I can't become happy. How to be happy every day

practicing psychologist Elena Sultanova

Happiness is a state to which, consciously or not, almost everyone strives. Another thing is that everyone has their own happiness: some have a prosperous family, some have professional self-realization, some have material wealth.

Being a happy person is both simple and difficult. The difficulty is that in order to become happy, you need to know some conditions for achieving happiness, more about them below. But the main difficulty is that happiness has ceased to be interesting to people. Almost any modern book, film or song can easily convince you of this: the fates of the heroes are distorted by some tragedy, someone’s untimely death, an accident, unrequited love. And thus, we learn to empathize not with happiness, but with misfortune. And it is misfortune that we most often try on ourselves. Anyone who is happy is of no interest to anyone, at best. And at worst, it causes hostility. Remember how Toska said in “Girls”: “You are happy, Katka, but happiness blinds people.”

Another difficulty on the path to happiness is our misconception that happiness is difficult to achieve. We are generally accustomed to thinking that good things must be earned, and that what comes easily is worth nothing. There is even an expression - “hard-earned happiness.” Often, instead of becoming truly happy, we begin to obtain this happiness by inventing obstacles and suffering for ourselves out of the blue. We don't believe in happiness if it just comes into our hands. We consider real what has been suffered, obtained, earned, and never what was easily and joyfully in our hands.

How can one still be happy?

At the very beginning, we said that being happy is not only difficult, but also simple. In order to be happy, you only need an inner desire and intention to be happy. It is not circumstances that make a person happy, but the internal readiness to be happy and the ability to be content with what he has. Surely everyone is familiar with the state when everything seems to be there for happiness, but there is no happiness itself. But happiness does not come when there are no problems. When you are happy, troubles and failures can happen in life. However, a happy person understands that there can be troubles and failures, and accepts them not as obstacles, but as springboards - in order to better push off.

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Hello! In this article we will talk about how to become a happy person. And also about how a woman can become happy and loved, even if she is alone and has no one. Today you will receive the best psychological advice on this issue.

Probably each of us dreams of waking up one morning and feeling maximum happiness and peace of mind. Happiness is a state of complete satisfaction with one's life. This is an entirely subjective characteristic.. Looking at a person from the outside, we can only guess whether he is happy. Only he himself feels it.

The feeling of happiness never directly depends on status, financial capabilities, social environment, etc. Often people with material wealth, many friends and a good family feel unhappy. And sometimes a person who is not particularly wealthy, with a difficult fate, can experience real happiness. Here everything completely depends on ourselves.

What influences the feeling of happiness

Values. Each of us has a certain set of significant values ( “to love and be loved”, “family”, “interesting work”, “freedom”, “constant development” etc.), and if they are present in our life, then the feeling of happiness does not leave us.
Achieving your goals. Some people have simple and quickly achievable goals, while others have ambitious goals that require a lot of effort. But one way or another, the main criterion of happiness here is the result obtained.
Satisfying needs. The key is to satisfy precisely those needs that a person puts at the forefront. You can be a hungry artist, but if the most important thing for him is recognition or self-expression and this is realized, then he is likely to experience happiness. But if the most significant needs regularly remain unsatisfied, then the person is unhappy.
. If we are satisfied with ourselves and adequately evaluate ourselves, then we become more confident and feel inner harmony. If we are not at peace with ourselves, we are constantly engaged in self-digging, then we cannot feel completely happy.
Health. Health problems always affect the feeling of happiness to a greater or lesser extent. Therefore, it is important to be attentive to your condition in order to be able to prevent serious violations in time.

What prevents you from being happy

Unfortunately (or fortunately, excuse the tautology), our own attitudes, beliefs, and thoughts almost always prevent us from being happy.

Creating obstacles. Quite often, we ourselves come up with various difficulties and obstacles on the path to happiness, believing that it does not come easy and we have to pay for everything. It seems that true happiness must be suffered and won... But paradoxically, while we are struggling with imaginary barriers and obstacles, it goes away and we don’t notice it. We don't allow ourselves to be happy. .
The weight of the past. Being happy is often hindered by negative events that have ever happened to us. The experiences associated with them constantly return us to that time, and we become fixated on the problems of the past.

