independent life has begun, they need to earn money for a living.

The question is, why did you study for 5 years for one profession, but are working in another?

Society tells you that if you don’t have a prestigious job, you will be an outcast, a loser, and no one wants to be that. Therefore, people apply for jobs based on advertisements that promise career growth and various benefits. But only a few achieve this, and the majority work in one position until retirement and this suits them. If they don’t suit you, they just whine, saying “oh, how bad and poor I am, my life hasn’t worked out” and do nothing. Although everyone can change their life, not everyone allows themselves to do so.

At the moment of going through everything listed above, a person finds himself very constrained. He has a lot of frames and prohibitions in his head, four walls in which he exists and is afraid to leave this comfortable zone. Society said it was bad and impossible, society said it was not prestigious and not fashionable, and you, in response, sadly nod your head, agreeing, and say “well, yeah.”

And only a few people think, who is this society to me? Who creates all these laws of fashion and rules of decency, who limits me? Anything within the law is possible!

Why doesn't society allow us to live differently?

Probably, those who sadly nod and completely agree, saying “yes”, are easier to manipulate and manage. Remember, like in kindergarten and school, one person stands out and is drawn to him, and then it becomes difficult to command a group or class. It's the same in adult life. That’s why conditions and rules are dictated to us. They dictate to us what things to wear, where and what to buy, etc.

People, without thinking about why this is so, stupidly follow these rules, because from childhood they were taught not to ask questions, but to obey everything obediently.

Only a few can cut all the wires and free themselves from this cycle.

Probably everyone is thinking about how to change their life, but only a very small percentage actually does something about it, because they are afraid to leave their comfort zone and step out of the box.

What do you think about this?

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Have you ever thought about why in life sometimes things don’t work out the way you want? That you set some goals, plans, schedules, but it just doesn’t work out. Something breaks down, there is no state for something or the mood is not suitable. Random non-coincidences await us at every step. And they really are not random. If everything is going wrong in your life, then there is definitely a reason for it! It is useless to argue about this; it is better to try to understand why everything is like this?

Sooner or later, the mosaic will come together anyway, and the truth will be revealed to you, which you should have understood at the very beginning and because of which you were unable to implement your plans. But it is still unclear. And to clarify the situation, start by understanding that your desires and the desires of the Universe for you do not always coincide. And misunderstandings begin because we are accustomed to keeping life within the strict framework of “shoulds,” maneuvering its flow between the icebergs of familiar concepts, operating only with the knowledge of our own mind, and this cuts off a lot of opportunities and insights from us. Alas, our knowledge will never be perfect. Life is incomprehensible! And what Her Majesty Fate has prepared for us cannot be known in advance. However, we cannot hide from it anywhere, no matter how much we try to control all kinds of life manifestations.

So, let's try to understand the reasons for what is happening.

Why is everything wrong? Possible reasons

If something in your life is not working out the way you want, think about whether this is what is required of you at the moment. I'm talking about this moment, here and now. Perhaps by understanding something, doing something, changing something in this moment, you will break through the wall that prevents you from moving on. But this is something you need to understand and definitely do! Don't look into the distance, take a closer look at yourself today. Your success depends on the choices you make now. Be attentive to yourself and to the signs of the Universe, this is the key to the door to a happy future. And even if it is difficult to understand the reasons in the present, do not worry - the mosaic will certainly come together, and the answers will come.

The main thing is to remember that when there is harmony within you, it will not be slow to manifest itself in your whole life.

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In truth, what we talk about happens to us. And sometimes we talk a lot, and without thinking at all about the meaning of what was said. There are many smart books and different rules on how, when and what to talk about.

But these are the rules... They are boring and we follow them only sometimes - when it is very important for us to follow them. The situations for applying these rules are different, but they stress us out quite a bit. And therefore, in everyday life we easily deviate from these rules.

It seems to us that we are simply living at this time. Just talking with a friend or girlfriend, just throwing out emotions, just talking about nothing. And sometimes we also know how to simply “show off” or simply “play to the public.”

And all this time, it turns out, we are putting together our own lives. From carelessly thrown words, from fragments of negativity or denial of the obvious. And we also build it, life, from sincere joy, from smiles and warm glances... But now we are not talking about them. Now we are talking about the words with which we cover our lives, turning it from a beautiful holiday carpet into tattered patchwork quilt.

From the most recent dialogues

“The kind of men I need simply don’t exist. They don’t exist! They haven’t been born yet.”--- This woman has been alone for a long time. She wants to get married, but the chances of starting a new family are equal... you yourself understand what they are equal to.

“Oh, now such women have gone. What kind of relationship can you have with them? They are predators and only want to take, or rather, snatch. That’s why I only focus on sex with them. And only with those who do not behave like predators.”--- This is said by a man who has had a lot of trouble with predators and is now licking his emotional wounds with casual sex. Can you imagine how “lucky” his women will be?

“What are you talking about! What kind of money do I have?! To have money, you have to become a criminal. But all I want is some kind of roof over my head and a little food. I don’t want anything else.”--- Of course, this man is no stranger to guile. In fact, deep down, he dreams of status and a new car, and he dreams of an apartment in a prestigious area at night. But this is how things work out for him - he survives on petty earnings and continues to “become poor.”