Turn around. It simply cannot be that nothing brings joy and at least for a moment is not a reason for happiness. It consists of little things. You were given a compliment, you successfully completed an important task, your baby smiled at you, you attended an interesting event... Every day we are faced with many reasons to be happy. Our task is to notice them and rejoice.

Listening to the singing of birds, the rustling of grass in the wind and leaves underfoot are useful actions for inner peace and establishing a connection with the world. Enjoy the simplest things. They charge you with positive energy and allow you to be distracted from bad thoughts and feel happier.

Break the vicious circle.

For example, we may feel sad about not achieving what we want. And we don’t achieve it because we sit and don’t take any action (or act in the wrong way), because all our thoughts are occupied with unnecessary worries and looking for someone to blame. And it often seems that this circle cannot be broken. We are all waiting for circumstances to change dramatically or for some great luck to fall on us. The likelihood of this happening is low. And the only way out is in ourselves. You need to break the circle by stopping worrying and starting to act. Any steps and attempts to change the situation or attitude towards life will bring you closer to happiness.

Get carried away.

You should definitely have something you love – something that inspires and energizes you. Creative activities and sports allow you to express yourself and cope with stress. But this can be more than just a hobby. For example, realizing oneself as a mother, a caring wife, and doing household chores also allows one to feel like a truly happy woman at any age: both at 20 and at 40 years old.

Rest and...

If you're exhausted and don't get enough sleep regularly, you're unlikely to feel completely happy. Healthy sleep not only helps to restore strength, but also to put thoughts and feelings in order.

Follow your goals and finish what you start.

The more completed tasks you have in your piggy bank, the freer and more harmonious you will feel. and do not give up on them when you encounter obstacles.

Bring happiness into another person's life.

The more often you do good deeds and please others, the happier you will become. The positive energy from your good deeds will definitely return to you. This is the pattern. Give gifts to others, say nice words, provide support, do charity work. The feeling that you are making a difference in the world helps you understand how you become happy.

Look at the future not with fear, but with hope.

Stick to the principle and constantly remind yourself: “ It's good now, but it will be even better" Make plans and look forward to their implementation. The more actively you can act and implement your plans, the more interesting the future will seem to you.

Have in your arsenal a list of life-affirming phrases that lift your spirits and make you feel happier. For example:
“I am getting better and better at coping with difficulties”
"I like myself"
“There are many pleasant moments in my life,” etc.
Weigh your “I want” and “I’m afraid”.

It is most convenient to write them down on paper in 2 columns. Try to remember as many of your “I want” and “I’m afraid” as possible. It’s good if there are much more of the former than the latter. After all, the energy of desires always inspires us, makes us more confident, and the energy of fears slows down actions, forcing us to abandon our intentions.

How to become a happy wife

When creating a family, a woman always wants to become happy and loved. What helps to achieve this?

It is important to remain feminine, affectionate and attractive. Let your men feel like reliable defenders and knights next to you. This is a powerful incentive for self-realization.
Show care and attention towards your husband. Smile while waiting for him to return from work, ask how his day was, give him the opportunity to fully rest, please him with delicious food.
Support a man's self-esteem: praise him, recognize his achievements and abilities.
Don't be too demanding of your husband, don't control his every move. He needs to feel a certain degree of freedom and independence.
Keep your home cozy and tidy, keep it clean, create comfortable living conditions for your family, and take maximum care of your children. A man is always in a hurry to return to the warmth of his home.
Give your love, strive for physical intimacy, trust and respect him.

How to become a happy mother

For most representatives of the fair sex, the question of how to become a happy woman is equated with the task of becoming a happy mother.

Feel the joy from every contact with your child: when he smiles at you, when you feed him, when you sing a lullaby and watch him fall asleep, when you play with him and just communicate.
Allow yourself to rest and do personal business, because your child needs a lot of your attention and care. You need to restore your strength and recharge with positive energy. Don't forget about getting enough sleep and your hobbies.
Love yourself and show your child confidence. This will allow you to be convinced that “I am a good mother and am doing everything right.”
Be active and emotional while communicating and playing with your baby. The more pleasant emotions you experience with him, the higher your satisfaction with motherhood will be.
Try to trust your child at any age, encourage his initiative and respect his personality. He feels it and will treat you the same.
Rejoice in the development of your child, notice the positive impact of your educational influence.
Show flexibility when raising your baby, listen to his needs and mood.
Attend cultural events with your children more often. Interest is guaranteed for both you and them.
Children develop us and change us for the better. Be open to this experience. There really is a lot to learn from them.