“Clients? Oh, of course, I have them. But they are such misers that you won’t get any income. I’m tired of throwing pearls in front of them. You spread yourself out on the floor in front of them, and they, the bastards, take money away from your competitors.”--- These are the revelations of one business woman who dreams of big profits in her business and hates her clients. Comments also suggest themselves.

But there are even more terrible sayings...
“May your children not give you bread in your old age!”--- This phrase, said by a mother to her 10-year-old son, once simply shocked me. When I began to explain to her that her words were tantamount to cursing her own child, the lady was perplexed. Unfortunately, the words returned to the mother - the son grew up, left for another country and the mother was forgotten.

Be careful with your words. Everything you say can become part of your life without you noticing.

Want to test yourself? Try to record your conversation (preferably more than one) when you talk about how you are doing or about your plans, or evaluate what is happening. Listen to it after recording and write down what definitions you give, what mood you have in the conversation. You will be able to learn a lot about yourself after this exercise and about the reasons for the events in your life.

The situation is not as sad as it might seem. To change it, it is enough to replace the wording with positive ones, watch your words and maintain a positive attitude. This is very easy to do if you start changing your life in the company of a friend or girlfriend. You can help each other by watching the wording and giving the agreed upon signs.

In your own words, paint a beautiful picture of your own life. May she please you and give you happiness!

Are there people in the world who want to feel bad? Any living creature strives to feel good, at least to survive. Man is no exception. Therefore, to one degree or another, all people think positively, that is, they want good things for themselves. Even a suicide does this because he believes that it will be better for him. Everyone has different dreams and desires. Everyone strives for something in life, even when they are just lying on the couch, at least to be left alone. Why not desire?! Why do most wishes not come true, why do dreams crumble and hopes die?

Tell me, why should they come true at all? Just because you want it so much or the teacher at the next psychological training told you that in order for a wish to come true you have to really want it and you will succeed. And whoever doesn’t want it, everyone wants it. But only a few succeed. It turns out when desires coincide with a person’s Karma. It seems to me that the basis of this gigantic misconception is the excessive, unfounded confidence of people in their capabilities and abilities. We can observe this in everyday life, when people take on any task without having either the ability or the necessary knowledge. As a result, there are a huge number of amateurs in all areas of life, from plumbers to state leaders. Therefore, the idea of “positive thinking” fell on the fertile soil of the desire to get results quickly and effortlessly. After all, you just have to want it and that’s it.

In fact, Karma stands between people's desires and their implementation in life. The fact is that our life is a reflection of our consciousness, which in turn is formed by Sanskars or the matrix with the help of which Karma is recorded in it. This means that in life people will see not a reflection of their desires, but a reflection of their Karma, which in the vast majority of cases is very different from desires and hopes. It’s like if we put a disc with the movie “Avatar” into the player, but we want to see “Titanic”, isn’t it funny? Rave! But unfortunately, almost everyone does this in life. A simple example - who wants to be sick, old, poor, unhappy, lonely, and so on? What in practice?

We live in Kali Yuga, or rather even in Kali Yuga Sandhi, or in simple terms in the last final part of it. This period in the history of human civilization is characterized by the fact that the minimum amount of negative Karma in people is 75%. Try to realize your desires with such a force of resistance. This requires super abilities and enormous willpower, called Sankalpa Shakti in Yoga. The vast majority of people simply don’t have it. But this is not enough, the main thing is the opportunity to change your Karma, and this requires special knowledge. I always give this example: anyone knows that in order to fix a simple computer, special knowledge is required. But every person believes that he is able to change his life for the better, simply because he wants to. But the life of an ordinary person is trillions of times more complex than all computers combined, and in order to change it, even more so, special knowledge is needed. But knowledge is on a completely different level. People study various sciences: chemistry, physics, mathematics, but no one anywhere studies the most important science, the science of how to live in this life. After all, even a simple electric kettle has an instruction manual, but people don’t have such instructions for life. So everyone tries, whatever they can, using the random method. Hence the result. Fortunately, such a science exists and has existed for millions of years and it is called Sanatana Dharma. It contains all the secret, divine knowledge about life and ways of changing Karma, including.

The fact that Karma stands between a person’s desires and their possibility of fulfillment is very good. Why? Imagine for a second what would happen if all people’s wishes came true. Yes, there would simply be no one left on earth. He wished for you to die, but he took it right there and fulfilled your wish. What would have happened on earth then is even scary to think about. In addition, people often no longer want tomorrow what they wanted yesterday. This is another reason why people's wishes do not come true. Karma is the universal fuse and regulator.

Real positive changes in life are possible only with Divine help because this is the only way to change a person’s Karma. If God is with you, then what do you fear, and if not with you, then what do you hope for? This is why Sanatana Dharma exists. An attempt to change life without God is doomed to failure, and if changes occur, then either one problem will replace another, or it will be “they wanted the best, but ......”. No wonder the Bible says: “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.”