We summarize all of the above in the following lines:

Happiness adorns our lives

Sow its seeds in your soul,

And hurry to give it to others.

All good things will return - believe it!

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Hello, since you came to this page, you probably feel unhappy, or at least not happy enough. Let me tell you how to become a happy woman in 7 days. 7 simple steps will help us with this, after which you will feel happy.

But first, let's think about what happiness is? And what is happiness for you? Why don't you feel happy? The answer is simple: happiness is in your head, and to feel happy, you just need to believe in happiness. A person doesn’t need much to be happy; sometimes a glance, attention, a strong hug, or just a good night’s sleep is enough.

If you want to be happy, be it.

Step 1. Remove all problems to become happier.

The main problem of unhappy people is imaginary problems. Don't treat problems like problems. All your problems are tests, closed doors on your path that you just have to go through. You can go through them in different ways: go around, jump over, pass by, or turn around and go look for another road, climb over, break, burn in the end. But under no circumstances should you stand in front of the door and hope that it will open on its own. Over time, you will end up in a room with many locked doors. If this has already happened, and it seems to you that your situation is hopeless, then still do not despair. I said that doors can be broken, you can dig a tunnel - there is always a way out.

It seems to you that there are a lot of problems. Write down 10 problems on a piece of paper. And cross out 8 of those that are not the most scary and difficult. Think about how to solve the remaining two problems. The problems and fears of most women are similar: dissatisfaction with themselves, loss of loved ones, lack of money, loneliness, uncertainty about the future, the desire to be loved, fatigue.

Don’t dwell on problems, don’t accumulate them, throw them away.

Step 2: Don't think about what's done because you can't change it.

All people who feel unhappy believe that they have many problems. You constantly think about them, try to find solutions, worry, replay past situations. Has it ever happened that you go to bed, but then you remember that today at work in front of everyone you said or did something stupid? You begin to think about what your colleagues thought of you, and what you should have done in this situation. What would have happened if you had done things differently? You begin to delve into yourself and your thoughts, and blame yourself. As a result, you can’t sleep, and the next day you get up as a tired, unhappy person, whose brain didn’t rest all night, but made up problems that actually don’t exist.

One day, a friend of mine told me that she was not happy because she wanted a child, but she and her husband just couldn’t do it. One of the reasons for the failure was her excess weight, which she was warned about at the antenatal clinic. The idea became obsessive, she could not find a place for herself, she began to hate everyone around her, and first of all happy families and children. The result is that she divorced her husband and got two dogs. She became an ardent dog lover - she takes them to exhibitions and receives awards. She has lost weight, but now she no longer wants children. According to her stories, she became happy. And I believe that she is happy, because happiness is in the head.

There could have been another way - it was possible to lose weight, undergo treatment and still give birth to a child. But whether she would be happy is unknown. We live in the same timeline, we can’t change anything. Therefore, you don’t even need to think about what would have happened if things had been different. It’s better to think about what to do now to be happy in the future.

Step 3. Set goals, the implementation of which will make you happier.

Goals must be specific, time-bound, and achievable. For example, if you want to get married, then simply the goal “Get Married” will not give you anything. And for example, “Within a year I want to find a husband, for this I have to look good every day, play sports, communicate a lot in various new companies.” Secondary goals are automatically created, the completion of which will bring you closer to the main goal. An example of a secondary goal: “I should always look good!” To do this, you need to constantly take care of your face and body, and dress well. Another goal may arise: “Make money for all this.” This way a whole tree of goals can be formed. And these are not problems - these are goals, and quite achievable ones.

Perhaps you are already married and have children. But you are still not happy. In this case, your goals may be different. But they definitely should be.

A woman who works on herself, on her happiness, simply has no time to think about the fact that she is unhappy. She always moves forward and knows her goal.

Step 4: Enjoy every moment of your life.

You must learn to be happy right now. There is no need to wait for a miracle and hope that happiness will come sometime later. It won't. It already exists. When you go to work out at the gym, you should have fun. This is not work for results - this is a pleasant pastime with a pleasant bonus in the form of a beautiful body. When you go to a party, your goal is not to find a husband there, but to enjoy the communication. When you do homework with a child, it is not so that he grows up smart and successful, you spend time with him now and should enjoy it.

Enjoy every moment, every second. Be happy now.

Step 5. Don’t solve other people’s problems and don’t try on someone else’s life.

You don’t need to compare yourself to anyone and you don’t need to try to help everyone. You have your own life - build your own house, you don’t need to carry bricks from your neighbor, carry your own, for your own happiness. Don't confuse support and problem solving. If your loved one is in trouble, support him. But there is no point in imposing help.

And don't envy others. Nowadays it is very easy to create an external illusion of happiness - show a few photos from resorts, post a photo with a large bouquet - and it seems that the woman is happy. In reality, everything may be different. Everyone has their own life. One person needs the beach and the sea for relaxation, another needs a tour of the ancient city. One person loves soap operas, another loves science fiction films. We are all different. Some people work in order to have a good rest, while others rest so that they can work well later with renewed vigor.

And never blame anyone for your failures. Remember the wisdom: “A fool blames others, a smart man blames himself, a wise man blames no one!”

Step 6. Don't pay attention to other people's opinions.

Little attention is paid to happy people. Happy people are not interesting for gossip. And, moreover, they often cause hostility due to envy. Therefore, the happier you look, the less envious people will notice you. On the contrary, everyone is trying to help the unfortunate, calm them down, solve their problems, and discuss them. Therefore, a happy person must take it for granted that his happiness is his happiness, which will not always evoke positive emotions in other people. A friend is known in trouble, but he is known even more in joy.

People will not always approve of your actions. If you take care of yourself, many will be skeptical about your endeavors, and maybe even condemn you. This shouldn't stop you from achieving your goal and shouldn't stop you from being happy. People are not jealous because you are happy. They are angry with themselves for not being able to pull themselves together and make their life as happy as yours.

Step 6: Share your happiness.

Smile and always be positive. You must be confident in yourself – self-confidence gives you strength and improves your mood. You may have noticed that when you put on a new outfit, you feel more confident, it seems to you that everyone can see how stylish and beautiful you are. It's hard to feel sad at this moment. Therefore, you should always be a queen so that others feel that royal aura. Show your success, share your goals, share your good mood and smiles with the people around you. Talk less, do more. Don't be afraid to break up with people. Your environment will change, people will come and go – and that’s normal. After all, as you develop, your interests also change.

Step 7: Accept yourself for who you are.

There seems to be a contradiction. On the one hand, we are talking about self-development, changing ourselves for the better. On the other hand, about the fact that you need to love, appreciate, respect yourself for who you are now. And it's true. You need to strive for the best, but everyone needs to love and accept themselves. It doesn’t matter how old you are, what your weight is, your social status – you are the best!

Be yourself and do what you want. If you want to dance, dance; if you want to sing, sing. You have one life, and one timeline - so live it as fully and varied as possible.

Let this article help you change your very attitude towards happiness and life, and by looking at your life in a new way, with happy eyes, you yourself will understand what you need to be happy!

Tell me in the comments, did you manage to be happy? What advice can you give to other girls to become happy?

To become happy, you first need to clearly understand what the word “happiness” means. The soul is harmonious when there is a state of euphoria and joy. There is a powerful surge of sensations that make “butterflies flutter” in the stomach. The range of such feelings sometimes overwhelms you. To reveal the secret and become a happy woman, you need to work hard; happiness rarely comes without effort.

For a woman, happiness usually lies in love, family, and children. In a stable financial situation. For a younger girl, this is first love and the feelings that accompany it. Happiness is the ability to enjoy simple daily events and moments. Happiness is spiritual harmony. This is exactly what every woman should strive for. And only when any pleasant little things respond with spiritual delight will life bring pleasure.

How to find happiness in love

It is important for every woman and girl to find happiness in a partnership. In order for the feeling called love to be born, first of all, both partners must be mature. Maturity is the ability to take some responsibility in relationships and make the right decisions for both women and men. If one partner takes a step forward in "maturity", the relationship is likely to be doomed. This is what most often causes breakups and divorces.

To become a happy partner of a worthy partner, you should constantly improve and develop together, complementing each other.

Happiness in marriage

Finding happiness in marriage requires enormous, ongoing work on both sides. Subjecting this topic to in-depth analysis, many psychologists are inclined to believe that a woman is often at the helm of the family ship. And in which direction she turns the ship, so it will float. These are all colorful metaphors, but there is a considerable amount of truth in them. Only next to a strong and wise companion can a general grow from a soldier.

There are women who are more infantile; they take on the role of the weak link. In such families, partnerships resemble the roles of “daughter” and “father.” If it suits both of you, then everything is fine. But it often happens that over time the “daughter” grows spiritually and develops. And this game comes to an end.

To become happy in a partnership, you should initially be on the same page with a man, only in this case mutual growth will lead both to full realization in the family.

Is happiness possible after divorce?

Many people wonder how a woman can become happy after a divorce and whether this is possible in principle. Of course yes! For many, breaking up with a former partner is like death, and the experience drags on and is exhausting. Before this, there is often a series of family scandals that last for more than one month, or even more than one year. After this, the “abscess” bursts, and an inevitable rupture occurs.

For the first weeks and months, it will seem like life is over. It is very difficult to adapt to the new status of “divorced”; the duration of rehabilitation is different for everyone. In order to gain self-confidence after everything, you should first analyze the reason for the divorce and regard it as an invaluable experience for yourself. Even the fact that it was unsuccessful does not detract from its importance.

You should take a course towards changing your own life and transforming your own personality. Life doesn't just throw challenges at you. Before you start looking for new love, psychologists advise taking a time out and trying to restore your lost balance. If possible, a short trip with a friend to the sea or to another country can be the refreshing breath you need at a difficult stage in life.

After the soul has begun to regain its lost balance, it is necessary to develop a new plan. To become happy and feel joy in life, a woman must first take off the “victim” mask. Days filled with meeting interesting people, visiting fashion exhibitions, theater, cinema will bring a lot of positive things. And sooner or later a new meeting will happen. The main thing is not to rush. A woman with experience knows what she really needs to find happiness.

Happiness and loneliness

There are situations in life that are truly tragic. The woman pulled out a lucky ticket: a wonderful partner, family, prosperity. And suddenly everything collapses. The husband didn’t leave for someone else, didn’t cheat – he simply doesn’t exist anymore. The death of a loved one is grief. Is it possible to become happy later in this case? How to survive what seems almost impossible to survive?

When the second half is gone, at first it feels as if the air has been cut off. How to survive and what to do? If a woman is no longer young, after the death of a loved one with whom she lived for many decades, a long recovery period for the soul and heart is inevitable.

At an appointment with a psychologist, the same questions are often asked. Will the mental pain go away and when? Is it possible to feel joy and happiness like before? Those who have experienced this answer that the feeling of joy from life will definitely return, but later.

The process may take several years - this must be understood. The longer the couple was together, the longer it will take to adapt to life alone.

Important: Becoming happy means enjoying the little things. No one can take away the happiness of communicating with children and grandchildren. Many people start drawing or find another interesting hobby. The main thing is to avoid seclusion, this is the worst thing you can think of. Communication with people is a new energy that nourishes and inspires. Time will pass, and the feeling of happiness of being will return again.

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Secrets of finding happiness

In fact, these are not secrets. It is quite possible that subconsciously, every woman knows all this. The recommendations are simple:

An important stage is getting rid of negativity. We need to find acceptable ways to release it without harming anyone. Taking it out on loved ones, friends, or in line at the store is not the best solution. A good alternative is a morning or evening jog, a walk in the park, or a heart-to-heart talk with a close friend.
Positive thinking. There is no need to constantly engage in “mental chewing gum” about the fact that there is no happiness or it has passed by. You should look to the future with interest and a positive attitude.
To find happiness and interest in life, you should set goals for yourself. Let them not be on a global scale. But after achieving them, the feeling of delight in the soul will bring a lot of pleasant emotions.
Nowadays it is fashionable to engage not only in sports, but also in various spiritual practices. Yoga and meditation are a great way to relax, relieve accumulated stress and irritability.
Walking in the park or in the forest will bring many benefits. Unity with nature, clean air will lift your spirits and give you a new energy boost. Admiring natural landscapes inspires and instills harmony in the soul.
We need to hug more often. Tactile sensations are very important. It would be useful to hug your grandmother or mother, daughter or nephew, or friend. You can have a pet if possible. A dog or cat is a loyal friend who will keep you company on a walk and greet you with joy after a hard day at work.
You should make new friends and travel a lot. If it is not possible to travel to another country, a neighboring city will do. Surely there are many attractions there that will be interesting to visit. Yes, even your own city, district, region. It may very well be that during all this time there was no opportunity to visit the picturesque valley that everyone is talking about, or the mountain river nearby.
Spend more time with loved ones and loved ones. This is what is truly priceless and brings spiritual fulfillment and joy.
Despite everything (all psychologists advise), you should try to start your day with a smile. You should conduct an experiment and try to smile throughout the day. People are drawn to happy people and are trusted more. Because of a simple smile, the body itself will begin to tune in positively, and the production of serotonin will start - the hormone of happiness.

Advice: It is important to avoid excessive immersion in social networks. Virtual life is addictive and contributes to the development of stress and depression. You need to strive for real life and get joy from it.

Features and secrets of a happy life after 40 years

These numbers scare some people. In fact, this is the golden time. During this period, a woman can look back and analyze her journey. She has many meetings with interesting people and events in which she was a participant. The path that has been traveled is a powerful resource that helps you move on with dignity.

But not all women manage to pass the forty-year mark easily. This period is a kind of crisis transition period. There is often a lack of love and happiness, and a revaluation of values occurs. The soul is not always calm, you have to seek agreement with it.

Simple actions performed daily and desires that previously could not be realized will help you regain harmony and forget about age:

Some women have a desire, for example, to go to a dance studio, but there are complexes. You should get rid of them and boldly do what you feel the need for.
You need to clearly understand that the baggage left behind does not drag you down, but gives you confidence. A woman of 40 is like expensive wine.
Finding happiness at this age often makes it difficult to accept yourself as you are. But this is the age of wisdom, so one should gain freedom through acceptance.
To become happy and maintain self-confidence, you need to understand that independence comes at this age. You can enjoy what you want, savoring every new moment in your life.

It is important to understand that it is at this age that beauty flourishes. Along with external attractiveness, there is experience and wisdom, which was so lacking in youth.

How to live a full life after 50

Some people think that happiness after 50 is no longer the most important thing; retirement and raising grandchildren are ahead. This is a great misconception.

A woman at 50 leads a full life: she also falls in love, if she is not married, she also goes to the gym and travels. After fifty, you can finally start enjoying life: the children have grown up.

At this age, beauty is formed under the influence of positive internal energy. Contrary to expectations, older women are often more satisfied with their appearance than in their youth.

This is the age when a woman can feel happy from little things. She is wise, she has come to understand that happiness is a set of pleasant daily moments that were not previously valued and were not given importance. Morning coffee from your favorite cup, your favorite book waiting on the nightstand - all this creates a happy life.

One must not, of course, forget that a certain restructuring of the body is taking place and psychologically not everyone copes with this easily. But this is not a disease, and no one forbids being happy. A woman should take care of herself even more carefully than before. Sports are very useful: a light jog or a long walk in the park. Nowadays, a woman of 50 can look no worse than a thirty-year-old. And her life can be no less eventful.

50 years is a precious time when happy moments are especially keenly felt and bring greater satisfaction. You need to grow up beautifully, and this applies not only to appearance, but also to the soul. The maturation of the soul gives extraordinary wisdom. And what could be more beautiful than a wise and attractive woman?

Mistakes in the search for happiness

Many women make the mistake of thinking that happiness must come from outside, that it lies in finding a husband, acquiring a beautiful home, and wealth. The second mistake is that a woman wants to acquire happiness through the above. These are just attributes.

If you are guided by such approaches, you will not find happiness. Happiness is an exclusively internal state. And we need to work on this.

Important rule: It is not external attributes that generate happiness, but an internal state that fills external attributes with meaning.

Happiness is not only a desirable, but also an achievable ideal. You should have a positive mindset and perceive the world as it is. We must remember that life is diverse. Every woman is capable of finding happiness; this is one of her main purposes.

To achieve harmony with your own body, find well-being and inner comfort, you need to pour your energy into a positive direction. Many modern women, due to various circumstances, cannot feel happy. It doesn't matter whether they are married or single. Let's look at psychological techniques that will help you become 100% confident and happy.

Learn to relax

During non-working hours, try not to overload yourself with service-related activities. Acquire the ability to relax, there is no need to conduct abstruse conversations, abstract from problems. Women who are constantly busy cannot be happy. They simply do not find time to rest, thinking about world problems. At least once a week, allow yourself to relax.
Don't hesitate to ask for help when you really need it. Transfer some responsibilities to other household members. Send your husband to buy groceries, and assign the children to clean the apartment. As a last resort, involve your mother-in-law or mother. You don't have to do everything yourself.
Allow yourself to visit the massage room. The specialist will relieve tension, you will feel much better. Women are gentle creatures; they constantly need to be stroked, kneaded, and relaxed so that the energy of life is distributed evenly. Massage does the job perfectly. If it is not possible to visit a massage therapist, master the technique yourself with your significant other.
You can relax in other ways. Take a fragrant herbal bath with essential oils. This therapy dispels all negative thoughts, and you will leave rested and full of new achievements. It is useful to lie in the bath for those who cannot sleep or are often stressed for various reasons.
Spending time near the water will help you get into a positive mood. Rolling waves or a light prize calms you down. You will think about everyday little things, find harmony with yourself at least for a while, and feel sexy and desirable. A woman simply needs privacy to be happy.

Communicate

Do not deny yourself meetings with friends, find time for those who are dear to you. It is necessary to occasionally have women's conversations, talk about children, fashion trends. This therapy acts as a kind of energy exchange, but you just need to communicate with positive people.
Try to limit meetings with those who constantly complain and carry only negativity. Otherwise, after a while you will become the same, dejected and dissatisfied with life. To become a truly happy person, you need to sort your environment.
Feel free to make new acquaintances with good people. Keep in touch with relatives, school and college friends. Sometimes old friends become a new source of inspiration.
It is important to cross paths with wiser, more experienced and older women. They will provide you with the necessary knowledge, give practical advice, and push you to find harmony with yourself. We are talking about a great-grandmother, grandmother, mother or a qualified psychologist (woman).

Rest mentally

Dance to your favorite music while doing household chores or standing in front of the mirror. Rhythmic movements lift your spirits, encourage you to new achievements and impart happiness.
Listen to fun music that you like every day. Sing along, learn the words, smile and relax. Such simple actions will allow you to have a good mental rest.
Read books, develop yourself, never stand still. Enrich your vocabulary and expand your horizons constantly. In addition to self-improvement, you will rest your soul and temporarily immerse yourself in a parallel reality.
Go to the cinema or watch your favorite films at home. Avoid TV shows that make you sad. Do not compare yourself with the main character, so as not to confuse your fantasies with real life. Watch romantic stories, women need them for complete happiness.

Take care of yourself

Give up bad habits, they make a person lethargic, apathetic, and dissatisfied. Lead a healthy lifestyle, do not drink alcohol, give up cigarettes, start going to the gym and drink more water.
Establish a work and rest schedule, sleep at the allotted time, wake up earlier. This way you will replenish your reserve of strength and energy for new achievements. Be sure to watch your speech; there is no need for swear words or expressions unusual for a woman.
Spend more time outdoors; walking makes a person happy and carefree. Isn't this what you need? Being in harmony with yourself, as well as with nature, is relaxing. Spending time in the fresh air improves overall well-being and allows you to look at the world differently.
Try yoga, Pilates or gymnastics to feel better about your body. A woman simply needs this. Along with endurance, strength and flexibility, you will also become tender and sensual. After a few sessions you will feel happier.
Recent studies have proven that perfume directly affects the psycho-emotional background of beautiful ladies. That is, if the perfume matches the type, it will make a person happy. And on the contrary, if eau de toilette is not combined with the general condition, it will begin to depress. Conclusion: choose a perfume that is ideal for you, subtle, and not annoying.
Sometimes, to be happy, you need to change your image partially or completely. Visit a hairdresser, dye your hair and get a different haircut. Instead of natural nails, choose artificial ones, or vice versa. Review your makeup, stop wearing makeup like you did in school, take a makeup course.
Make it a habit to exercise every day. You don’t have to overload yourself, do gymnastics in the morning, pump up your abs, do squats, do hula hoops. When a woman is happy with her body, she becomes much happier.

Look for something new

Find something to do that you will devote most of your time to. Perhaps acting courses, mountaineering, a music school or photography courses are suitable for you. Choose something that will make your soul sing and make you happy.
Study other cultures, read more history books, delve into philosophy or psychology. Always improve your knowledge level. After all, while you stand still, others take a step forward, leaving you behind.
Flowers or animals make many women happy. Try your hand at floristry and learn how to make beautiful bouquets. When working with plants, joy hormones are produced that will make you better. If you don’t feel like it, get a pet, it will definitely make you happy!
Handicraft allows you to relax and concentrate on the main thing. Therefore, take courses in cutting and sewing, beading, modeling, pottery, knitting, etc. From all the variety of activities, you will find an option that will give you happiness and peace.

Do good

Pay due attention to your children and your own appearance. Communicate more. If you have a child, he will help you open up in a new way. Believe me, natural instincts will take their toll. Play various games with your children, teach them to draw and sculpt various figures from plasticine. Happiness will come and will not keep you waiting long.
Try to help your loved ones as much as you can. Never refuse requests. Such actions are considered the most powerful weapon in achieving happiness. Soon you will gain confidence and your well-being will improve significantly. It is also worth contacting your loved ones with a request if you need help.

Get rid of excess clutter

Start with the simplest things. Go through your things; only the necessary clothes that you actually wear should remain in your closet. Don't put off what you're supposed to wear later. This won’t happen, don’t wear it now, nothing will change in the future.
After sorting your personal wardrobe, start cleaning out your entire home. Get rid of junk and old attributes. Such things have been lying around for too long, and you won’t use them in the future either. After this, it is necessary to carry out emotional cleansing.

Improve yourself

To achieve harmony with yourself and become truly happy, you need to develop spiritually. Go to museums, art galleries and all kinds of exhibitions more often. Such hikes will charge you with special energy and atmosphere. Beautiful things will make you more attractive and interesting.
Try to find yourself a life mentor. Interesting books and instructive films can play this role. You can also turn to wise friends and teachers for help. Find someone you admire.
Immerse yourself in poetry. Read more exciting works and poems. This procedure will balance the internal state. Well-read women are happy, smart and attractive. As a result, you will be able to speak beautifully and think differently.
Life will sparkle with new colors when you learn to appreciate what you have. You should be grateful for those around you. At first, everything seems very difficult, but after this you will truly become happier.

Set goals

Think clearly about what you want. Take some time to think about what you want most from life. This question is especially relevant for personal relationships. Put your thoughts and innermost desires on paper. Read your posts regularly and remind yourself of what you really want.
As a result, all dreams come true, you just have to be patient a little. Talk to yourself about what you want, what you need. Once you control yourself and find harmony, happiness will follow on its own. All good things come gradually, there is no need to overexert yourself.
You can start a personal diary in which you will express all your thoughts. Spit out your emotions on paper. Desires, goals and fears, everything should be present in the diary. Once you're done, re-read your thoughts and do some deep analysis. Think about how you can improve your life.
Make it a habit to finish everything to the end, complete your planned tasks. It’s worth getting into the habit of living according to a schedule and a new daily routine. Clearly distinguish between business and personal responsibilities. Try to keep up with everything. As a result, you will gain unshakable confidence, calmness, and poise.

Double your energy

Work on your speech if necessary. Your voice should radiate affection and melody. Pay attention to the conversation and control intonation and timbre. Communicate with everyone gently and kindly. This rule especially applies to dialogue with the opposite sex. You will soon notice that your energy will increase significantly.
Sometimes you need to bend a little. This rule is relevant in various meaningless disputes. Step back, be smart, stay balanced and calm. Don't put yourself in a negative light. Don't show your worst side in anger and rage. A powerful woman is not attractive in any way.
Try to be special and innovate in intimate relationships. As a result, you will be happy and joyful sexually with your loved one. If you waste your money, you will soon become empty and lose your vitality. Don't let yourself be used. Find a worthy companion. Maintain cleanliness in your home, your own body and clothing. Take care of yourself and increase your female attractiveness.

It is important to understand that everyone has their own happiness. You cannot, with the wave of a magic wand, turn from a dejected sad lady into a cheerful person. You need to constantly work on yourself, try new ways to find harmony with your own body and soul.